People announcing their good deeds?

[yswning]

I’m part of the community Facebook group that as we all know gets weird and wonderful things posted. Someone just posted about how someone couldn’t pay for their bus fare as their card wasn’t working and so they jumped up and tapped their card to pay for them and they wanted to know if they got home ok (no mention of the person being vulnerable just that their card didn’t work).

And whilst that’s a lovely act, it just smacked me as a “I did a good deed and I need recognition”

I’ve seen someone else I know posting a photo from their car of a car accident with the emergency team. And how they’d seen the crash and they’d assisted the person. Again good deed but weird you had the thought of then photograph it as proof it happened..

I always try and do good deeds, I don’t need to document any of them and tell as many people as I can. Aibu?

I hate this too! They are definitely NOT donating to charity!

So fed up of reading these that last year I listed my 'own version' that read:

It's December! Christmas is nearly upon us...but cards from me won't be! Because I can't be arsed...as usual! And I won't be pretending to donate to charity instead...just being transparent 👍🏻 But have a good one! 🎄

Where did I say you had? I just don’t see anything wrong with it if someone wants to.

I'm part of the community Facebook group that as we all know gets weird and wonderful things posted. Someone just posted about how someone ...We should not share with others about our good deeds just to seek self recognition, but think that it may encourage monkey type and inspire others to do the same, so that God's glory can be seen by others in us. It brings about a difference in people's life.kind deed (noun as in good deed) Weak matches. accommodation aid assistance benevolence courtesy favor good turn help kindly act kindness special favor.

Yes I hate this too

Don't want to send cards? Fine, don't bother

But I don't like the virtue signalling of saying (pretending?) they're giving to charity instead

i always want to point out that (1) they could do both. (2) I'd have more respect if they asked me to donate to charity instead of giving them a Christmas gift

There's talking about something because it crops up in a one-to-one or group conversation among people you know and who are talking to, and then there's deliberately posting it on a facebook group to inform the world, because you want the world to know. The two things are not the same.

This boasting on social media is no different from the behaviour of Hyacinth Bucket, only back then they managed to get a sitcom from it that ran for years & years, because a lot of people thought it was entertaining and would laugh at her. These days, behaving in that manner has become a way of life for many.

It’s self serving.

This.

I give monthly to several charities via direct debit. I don't tell anyone about that. DH volunteers for a wildlife rescue charity which operates on a shoestring budget. I do post about that in SM in the hope that it raises awareness and possibly a bit of money.

Yes, you’ve said that a number of times. I just disagree that’s all. Who cares it if is.

If my friend says she's giving to charity why would she not? How do you know they're definitely not? You don't think much of your friends if you don't believe what they say

Yeah, I just don’t see an issue with it. Don’t see what harm it causes or means. It’s rather innocuous. Other than that it might annoy some people. That’s social media for you.

It’s literally the first time I said self serving….

Yes, but your every reply makes it abundantly clear you think so. So I gather!

Well then don’t say I’ve said something “a number of times” when I haven’t.

The only people that approve of this kind of behaviour is people that actually do it ..

The only people that approve of this kind of behaviour is people that actually do it ..

I always try and do good deeds, I don’t need to document any of them and tell as many people as I can

Yeah

I live in a southern town with declining tourist industry. Unfortunately, there is a large visible homelessness problem. Of course, the local virtue signalling Pride of Britain wannabes love this on the local Facebook page. It does give me the raging arse hole. Some of the worst examples include:

"This is 'Pete'. He lives in the rain shelter by the beach. He's lovely and gives good hugs". Accompanied by a selfie of her with 'Pete'. Cue loads of ❤️🤗😍 emojis and 'if only more people were like you hun'.

Christmas's ago. This woman with two beautiful twin girls dressed up in matching winter clothes using them to hand out Christmas meals on paper plates to local street homeless (few weeks BEFORE Christmas). Obviously lots of photos and videos. Hoping to appear on ITV news 'and finally...' segment. Again lots of gushing.

One guy boasting about walking an intoxicated homeless woman back to her tent. And hoping she's ok. Thankfully people were more critical. Saying that they hadn't seen tents in that vicinity. And suggestions that he was a creep (the vast majority of street population are male, and would he have done the same for them).

Finally, last week there was this woman asking if the rough sleeper outside the high street shop was ok. Hence the gushing emojis and 'huns'. One of the comments suggested contacting the local homeless emergency hotline. Her response was, "I already have". Obviously wanting validation.

No one has thought of putting these people up in their own homes though. Or the caring community clubbing together for a deposit.

I'll say what I like, thanks! My meaning was extremely simple.

I don't do it. I don't post on social media – so bang goes that theory, I guess. There is being 'approving' and there is seeing no issue with it.

You seem very annoyed that I disagree with your stance. Not sure why.

@Didimum I was quoting @yswning not you

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You quoted me.

Where?

Oh, I hate this so much.

It's like those people on TikTok/YouTube/SM who film themselves giving money or food donations to the homeless. You know for a fact if there were no cameras there-they'd walk right past those people and not bat an eyelid.

But because they've pulled the cameras out-and there's an opportunity for clicks and likes-they're desperate to get in on the action. It's just using the people for likes and it makes me incredibly uncomfortable as it feels almost borderline exploitative.

It's kind of like how some people feel the need to document every second of their day and post about it on social media. You know the kind-take pictures of their food people.

Like some people can't waste an opportunity to make themselves seem like good people and get applause and social media brownie points. If they don't post about it-did it actually happen?

I don't know-I know materially a good deed is still a good deed whether someone keeps it private or blasts it for the rest of the world to hear about. It's just when someone posts about it for no reason other than to score brownie points it makes me doubt their intentions and motives. Because you know if they didn't have the opportunity to post about it and score those pats on the back they likely wouldn't bother.

I can kind of see why someone may share that they've donated to X charity because it can 1) raise awareness of the charity and the cause they're supporting and 2) it can have a kind of contagious effect where it boosts donations as people feel encouraged to donate.

Maybe you could just have told Aunt Barbara….

Some people just live for validation!

I was once in a large meeting with many people from various charities of the sort that people announce they're donating to.
They all agreed that they saw very little income in December above regular givers and what they generally used to get at Christmas before this became a thing.

Spoken like a petulant child. “I’ll say what I want” despite being told you are factually incorrect.

I couldn’t care less stranger on the internet whether you agree or disagree with any of my opinion. You’re the one using “!” so evidently you’re the one annoyed.