Husbands ideas are annoying

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My husband is full of ideas. Some better than others, but most are just fads.

Example - Make homemade yoghurt; pay for a ghost writer to write a book; eat more eggs; produce own aftershave etc etc

In isolation, the ideas are fine, but he goes all in at the first instance.

So I have a kitchen full of electrical gadgets and ingredients we’ll never use; a fridge full of multiple trays of eggs; a cupboard full of funnels, essential oils and alcohol etc.
I just about get through having a clear out and making space in the cupboards, only for him to have a bunch of ideas and fill them again.

It’s driving me up the wall. He’s in the kitchen making large quantities of yoghurt. I don’t want any. I’d rather pick up a pot from Aldi personally.

Is it just mine or does anyone else have one of these husbands? How do you manage?

Disclaimer, I have OCD and stress about organisation and things having their place, so it does make me feel quite cross.

I don’t know what he’s put in that yoghurt but he’s choking downstairs.

Oh yes, Dr Burg
And raspberry Pi's

Oh God, mine watches random TikTok pranks, fishing videos and all those "How things are made" type programmes - then tells me all about it

Dr Burg has a lot to answer for. Best hope I never see him in person. He’ll be paying for half the crap I’ve thrown away.

Haha, we are ALL like this in our family. We're all ND and there's always a range of messy projects going on. My 84yo dad moved in with us 6 months ago and he's the worst of the lot 😂

I don't think you'll change him OP, but if you really hate it you need to thrash out a compromise. Maybe an area of the house that's off limits to his clutter.

Our whole household is like this, but DH and I worse than the DC - probably because we can manage theirs a bit more. Occasionally our interests collide for a bit which is fun.
We had nearly a year of yoghurt. It was a successful hobby!

This is hilarious!! Mine is also doing keto. A high fat diet meant the sink is always blocked with fats.
He’s making his own apple cider vinegar at the moment so I have a plastic bowl with apples on the kitchen counter.
He’s also gone through stages of making other stuff you could have easily bought from the supermarket and it would have tasted better too

That’s funny @sprigatito . I suspect if my dad had moved in with us it would have been similar!
all ND here too.
Sometimes I wish one of us would find joy in tidying!

I love the image of him trying to make his own aftershave. I tried to make my own perfume when I was 7 or so. I collected lots of blossom and flowers from the garden and mixed everything together with water. My mum was furious I’d ransacked the garden and my ‘perfume’ went mouldy.

I'm a little bit like that, but do circle back round to things after a while.

Someone needs to start a business where you pay a monthly amount and you can choose a hobby to try and you get sent a starter set of equipment that you can keep until you get bored of it, then return it and start the next. Like a hobby library. The downside is that, if you're like me you'll keep putting off the returning part

Claire dunphy, is that you? 😄

Hi OP. I have OCD and anxiety too, and my husband, who is dyslexic, is also three decades older.
He likes tools, so they are everywhere (boxed).
I don't know about ADHD with him, interesting idea but I think not.
Have a personal space each and remember, there are worse things.
😁

I think it's just one of those things you have to accept isn't going to change and try to find ways to let it not annoy you. Also agree sounds very like ADHD.

My DH almost certainly has it (son is diagnosed) and while it doesn't emerge as lots of ideas, I have just had to learn to accept that he can't remember events much in advance and can't remember stuff that he's told a lot of the time. This was made easier once he accepted this was the case and stopped getting arsey and insisting I hadn't told him things that I could literally remember where we were on the three occasions I told him them.

You described me. I have all sorts of things for all kinds of hobbies and have equipment and half-finished projects tucked away all over the house. I don't know how dh copes tbh; he just lets me get on with it and ignores the lack of space issue.

Example - Make homemade yoghurt; pay for a ghost writer to write a book; eat more eggs; produce own aftershave etc etc

These examples brought me so much joy! Even better is the 'etc etc'... as if its obvious what comes next in this sequence 😂

I don't think either of you are particularly unreasonable, I just want more examples!

😂

Ok. Set up a garage gym (consisting of a white board nailed to the wall with a highly complex plan on it and a couple of dumbbells, a skipping rope and some elastic bands); build a boat; start a business selling pizzas; make our own steak rubs; make 3D printed Whale sharks; develop own ice cream flavours; Collect Coca Cola cans from years past…it goes on and on.

Never anything really useful though.

I do love him, but it’s frustrating.

I'm like this and it's awful as I never fully trust myself to see something through! However invested I am at the time, I know that I'd be very lucky to still be interested 6 months down the line. I hate this side of me and have stopped telling people when I start something new now!
I've just disposed of kgs of beeswax as my wax melt phase is over...I suspect I have ADHD tbf.

😂 I’m sorry.

We've had candles too and framed buttons.

3D printed whale sharks sound incredibly useful! Thanks OP, love it😂

oh god he’s so like me. I now make an effort to think hard about the things I want to do and the try and focus. It takes a gargantuan effort though. Those lists you gave I’ve tried them all except 3d printed whalesharks 😂

Oh shit I've recently taken up sourdough 🤔

I can help with the ghost writing when he gets back round to it. 😀

I have several knitting projects stuffed in a bag from 10 years ago just waiting to be finished or put out of their misery. When I say projects, I mean terrible looking scarves, I was going to learn it all whilst huddled up in the sofa but I then got sidetracked by a long list of other various hobbies, mostly sleeping on the sofa.

Theres a load of sea glass somewhere as well, that was eventually going to become a table and focal point/conversation piece, though I think you have to like having people over for that to work, also actually make the table!

Do a lot of people not do this just to kind of get through life if you know what I mean? I have friends who move from holiday to holiday, or renovation to renovation etc etc? Surely most of us do it just because it keeps humans are always thinking of the next best thing?

I’m not even going to mention it 😂 I’m not giving him more ideas. I think he’s still paying off the last go.