Just wanted to update everyone. I had my scan today and unfortunately I couldn't convince the technician to say anything about it, so I guess I have to be patient for the team to get back to me about it. We did manage to get a pasty and a lovely bit of tiffin for lunch as I wasn't allowed food before the scan. Then we headed off to see one my husband's sister on the way to my parents. Our daughter was also travelling down by train for the first time.
Anyone who has a child who is ND can understand how stressful it is for them to do things they've never done before. She can't cope with anything that requires connections or where she could get lost as she becomes overwhelmed and can't speak or even approach anyone for help. I found out that there's a direct train to the station near my parents, so she agreed to try it. I'd organised all the tickets, timings and booked her Passenger Assistance but it was still very hard for her. Especially when she had to move coaches at one point because they were detaching carriages. It upset her that they changed the sign on her carriage from D to J and didn't know why.They then announced it on the train that some carriages were going out of service, but said that you get off the train "at the platform" which she assumed would be the next one, but they meant after two other ones. So she became very confused and worried. Luckily there was a nice man who was travelling to Taunton who explained it was likely to be at Bristol temple meads. The conductor did come and make sure she knew she had to go to the new carriage. She also learnt how to use the train toilet after attempting to get in it but hadn't seen the buttons. Another kind person showed her and she was happy with those as "they are like boat ones" mixed with "star trek vibes as the door swishes open when you push the button".
There were many texts backwards and forwards but she managed the 8 hour journey and said she feels confident enough to do it in reverse when she goes back to uni after Christmas. So it was a win in my book and it was wonderful to retrieve her from the station and be in a somewhat sane state.😂😂
I'd also like to join the WhatsApp Spoonies and can understand what @Apolloneuro is talking about. There's been some very awful things said to people on other posts. Even if you don't agree with someone, there's ways to say it that are kind, compassionate, supportive and respectful. There does seem a subset of people who have lost their gentle side, it seems. Also it will allow us to share things with each other and not the rest of the internet.
@Imbluedalale Lots of updates I've just caught up on but it was such an awful thing to do, after he requested the abortion to say such terrible things. The Spoonies are right, it's all coercive control and meant to break you down. There was never ever a possibility of being enough, and it's not your fault.
Sorry that your son is having to deal with having cheated on his girlfriend. It's a difficult situation being in the middle of trying to care about them both. There's probably some element of influence in attitude due to your ex, but he's learning about the real life consequences and at least he cares about having stuffed things up. It's going to make him a better person and partner in the end, even though it's very painful now.