Need a hand hold part 4

[Imbluedalale]

Hi spoonies .
Welcome to season 4 xxx

Your poor boy, I feel so sad for him to be so distressed. There's so many positives in finding a way of learning that suits the child. If it weren't for my disability we intended to educate our kids ourselves and met up with a number of people who were doing it and they were all happy well adjusted and enjoyed it.

It's the real strength of being able to follow their interests and it's much more of a collaboration rather than something that's imposed on them. There's ways to do "lessons" by real world experience, such as grocery shopping and having to keep a running total or working out which deal is better per kilo, so it doesn't feel anything like a maths lesson.
Ours still remember the time they were each given £15 and given free reign to buy whatever they wanted but it had to feed everyone in the family for the day. It challenged their maths, reading recipes, cooking and learning about nutrition. Of course the thing they most remember is the freedom to do what they wanted and make whatever, as well as being in charge of what everyone ate. There's four years difference in age, so one was more aware of how much ingredients and more prudent than the other. The youngest learned that pick and mix isn't the most filling of breakfast choices and an individual pork pie doesn't feed 4 people but it's all learning.

As we were sailing around the world, I did all my education from the end of primary school by correspondence school. There were plenty of challenges but most of those were more to do with getting the marked work back or coping with seasickness, standing watch etc at the same time as learning. I really did like learning at my pace and the flexibility of choosing which subjects when. I would have enjoyed more contact with kids my own age but that wasn't possible. On the flip side, I think it made me grow up knowing how to relate to adults and people who were different to myself.
@CookiePookie It's brilliant advice and great to hear from someone who is educating outside of the traditional school system. It always annoys me that no matter how well you educate at home, the best you can achieve is a "satisfactory" rating from the inspections, even if it's a better standard than a school who Ofsted rates as "good". It seems unfair to me.

Eek, I had a day out with my parents and dd and opened the thread to see 51 unread messages 😳🤣.

@Imbluedalale sorry to hear your eldest is down and that his gf probably won’t forgive him. It could end up being a good thing that he will really think before cheating again. Although a lot of people do make a mistake at 19, he’s only young. I’m glad he has learnt on you a bit during this time. Is it tomorrow you have your doctors appointment? If so sending you lots of luck and strength for that 💕.

I love that there’s a few northerners in the Sheffield area! Would love to see some coffee and cake pics when you do meet up. I was on a dating thread on here many moons ago and we had a group meet up and a few smaller meets and one of them is now a really close friend and we do an annual holiday with dc 😍.

sorry for your poor DS @nornironlady , it must have been really stressful for him. Sounds like that’s such a good plan to homeschool for a while and just take the pressure off.

Hope you’re having a good day @Apolloneuro . Do you think you’ll set up the WA group? Or I can if we are now all on board?

hello everyone else! Dd is home so I better go and parent 🤪😆

I think you set it up, if that’s ok, as then I can delete my account, whereas you’ll be here to welcome any latecomers. I’ll send you my number and name.

I'm going to give being disciplined with how much time I spend on here a good try first. I’ve been pretty good today.

Great, that’s fine with me @Apolloneuro . Anyone who would like to join if you pm me your number I’ll set it up probs not tonight but should have some time tomorrow. 💕 🥄🥄.

@BeNavyCrab thank you these are also excellent suggestions. I am in no way a teacher so I won't be putting pressure on either of us but the goal is to scrape by until high school as academically he isn't behind but I want to keep it that way if I can. He did tell me I could forget about the home schooling in the throws of his meltdown but I hope he doesn't remember come Jan 😂
@RaspberryBeretxx it would be great if you could take charge of the WA group.
I will also send my info.

When we’re on WhatsApp @nornironlady i can give you a bit of advice about potential academic work. Tutoring ks2 is my bread and butter. There’s loads of things out there to use.

Yep, send me details 😁.

🤞🤞 on your son engaging with the home schooling. I joined some fb homeschooling groups due to my job and found it really interesting. I loved how some of the parents would just let the child choose an interest and use it to teach maths, English, science etc through the completion of a project eg cake making for maths (area, volume, multiplication etc) and, say, a project on the rainforest to teach science, geography, English (spelling/grammar for the write up) etc.

