To cancel a night out because of the weather?

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Night out planned for Saturday with my friend.
Well more late afternoon
I'm going to the city she lives
It's 2 trains and a bus for me -around 1 1/2 hours journey there and back.
Anyway there's a storm forecast
Gale force winds and heavy rain here
I really really don't want to go out in it
It's walking from pub to pub and the brolly won't keep up so we will be soaking.
Anyway aibu to cancel ?
Re arrange for after Christmas /the new year ?

I'd be more bothered about trains getting cancelled and being stuck there than getting wet.

I think cancelling because of the weather is a pretty piss poor excuse. Glad I don’t have friends that make such pathetic excuses to avoid going out.

Depends I think. Will the weather predicted actually happen? Will the trains be cancelled if the weather does happen?
I'd probably wait until the day and travel cancellations be my excuse, the weather might not end up as bad as originally thought!

Wear a bloody coat and go and have fun! It's ridiculous to be so inflexible on your outfit that it stops you from socialising! It won't be be unfair to the general public to stop them from seeing your dress on your dash between bars - they're really not that interested.

Good grief just wear a coat! What do you mean "the brolly won't keep up"? Although I would wear a coat with a hood anyway. You can't cancel because of rain! It won't be raining inside the pub.

No way should you cancel because of the (potentially) bad weather but I would suggest you revisit the plans for a pub crawl. If the trains are down due to the weather and you can't get there that's different but please don't be flaky.

I'm due to go out night out tomorrow and of the 8 people going, there's only 4 of us left. I'm so pissed off and trying to resist commenting on our Whatsapp group for fear of speaking my mind & falling out with everyone. Excuses were all pathetic:
'I'll be too tired after a long day at work' (normal office day)
'I've just not felt myself this week'
'DS1 is well' (there is a dad present & this was sent 3 days ahead of the event!)

'I'm out 2 night this week and don't think I can face a 3rd' (at least this one is honest!)

Literally not one valid reason to renege on a long-standing arrangement.

Cancel the night or just wear a coat.
I really don't see why the decision is so tough?!

I think I once read that the reason so many women go out without coats in Newcastle is because literally every pub and club is on the same street. So almost all of them will have taken a taxi to that street and spent max 5 minutes in the open air, then will take a taxi home from that street too. A magnet for tabloid photographers though, who make it seem like all Newcastle women spend hours striding around Newcastle in just minidresses.

Usually I’m very much in the don’t cancel camp. But this sounds miserable and it seems more like she wants a wingman to go out on the pull than to see you??

I would suggest you change the plan and try to book a table for a meal somewhere to catch up, then go dancing/drinking after that, then you stay at hers and she doesn’t bring a randomer home. You’re travelling to see her - if she won’t compromise to make it a nicer evening for you then that kind of shows that for her it’s not really about seeing you.

As YOU are the one travelling and making the effort, I think it is perfectly reasonable to reschedule for another time.
Do it asap so she has 48 hours to make other plans.

Absolutely this. The 17 year olds I know would wear a coat going out. And we're more Northern than you.

Pretty ridiculous.

I’m out on Saturday as well but going to one of those Day Fever events which start at 3pm and finish at 8pm. I’ll be home in bed by 9pm. That’s the only way I do “going out out” these days.

It's not about not wearing a coat
It's taking 2 trains and a bus and potential disruption
Then the 20 min walk to the bus stop
15 min walk to the train station
In Gale force winds and pissing rain
While my friend jumps in her £5 Uber home

Not unreasonable - there’s a chance your return trains could be cancelled if the storm is bad enough. Tbh, as others have said, if you are going that far it’s crazy she’s not offered you the sofa for the night regardless of the weather.

I’d pass and reschedule.

You would have to be absolutely desperate for a night out to do that.
Don't doubt yourself.
Cancel.

I would be worried about getting home as trains may be cancelled etc. or they would be in the south east, the north seems to cope much better with weather. I'd probably say you don't think it's the best night to do it and can you rearrange.

The obvious solution is surely to just stay at hers. I did this all the time in my 20s. If she cannot resist inviting a random stranger home on this occasion then I don’t think she’s a very good friend! Assuming you would be sharing a room?

She should be wanting to accommodate you, particularly as you are using public transport and there will likely be disruption due to the terrible weather.

I would cancel. The train/bus services are likely to be disrupted and it's just not going to have the same vibe for you if you're drenched and worried about your journey home later. Best to save your time and money and reschedule for a better weekend.

I knew this would be Newcastle 😂 when I lived up there you could pick out the Southerners and students by their coats when it was subzero temperatures. Also saw more white stilettos then, than I do now living in Essex!

Personally I would cancel. The walk to the train station and buses would put be off. Not to mind the walking between pubs and the the facing the same journey back with potential delays or cancellations.

To be honest though it sounds like a very imbalanced arrangement. It seems to be all about what suits your friend and what she wants.

Why did you agree to it in the first place knowing the weather in December is always going to be shit and unless you've moved since you agreed, the travel plans will have always been the same. Always a possibility of disruption with public transport especially in December so it should have been factored in.

That being said I would never have agreed to it in the first place and I would never expect a friend to do such insane travelling for one night and not even offer them my sofa. Sounds like a poor friend so I wouldn't bother with them in the future if they are going to be so selfish.

A party dress and no coat in heavy rain is insanity.

I am used to commuting and dealing with cancelled trains so I'd just go for it and wing it personally but yanbu if you're not comfortable. You won't enjoy the night if you're feeling anxious about getting home

No coat in a storm. Bonkers.

Ah OP, you need to stand up for yourself here. It's your night out too, you get a say in what you do.

As for the 'plan' to 'wear party dress and no coat', surely you can see how utterly ridiculous this sounds. You are not 14 years old, worrying about peer pressure. Wear your coat FFS!