Husbands ideas are annoying

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My husband is full of ideas. Some better than others, but most are just fads.

Example - Make homemade yoghurt; pay for a ghost writer to write a book; eat more eggs; produce own aftershave etc etc

In isolation, the ideas are fine, but he goes all in at the first instance.

So I have a kitchen full of electrical gadgets and ingredients we’ll never use; a fridge full of multiple trays of eggs; a cupboard full of funnels, essential oils and alcohol etc.
I just about get through having a clear out and making space in the cupboards, only for him to have a bunch of ideas and fill them again.

It’s driving me up the wall. He’s in the kitchen making large quantities of yoghurt. I don’t want any. I’d rather pick up a pot from Aldi personally.

Is it just mine or does anyone else have one of these husbands? How do you manage?

Disclaimer, I have OCD and stress about organisation and things having their place, so it does make me feel quite cross.

Well, no, I like an annual holiday, but I don’t really do projects. I like to keep a clean tidy house. I have ocd so I tend to like structure and I’m not great with change…or clutter.

I need to know more about the ideas for new flavours of ice cream.

This is me OP. I’m ADHD. New hobbies every two minutes 😌

Bloody hell. I could have written this. Even down to the yogurt. It’s so frustrating.

I have ADHD and I daren’t count how much money I have wasted on short-lived hyperfixations over the years. My attic is like a wasteland of abandoned hobbies.

If anyone needs a lightly used pair of roller skates, sewing machine, ukulele, or a jigsaw (both the puzzle and the power tool), I can hook you up 😆

Practical suggestion: gardening. It's addictive, never 'done' and waiting and pausing is 'built in' (for seeds to grow, borders to fill out, winter to end!) so it will naturally slow him down!

My DH is like this and hyper-fixates on things. It has driven me a bit mad in the past because sometimes the things he wants to do are expensive and he gets sulky if he can't do/buy what he wants immediately - examples include playing the guitar, golf, fishing (also overnight fishing), playing the clarinet, Lego, plants, keto, growing mushrooms, etc etc.

I try and get him to think about whether it is just a fad or not and ask that he try and wait a little bit longer before buying everything that goes along with that hobby.

This will be DS in 20 years (and yes, he has ADHD). Currently it's his new sport - he is hounding me daily about practice, matches, when he can play, kit etc.... it's not that I'm against him doing this, but I'm trying to make him understand he can't just abandon his old sport (which he genuinely does still love) and also that I am not in control of when he plays matches, or is allowed to sign up - I have messaged the coach, there's not a lot more I can do now.

I have ADHD and I do this - have an idea, commit to it wholeheartedly, impulsively spend a lot of money on equipment, and then lose interest. I’m sure it’s very hard to live with. I work on curbing my impulsive behaviour and ‘all in’ mentality in therapy.

My son has ADHD and is like this - I suspect he gets it from DH who has no diagnosis but is well known for his ‘stupid boy projects’. Luckily he has a large garage!

Another issue we have is that if DH tells MIL of any vague interest in anything she buys expensive equipment for it for his Bday or Xmas, often by which time he is "over" it.
She also tries to invent hobbies for him and the DC. She phoned last week to ask if DS was into XYZ as she had seen something she wanted to get for him for xmas. He has never been into this thing despite DH trying, we said no but I am pretty sure she will have got it.

Worst part of Christmas is digging through all my abandoned projects to get to the tree. If it’s been long enough I’ll be interested again so now the decorations include a box of craft supplies. I really hoped my kids would be similar so I could pass the supplies on to them but they are not so I bear the whole burden.

Was he like this before you married him?

I feel like there should be some kind of online platform where we can exchange all this hobby equipment :)

Oh dear, I think I’m your husband.

We’ve been together since we were children really. Got together at 15, so I can’t remember.

I have come to the conclusion that all men are aliens, I don’t get their behaviour at all 🤦🏼‍♀️

This thread is making me laugh, DH is a bit like this.

Last year his obsession was making his own wine. Poor dog was forced on most dog walks to stay in the same place for half an hour whilst DH "foraged berries". Making the wine involved buying a lot of expensive accoutrements from Amazon and quite a lot of bottles exploded leaving our walls rather pebble dashed. The end result was undrinkable and I enjoyed annoying DH by drinking my £5 bottle of rose in preference.

This year it has been finding wood and chopping it for our stove ( project from a couple of years ago). All good except the Chaps and various bits for the chain saw have negated any savings.

He keeps threatening to retire and it's not just the reduction to our income I am worried about, it's what on earth will he do all day, and - even worse- how much will he talk about it.

Definitely adhd. My husband has it and is like this.

spur of the moment hobbies have been:

making biltong (drying raw beef in our house)

triathalons (bought all the kit, did it once)

tennis (bought all the kit, did about 10 sessions one year)

regrouting patio - bought all the stuff, never been done

making rustic furniture, did one table looked shite

making slow gin (lots of funnels etc)

ultra marathon - currently training for one but would barely be a training plan! (One run a week??)

feel for ya sister! At least my husbands aren’t as messy as yours

Oh my God, we have had the whole wine thing but only made from things he has foraged, also he decided to investigate cooking with nettles.
He has a smoker that he enjoys chopping wood for (that he has dragged home) and smoking meat for hours, I warn next door so she can get her washing in.

For goodness' sake! You like things tidy, so you 'have OCD'. He has short-lived enthusiasm, so he's 'got ADHD'. Must we medicalise everything?

Has he tried making his own butter yet? I quite fancy having a go at that

I am like your husband in that I do this and I stress out my DP a fair bit so I get it. I also have OCD traits (diagnosed, so actual OCD) so I get that side of things also.
I think I probably am pretty neurodivergent so could be an ADHD kinda trait coinciding with a few things (my kids are all autistic).
My latest genius idea is to get a house cow and I fully intend to forge ahead with this plan. So, I guess you can be somewhat grateful for small mercies.

I’m a bit like this. I think I may have ADHD. But I spend my own money, tidy up after myself and keep all my equipment neat and stored away so I figure I’m not hurting anyone. I think my husband just thinks I’m a bit quirky!!

I also ferment.
Did yogurt (delish), kefir, fermented veg (still going DH even got me some equipment I wanted for Christmas), painting, have 3 drawers of spices because I wanted to do my own mixes, he stopped me from diy body lotion, did soaps, bone broths (still going strong with his salivating support), foraging (but like that's just normal thing where I grew up), crochetting, grew my own weird veg obsessively, many dead houseplants, "pottery", electric piano, languages, and numerous interestingly executed house DIY projects most of which have luckily turned out ok (done when he was away so he couldn't stop me😂)

There is more, but these I remember