Husbands ideas are annoying

[NarcoosseeLover]

My husband is full of ideas. Some better than others, but most are just fads.

Example - Make homemade yoghurt; pay for a ghost writer to write a book; eat more eggs; produce own aftershave etc etc

In isolation, the ideas are fine, but he goes all in at the first instance.

So I have a kitchen full of electrical gadgets and ingredients we’ll never use; a fridge full of multiple trays of eggs; a cupboard full of funnels, essential oils and alcohol etc.
I just about get through having a clear out and making space in the cupboards, only for him to have a bunch of ideas and fill them again.

It’s driving me up the wall. He’s in the kitchen making large quantities of yoghurt. I don’t want any. I’d rather pick up a pot from Aldi personally.

Is it just mine or does anyone else have one of these husbands? How do you manage?

Disclaimer, I have OCD and stress about organisation and things having their place, so it does make me feel quite cross.

@NarcoosseeLover they dont have to have adhd to be like this!! my hubby is also like this. gave him some washing to put away (having people for dinner the next day) so major clean) an hour later, he had not come back to kitchen so I went through to find him cleaning out his wardrobe!! visitors are not even going to be in our bedroom far less in his wardrobe!! he came to the kitchen one day and told me "you can make your own dishwasher tablets!" !!!!!! wtf! i looked at him as if he had grown two heads! then carried on doing what i was doing!

lol,

you need to give him a special space for his idea material…that will help with your frustration as not invading the space you need 🤣🤣🤣

Is there a link to dyslexia and adhd?
I have a friend who is dyslexic and had many projects
Very good at them and mostly / lots finished
But one has sat for over 10 years
Another 8 years and the one more 4 years
All in the garage - maybe that's normal
He blames time / yrs he's a workaholic too

This thread is very funny OP. Your DH definitely needs a shed, and all his new 'hobbies' (fads) should be confined to the shed, and then as long as he's not (a) using joint money you can't spare on buying this stuff and/or (b) spending (wasting) time making inedible yoghurt when he should be sharing the domestic load, then he can crack on to his heart's content without cluttering up the house.

My DH isn't too bad in the sense that he tends to follow through (well, apart from the raspberry pi (pie?!) he desperately wanted but hasn't used), but we do have I think 6 bikes taking up house space, as well as a mahoosive aerial / antenna thing on the house to track planes I think, or maybe something to do with internet, I'm not sure. Am looking forward to when we buy a house as he's definitely getting a shed, where he can tinker away. He loves a tinker.

Ok. Set up a garage gym (consisting of a white board nailed to the wall with a highly complex plan on it and a couple of dumbbells, a skipping rope and some elastic bands); build a boat; start a business selling pizzas; make our own steak rubs; make 3D printed Whale sharks; develop own ice cream flavours; Collect Coca Cola cans from years past…it goes on and on.

Appreciate I'm not the one living with the clutter, but I do think these are all quite sweet and charming, in a somewhat random and batty way. Well, kind of childlike (childlike, not childish - which I mean as a compliment).

That's me with the knitting. Decided during lockdown that I was getting into it - bought an expensive kit to make a jumper, realised that was beyond my skills so bought some different wool/needles to make a very basic scarf - scarf is about 6 in inches long and just shoved in a cupboard with the other stuff....

😂😂😂😂 I’m not alone!

Yes, dyslexia and ADHD are said to often be comorbid!

My husband was a naughty child. He was caught by police throwing stones through a local primary schools windows. He also set traps in trees and walkways…think Indiana Jones. Apparently never gave them much thought, it was just something to do. He got into trouble an awful lot until his later teen years. He’s actually very bright. He can pick up skills very easily when they are things like tiling, plastering, plumbing etc. But he has to see it done, not read about it. He can’t follow paper instructions to save his life. Hence the beetroot soup disaster I guess.
Im a teacher which is why I suspect ADHD. He can’t just relax. But he is hilarious and adorable in many ways I agree.

Hmmm, his wild pie-in -the -sky schemes remind me of someone I know who is bipolar - when they are 'up' they are constantly coming up with ill-founded plans and schemes that will never be fully thought through and never brought to fruition. Just a thought.