Hi Laura, I've not posted since your last thread I don't think. Had a difficult few weeks my mother in law passed away on 25th November and we had her funeral on Friday but I've just caught up on your posts and your house is looking stunning. I'm sorry to hear about your op and the health news and glad you have recovered from the op. Positive mind set all the way, youve got this.

I've got three children that are almost 12, 15 and 20 in a couple of weeks the girls are the oldest and they can be so selfish, moody and generally quite unpleasant. We barely see my eldest, she stays at home a couple of times a week and then at friend's, boyfriends, my dad's. My youngest that's about to turn 12 can also be very one word answers about things, so please don't think your children are being the way they are due to being a bad mum. They just sound like they are in the grips of teen years and being normal teens. I've read they do start to pull away from parents in their teens as they gain new found independence and then come back early 20s. You're eldest upping his communication and turning to you in crisis shows your a great mum to them ❤️

Right gang. Before I go (if I decide to) @Malbecfan I’ll pm you my number, for our meet.

Also, I hope nobody takes offence, but when we have the WhatsApp, do people agree that maybe only posting no more than once or twice a day seems sensible?

On here, it’s easier to ignore or choose not to pop on whereas on your phone, the notifications could really add up. I’m thinking of people who want to dip in and out a bit finding there’s 450 unread messages or something 😀

There’s absolutely nothing to stop smaller groups splintering off to discuss particular things, of course.

Equally there would be no expectation that people post regularly at all.

Hope that’s ok with people. Xxx

Hi @BeNavyCrab , how are you today?Sorry for the very late reply I’ve been consoling my eldest two today. My son has been on the phone all day upset and my daughter hasn’t been feeling well.
Im going to keep everything crossed for you that your scan results come back ok. 🤞🤞🤞🤞
Ohhh I love a nice tiffin , I’m glad you enjoyed it.
I don’t know your daughter but I feel so so proud of her that she managed an 8 hour journey on her own. That’s very impressive.
I totally agree with there being some very negative posts on some threads, I’ve been lucky in that sense because everyone on here has been so lovely and supportive.
Re ex I realise now that I wasn’t enough for him and I could have never been enough no matter what I did. He always seemed to be happier when I was at my least sad. I would go as far to say that he had a spring in his step whenever I was down. I hate that everytime I sleep lately he’s filling up my dreams.
My son is really struggling with what he’s done he sent her a card saying sorry and he’s sending her mum a bunch of flowers to say ‘sorry for hurting your daughter’ so he’s already not like my ex. I never got a sorry for all the times he hurt me and cheated . All I got was he cheated because he thought that my sister would go away once he slept with her and another time that he wanted to make sure he still wanted to be with me so he was just testing it. Oh and another time his balls were hurting because I couldn’t do it due to having an operation. I’m an idiot I know .
So my eldest does have sympathy and compassion and guilt so I hope he never does anything like that again but it’s hard to hear him so upset xx

Hi @nornironlady , I hope you’ve had a nice day. I hope your not going anywhere yet , we haven't set up the wattsapp group yet .
I’m so pleased the appointment went well for you all, sorry to hear your son had a meltdown about the idea of school he must be feeling overwhelmed. Sending you a big hug and try to
enjoy the holidays together and think of that after the new year xxx

🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹Oh stop you should have seen me today I look like a full time slob. Got ready , well when I say that I picked up some slouch pants and had a sniff and thought they smelt ok to have another days wear . No bra club and a long cardigan and hair in a top knot (not brushed may I add) and I still had yesterdays mascara on. I would have fit into the Whittaker family quite well today xx

Hi @spoonfulofmustard , sorry you’re still feeling unwell. Sending big hugs . Really hope you get better soon xx

