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Need a hand hold part 4

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Imbluedalale · 05/12/2024 17:02

Hi spoonies .
Welcome to season 4 xxx

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Apolloneuro · 08/12/2024 21:08

Evening my loves. Laura - you’re a published author!

Thinking of you tomorrow xxxxxx

Imbluedalale · 08/12/2024 21:31

Apolloneuro · 08/12/2024 21:08

Evening my loves. Laura - you’re a published author!

Thinking of you tomorrow xxxxxx

Evening @Apolloneuro , how are you this evening?
Oh so I am 🤣it’s a good job they didn’t want a pic of me to go with it though 🤣.
Thank you lovely 🥰 xx

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Apolloneuro · 08/12/2024 21:35

Imbluedalale · 08/12/2024 21:31

Evening @Apolloneuro , how are you this evening?
Oh so I am 🤣it’s a good job they didn’t want a pic of me to go with it though 🤣.
Thank you lovely 🥰 xx

I’m tired babes. Going to have a shower and an early night. The baby grandchild we look after on Monday is poorly, so we’re getting all our jobs done in anticipation of doing lots of cuddling tomorrow. Xx

Imbluedalale · 08/12/2024 21:44

Apolloneuro · 08/12/2024 21:35

I’m tired babes. Going to have a shower and an early night. The baby grandchild we look after on Monday is poorly, so we’re getting all our jobs done in anticipation of doing lots of cuddling tomorrow. Xx

Awww bless you , I hope you manage to rest well. Sorry to hear your grandchild is poorly. Cuddles are the best though so I hope you enjoy.
I’ve just had a bath and shaved my legs so they don’t think I’m half human /half gorilla tomorrow xx

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BeNavyCrab · 08/12/2024 21:46

Imbluedalale · 08/12/2024 19:02

Hi @BeNavyCrab , how’s your day been? Good I hope. I hope you managed to keep warm and cosy and that the wing didn’t cause too much hassle. It’s stopped here now thankfully, it stopped around lunchtime.
I’m feeling a little rubbish today , it’s been one of those days where you just want to get back into bed and curl up until tomorrow. I think a combination of missing kids , being due on and feeling exhausted all the time doesn’t help. But I will be ok.
I don’t want my parents to know I’m feeling upset because I don’t want to cause my mum any more stress or make her poorly again so I’m just trying to ride it out . It’s a bad day not a bad life .
Knives are scary aren’t they I’ve definitely learnt my lesson now. It’s stopped bleeding now but is sore. I’m glad your daughter was ok and wasn’t too badly hurt. Mum guilt is awful isn’t it .
Sending you big hugs xx

I've had a bit of a quiet day. Mostly because I have just got too tired over the last few days. I heard my husband getting ready to serve dinner last night and then the next thing I knew was waking up startled with him looking at me in the doorway to the cabin. He had my dinner with him and had been popping his head in twice previously asking if I was awake. I ate the lovely dinner and then must have dropped off again because when I woke up and asked if there was pudding, he said he'd asked me three times. He'd also turned the coffee machine on and made one, which is really loud in a small space and normally wakes me up. This morning he went for a run with friends but prior to leaving made me my breakfast shake and passed it in. I'd obviously been conscious enough to take it and put it behind my pillow but I didn't wake up till midday and hadn't had any of it. I think that the combination of the wind noise and maybe pushing myself a bit too hard physically crafting, which makes it hard to manage my pain levels, is all just catching up with me. So I listened to my body and rested. Had a lovely talk with my daughter, who's exam went better than she was worried it would.
My husband made us another nice dinner with the leftovers of the Moroccan chicken dish from last night and followed it by cherries and greek yoghurt. Lidl has a great range of frozen fruit and it's tasty.

@Imbluedalale Sorry to hear that you are having a bit of a "meh" day but you are right, it's one day not a whole life. It's also understandable that you are feeling anxious about your operation and feeling alone. I know it's not the same as having someone physically with you but we are all going to be there in spirit with you. The naughty side of my brain wonders if the ambulance driver has put the sign up for his talkative paramedic partner. Like a "Please don't talk so much, you're making me deaf!" 😂😂

Really sorry to hear about your friend having a relapse and being back in hospital. It's unsettling when you think someone is doing ok and then find out that they aren't and brings up lots of feelings in yourself doesn't it?Maybe it was just too much too soon to be out. I guess the important thing is that at least he's made it to hospital, so he'll have people to make sure he's ok.

@Munchyseeds2
Your dining experiences sound lush. I'm partial to both a baked camembert and duck. My husband is one of those people who can eat his bodyweight in food and never gain an ounce. Meanwhile I have a continuous battle with weight and look like a side of a house, so I can empathise with the worry about putting on weight, especially when I can't exercise. It's important to have some things you enjoy too though and I'm sure a couple of meals out won't hurt in the overall scheme of things.

@spoonfulofmustard I hope your plants survived their unexpected relocation. My sister in law just sent a picture of their rather large tree that's been blown over into next door's garden. It missed the house and nobody was hurt but it must have been a big shock and going to take a fair bit of work to remove it.