A house cow!!!

Highly suspected ADHD here.

I have so many ideas and hobbies that I start. And I go all in, I'm always convinced it could be THE craft idea that will turn into an amazing business project, or THE skill that could start me a new career.

Learning bass at the mo, for the first few months I thought I would definitely get in a band. Still might one day...

Usually lasts a few weeks or months. Persisting or finishing things is more of a challenge... But I do tend to come back to things after a few years, even if with a different slant, so I can't throw away any of my craft things.

(Some of my ideas are brilliant too. I'm an undiscovered genius.)

DH also suspected ADHD is similar, we've had climbing, bread making, ice cream making, baking, microbit programming, screen printing...

I trundle it all out to his garage/workshop and tell him to sort it out. He only gets stressed if it affects him. He's also agreed to stop using the joint account and only use his personal account as the bargain investment vintage watch he bought and forgot about the import tax and wore in the bath meant we couldn't pay our bills 🙄

Mine keeps making radios. We have loads of them. None are fit to actually listen to and all of them sound old fashioned and fuzzy and pick up overseas stations and he can't understand the languages anyway. I have a radio app on my phone and a bluetooth speaker so I can listen to radio broadcasts. I also have an old shortwave somewhere if he wants to listen to something in swahili.

I'm just like your DH, but with worse hair. I have had a huge number of "sudden wild enthusiasms" (thanks to Marian Keyes for describing this so perfectly).
This has included woodwork, fountain pens, growing chillis, photography, watchmaking, learning Italian, metalwork and so on. I try to keep the impact on the rest of my family to a minimum, so it's a consideration, rather than a ADHD issue.

My husband went through a phase of buying boxes of junk at auctions, supposedly to sell the good stuff on eBay only he sold a few bits and left 10 - 15boxes of junk around our small house. At one point I put it all in his car and assumed he'd got rid of it all but no he brought it back to the house a few months later. He got arsey when I threw some boxes out, promised to sort the rest out then left them again for months. I got most of it moved by a waste collector only for him to fill 're area s i uncluttered with more items e bought and forgotten about.

I'm due to throw out the last few boxes this week , I'm not telling him just getting on with it.

Any more crap will be thrown after 4 weeks. Not putting up with this again ever.

Oh I so feel your pain! So many gadgets which then pile up in the garage. I remind him of this but go along with it as, if he wants to make some homemade food for us then fine 🙂 It makes him happy and part of me feels I would like to feel that passionate about food but I don't lol x

climbing, bread making, ice cream making, baking, microbit programming, screen printing.

We've had photography, acrylic painting (twice he was surprised when I got out the first full set he'd forgotten about), watercolours, yogurt making buying investment watches, joining a gun club for air rifles (two rifles plus kit totalling £3,000) gym, yoga, greenhouse planting and not watering, gardening, screen printing, glass engraving, wax seals, xmas tree pallets, reverse glass art which required the purchase of a sandblaster and massive printer. The latest is resin which seems to involve daily deliveries of stuff from his new love Temu.

It's so wasteful and so cluttering I could absolutely weep. He did however teach himself plastering and plumbing and has completely redone our house for next to nothing complete with oak floors and new kitchen and bathroom. And a few summers ago he built a bloody fantastic garden room so it's not all bad

@Tontostitis wow this is intense!

It does make me laugh that yogurt making keeps popping up. I’ve never met anyone that’s gotten into yogurt making!

OP maybe you need to organise him, find him something to do that doesn't get in your way including him doing way more housework I'd suggest.

Sorry OP but your post made me laugh. Sounds like you live in a situation comedy.

I second buying a shed.

I make all our own yoghurt! Not something I'd really describe as a hobby though. We eat it every day so it just comes under 'general food prep' every couple of weeks.
It also takes very little time. I make it in a slow cooker and leave it overnight to do its thing. The only thing which takes a while is straining it, but even with that I just leave it and come back when it's done!

Oooh I forgot ice cream maker.
God I was permanently selling some equipment on Facebook 😂

Aah yes you've kind of missed the point here the problem is buying a yogurt maker and never using it .....

He has ADHD?