Hi @Munchyseeds2 , how was your lay in? Nothing beats it does it . Well unless Mr Grey fetched you breakfast . But I always think when that happens on tv all the women look all fresh faces and hairs all lovely when they’ve woke up . I’d have to run and brush my teeth and sort my barnet out and spray some deodorant to look even half presentable!
Home Bargains really do sell everything! My mum was making me buy everything in bulk because she says it’s cheaper in the long run and she’s right but I thought ‘well yes it is cheaper but I want the £2.99 one not the £8.99 one’ . I said I loved sugar puffs and she put 4 packs in my trolley. My shed outside now looks like a mini shop. If I run out of money in January I might open it to the public .
Also asked my dad to get me a mini ham joint I can cook on Christmas Eve and have it on my slobs platter . There is currently half a pig sat in my fridge! It’s huge.
I have mainly been on the phone all day today to my two eldest, I asked my daughter to come here and I’d look after her but she said she can’t lift her head from the pillow as she has really bad migraine. It’s hard when you’re a parent as you just want to wave a magic wand and make it all better for them but you can’t.
Tomorrow I need to get my cleaning head on and I need to do some admin jobs I’ve been putting off.
Whats your plans for tomorrow?xx

Hi @Giraffe888 , how’s your day been today? Ohhh one more day at work I bet you can’t wait. So sorry to hear your DD has covid , I heard there’s a really nasty one going about at the moment , bless her .
Oh I love a trip to M&S, I really recommend you get the wrong mess yumnuts and if you can the iced Madeira cake but I’ve been to 2 M&S and they had sold out . Let us know what you get , I’m nosy and love to see people’s purchases. I like to watch shopping hauls on tik tok 😂xx

I’m so sorry @Giraffe888 , I must have forgot but now I know. If you ever want to meet for a coffee I would love that but no pressure xx

Oh I’d love that ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Hi @VexedofVirginiaWater , how’s your day been today? Good I hope.
I didn’t know what negging meant so I had a google . He definitely undermined me a lot and always said I’ll never get better than him and I’m lucky he chose me. But I’m honestly just average looking so I don’t know. If you send me your number I can show you him and let you decide for yourself xx

Ohhhh what did you get @CleverLemonCat . I need a haul please xx

🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹That’s so lovely @Malbecfan , I bet you’ve made her year!
Is your kitchen gleaming now?xx

Hi @PeggyMitchellsCameo , I’m so pleased you shared that story . I love hearing them .You honestly need to make a podcast , I could listen to you every day.
When I was younger I wanted to be Jennifer Ellison from Brookside 😂xx

Hi @CookiePookie , how are you?
You honestly don’t need to ask to join the wattsapp group. You’re a spoonie of course you’ll be there. I think @RaspberryBeretxx is sorting out so pm her your number . Actually I need to pm myself , I’ll do it now xx

Evening Laura and other Spoonies, hope you have all had a great day?
Laura, I went to my local M&S to try and get the iced Madeira cake but they were sold out. I will have to go earlier next year.
Have you been to your GP appointment about your throat? I thought the appointment was booked for yesterday or have I made a mistake?
I always buy bulk sizes too as I agree with your mum, it does work out cheaper. I always think it gives me a back up store for times when I am short of money. I laughed out loud at the vision of half a pig in your fridge 🤣🤣 Can you cut it into smaller joints and freeze them for another time?

@nornironlady it’s such a shame that the meeting at your house triggered a meltdown for your son. Hope he is feeling more settled now.
@spoonfulofmustard hope you feel better soon and are well for Christmas.

Hi @MsJinks , are you ok?sending big hugs.
It brought a tear to my eye reading your post because I know exactly what you mean. I wasn’t even banned from watching somebody but if I mentioned somebody famous I’d get told that only slagbags like that person and later on that they’d never go for solmeone like me . Yet sometimes when we used to be intimate he liked to imagine I was somebody else like somebody famous that he fancied .
Im so chuffed you’re watching Brookside again. I hope your ex gets a bad case of piles and has the shits all Christmas xx

Hi @RaspberryBeretxx , how was your day with your parents? What did you do, what did you eat?
I was meant to have my doctors appointment yesterday afternoon but they rang and asked if they could change it to next Monday so I have my appointment then , they said they can take my stickers out then too so I don’t have to go Christmas Eve.
Where abouts are you based @RaspberryBeretxx ?
I’m just going to pm you my number now xx