@nornironlady It's great to have big plans and I've seen people making some really nice things with wicker. You're going to have fun experimenting and creating.

Nottogetapenny · 09/12/2024 07:04

Hi Laura, Good morning spoonies!
Hope your op good well, and the outcome is so much better.
We are all thinking of you, sending our good wishes for a super quick recovery!

Take care and just rest, when you get home. 😘🌺

RaspberryBeretxx · 09/12/2024 07:44

Good luck today for your op Laura 🤗💐. We are all with you in spirit.

sorry you had a down day yesterday and I’m also so sorry to hear you’re just getting one word texts from your youngest. Remember, it just means your ex and ex MIL are being controlling, it isn’t indicative of his true feelings.

Thats really sad that the man from the home has had a breakdown again. Wishing him all the get well vibes too 💕.

Sending loads of love and hugs and hope you have a lovely friendly ambulance driver.

Also morning all the spoonies 👋. I was a bit absent yesterday as PIL came over. They’re lovely people but I found hosting alone a bit draining 🤦🏻‍♀️. Dd had a nice time although did ask me loudly “when are they going home?” at the end as I’d told her she could have a bit of tv after they left 🙈.

nornironlady · 09/12/2024 07:50

Good morning Spoonies. I wanted to check in here and say good luck to you @Imbluedalale
I can't believe you were picked up at the crack of dawn but hopefully that means you will be home again before you know it.
Sending you love and hugs - I will be thinking of you today and I'm going to light a candle for you now x

Giraffe888 · 09/12/2024 10:22

Thinking of you today @Imbluedalale and sending lots of love xxxx

AdmittowearingCrocs · 09/12/2024 19:28

Hoping all went well today with your op Laura? Have been thinking of you throughout the day. Sending gentle recovery hugs 🤗🤗

Munchyseeds2 · 09/12/2024 21:29

Hi Laura
Hope it went OK today and that you are not too sore lovely xxx

Imbluedalale · 09/12/2024 22:00

Hi all , I hope you’re all ok today.
Just wanted to let you all know I’m ok and back home. Feeling very groggy and sore but I’m ok. I’m going to lounge on the couch with a cup of tea.
Thank you for all your lovely messages and thoughts of me . They truly mean a lot xxxx

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RaspberryBeretxx · 09/12/2024 22:08

So glad you’re ok and back home. Sending very gentle hugs and lots of get well wishes 💐💕💕. Hope you get a good nights sleep. Xx

Apolloneuro · 09/12/2024 22:16

Been thinking about you and checking on here. Hope you manage some sleep xxx

Nottogetapenny · 09/12/2024 22:16

We’ve all been thinking of you today. Sorry you are still feeling groggy and sore.
Hope you feel much better tomorrow, being home and after a good nights sleep in your own bed.
Sending the very best wishes and we will keep you in our thoughts. 🌺😘

Imbluedalale · 10/12/2024 06:50

Morning spoonies , I hope you are all ok today. Sorry I wasn’t very talkative yesterday I was abit out of it when I got home. I managed a few hours sleep but woke up to find I’d bled through my bandages and so had to put bedding in wash at 5am this morning and repad myself back up on my leg. I wasn’t able to get dissolvable stitches in the end so I have to get my stitches removed on Christmas Eve . Feeling abit meh today as my children didn’t text me yesterday apart from a text off my daughter saying she can’t stay tonight as she’s going to cinemas. I know it’s not my kids responsibility to look after me and I don’t expect them to but a text would have been nice to wish me good luck . I think going to hospital on my own and having op and coming back to an empty home hit me abit. You know those days when you just need a cuddle? Today is one of those days.
Anyway there’s far more people going through a rougher time than me . I was reading a devastating thread on here yesterday about a woman who’s 38 weeks pregnant and her whole world has been turned upside down and another thread where the woman has been with her partner for a year and he’s been hurting her badly.
My positive posters for my bedroom came yesterday one says ‘there is always a reason to smile, find it’ and the other one which makes me think of all you spoonies says ‘a wise woman once said , fuck this shit and she lived happily ever after’. I will get frames for them in January and put them up.
I hope you all have a lovely day, sending big hugs xxxx

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Munchyseeds2 · 10/12/2024 07:09

Morning
If I could give you a hug I would lovely xx
Take it easy today, rest and keep warm
Tomorrow will be better xxx

Imbluedalale · 10/12/2024 07:14

Munchyseeds2 · 10/12/2024 07:09

Morning
If I could give you a hug I would lovely xx
Take it easy today, rest and keep warm
Tomorrow will be better xxx

Good morning @Munchyseeds2 , are you ok?
Thank you for the spirit hug it’s very welcomed and I appreciate it alot . I’m going to watch that new Christmas film on Netflix today that everybody is raving about xx

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nornironlady · 10/12/2024 07:24

Good morning Spoonies!
@Imbluedalale I totally understand your feelings around your family, it's nice to be thought of is all. Try and take it easy and let thing heal.
I also read those threads you have mentioned, the pregnant lady kicking her ex to kerb via the BIL was great! Shocking story though.
My partner brought home a flu yesterday morning, he was banished to the backroom and hasn't left it in 24hrs which isn't like him at all so it's bad. I've woken this morning with the chill right into my bones and generally feeling a bit heavy in the head. I've logged on for work but if this continues I will be taking myself back to bed and the electric blanket. I can't face a day in front of a screen as it's already hurting my eyes. I've had some Paracetamol and water with ginger and lemon so here's hoping it helps.
Wishing you all a good nowhere Tuesday!!

Imbluedalale · 10/12/2024 07:54

nornironlady · 10/12/2024 07:24

Good morning Spoonies!
@Imbluedalale I totally understand your feelings around your family, it's nice to be thought of is all. Try and take it easy and let thing heal.
I also read those threads you have mentioned, the pregnant lady kicking her ex to kerb via the BIL was great! Shocking story though.
My partner brought home a flu yesterday morning, he was banished to the backroom and hasn't left it in 24hrs which isn't like him at all so it's bad. I've woken this morning with the chill right into my bones and generally feeling a bit heavy in the head. I've logged on for work but if this continues I will be taking myself back to bed and the electric blanket. I can't face a day in front of a screen as it's already hurting my eyes. I've had some Paracetamol and water with ginger and lemon so here's hoping it helps.
Wishing you all a good nowhere Tuesday!!

Good morning @nornironlady , happy pointless day.
Sorry to hear you’re not feeling well and your partner has flute. Sending you big hugs.
There seems to be so much illness around at the moment I know it’s winter but it seems a lot. You need to both get some potato skins in your socks . They will turn black after a few hours (the skins not your feet) as they will have soaked up all the toxins.
I feel so sorry for the pregnant lady but she seems to have an amazing supportive family around her. What a pos her husband is . I will be manifesting piles for him too xx

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Nottogetapenny · 10/12/2024 08:20

Good Morning, Laura and Spoonies. A big cuddle from me 🤗 Laura. It must be upsetting not to get texts from your children , but it probably that like a lot of young ones, they just don’t think!
Hope your leg feels a little more comfortable today and isn’t quite as sore as yesterday.
But it must of been a bit of a worry when you saw the blood on your sheets, then having to wash all the bedding is something you could of done without!

I too read those other threads, how awful for them, but you know how shit some partners can be!

I’m fine, just going to clean my house today, as it badly needs it! And so untidy, after my grandchildren have been there is stuff everywhere.

Hope you can relax, watching tv and enjoying a few cups of tea. 😘🌺

Apolloneuro · 10/12/2024 09:30

What film is that @Imbluedalale? I’m in the mood for a Christmas movie.

Imbluedalale · 10/12/2024 09:57

Apolloneuro · 10/12/2024 09:30

What film is that @Imbluedalale? I’m in the mood for a Christmas movie.

Morning @Apolloneuro , it’s called ‘that Christmas’ apparently it’s amazing and it’s the new no1 Christmas film xx

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Imbluedalale · 10/12/2024 10:08

Nottogetapenny · 10/12/2024 08:20

Good Morning, Laura and Spoonies. A big cuddle from me 🤗 Laura. It must be upsetting not to get texts from your children , but it probably that like a lot of young ones, they just don’t think!
Hope your leg feels a little more comfortable today and isn’t quite as sore as yesterday.
But it must of been a bit of a worry when you saw the blood on your sheets, then having to wash all the bedding is something you could of done without!

I too read those other threads, how awful for them, but you know how shit some partners can be!

I’m fine, just going to clean my house today, as it badly needs it! And so untidy, after my grandchildren have been there is stuff everywhere.

Hope you can relax, watching tv and enjoying a few cups of tea. 😘🌺

Good morning @Nottogetapenny , thank you so much for the cuddle they are always appreciated but more so today. I’ve dragged my fluffy duvet downstairs to lounge on sofa all day. I’ve just received a message from my doctors saying they want to see me urgently re my swollen throat but I’m going to leave it a few days as I’m so tired of hospitals and appointments. I just need a few days break.
My leg feels sore today but manageable with painkillers .
Those threads are awful aren’t they , my heart broke for the pregnant lady. The more I read on MN the more I’m going to stay single for life. I might get a dog or a cat when I get better.
I always find having music on helps me when I’m cleaning . Omg I have found the absolute most amazing disinfectant spray that smells amazing and the smell lasts too I’m obsessed with it . You know I like my smellies.
My sister has just had her grandchildren over from Spain and her granddaughter Milaya who’s 3 can understand English but she just talks in Spanish she’s sounds so cute. They have gone back to Spain today and my sister said her house looks like a bomb has gone off 😂.
I hope you have a lovely day xxxx

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RaspberryBeretxx · 10/12/2024 10:46

Hi spoonies, hope everyone is OK.

Sorry about your leg and early bed change, Laura. That's stressful. I'm glad it doesn't hurt too much, keep taking painkillers. Sending a big cuddle, I'm sorry you didn't get much back from your children yesterday. They can be so loving but so wrapped up in their own world at times (let along with your ex talking shit to them). They'll come around, I know it but I get it's so so hard in the meantime. Lots of hugs and enjoy the netflix film. Which one is it?

I'm just getting ready for my usual Tuesday coffee meeting!

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