People announcing their good deeds?

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I’m part of the community Facebook group that as we all know gets weird and wonderful things posted. Someone just posted about how someone couldn’t pay for their bus fare as their card wasn’t working and so they jumped up and tapped their card to pay for them and they wanted to know if they got home ok (no mention of the person being vulnerable just that their card didn’t work).

And whilst that’s a lovely act, it just smacked me as a “I did a good deed and I need recognition”

I’ve seen someone else I know posting a photo from their car of a car accident with the emergency team. And how they’d seen the crash and they’d assisted the person. Again good deed but weird you had the thought of then photograph it as proof it happened..

I always try and do good deeds, I don’t need to document any of them and tell as many people as I can. Aibu?

On my face book feed this weekend,
anyone know where I can donate lots of children’s books?
anyone know where I can donate good quality children’s clothes?
I have plates to donate, anyone know where I can take them?
All translate to, can’t be arsed to take to charity shop, please collect stuff and tell me I’m ace.

😂 We take it in turns!

Oh hell yes. We get this all the time at work. Certain people telling everyone via teams that Mr X wanted to thank them for their brilliant, magnificent outstanding help. Couple this with Miss Y being astonished beyond belief that the work colleague is old enough to work here, surely that cannot have been working for 10 years!!!!! They don’t look a day over 8.

I donated some stuff to the charity shop earlier. Where are my trumpets?

Sorry OP, I didnt miss your point. It is indeed a good point, well made.

Well that’s a sad outlook.

I think people are now of the mindset of "if it didn't go on social media, it didn't happen" sadly. I also agree that people are much more selfish and self-absorbed than they used to be. They'll be the first to start up a GoFundMe if they found themselves in a desperate situation, but would never consider actually donating to one themselves.

I love the little thrill I get from doing a good deed and I would be grateful and gracious to receive praise for it, but to seek out the praise is all rather a bit desperate IMO. You should do good for the good of it, not for the praise from it.

Anyhoo - a friend is just about to start rowing the Atlantic, so you'll need to excuse me while I go and make a donation to their charity...! 😂

Surely you mean they would of done that if they'd been there

I see this now and again. (Not anonymous )
Hi all, I’m cleaning out little Jackson’s room, he would love to donate his old toys to a child who hasn’t as much as him. My Jackson is so kind and thoughtful isn’t he? Jackson’s 2!

answers, oh hun your son is so kind and thoughtful.
Hi lovely you must be so proud of him. Hes a credit to you.

Bog off!!!!!!!!!

Would have is correct grammar if that's what you are asking

I call it looking for likes. People needing praise and validation that normal people do without thinking or for reward.

No, I'm taking the piss out of the people who post inane shite along the lines of "aw hun I would of helped u if I'd bin there"

They're not that articulate.
If they were in town in a position to help it would probably be due to them taking little Tragedeigh out to buy a Chester Draws.

You're in the same FB group? 😂

So yes I think it's boasting/virtue signalling and I would cringe doing it myself, it's nice when the person who was helped does a shout out instead.
BUT I think a nice side effect of this is maybe making more people be kind and do nice things... maybe? I hope so

Do a good deed go on your merry way..end of.

You get it on here too.

Normally phrased as "Was I UR to have given my hat, scarf, gloves and last £10 to a child who was blue with cold and shivering".

Although we don't have to put up here with the videos of "I just happened to be filming a ordinary day out when my dc said in a thoroughly rehearsed voice that they wanted to give their entire year's pocket money to the homeless person outside." I wonder who is ever fooled by those because they're always so clearly planned because no one would have been filming for any other reason.

One of the most unpleasant bullies around here used to give notice of her less pleasant behaviour by sticking lots of things on Fb about "Oh, I try so hard to be a great friend. I always give more than I have to give and am ready to drop anything to help others".
Good thing she told people because people would have never guessed from her behaviour.

While I agree virtue seeking, it's not as bad as the tirade of 'look how much I do for my kids' with personalised balloons and themes for a baby. Big ick!

She’s not the one who does a piano recital every December on national television at a Cathedral.

Well maybe it will inspire others to be helpful so that can only be a good thing?

Can Markle play piano?

No no no this isn’t a thread about Meghan Markle. Thereare plenty out there for you to discuss her on. without selfishly hijacking this thread

Virtue signalling, vanity and gluttony are in my opinion the most unattractive traits a person can have.

Yanbu, I try to not let anyone know when I do something charitable. It’s embarrassing and I privately enjoy it more when no one knows about the deed except myself!

Hate that. Of course the person got home ok, he paid for their fare. He wants the world to know. I always remember a book we were reading in English and our lovely old English teacher telling us that a real act of charity is when you don’t need to disclose to the world. It’s like that guy needed a round of applause, or modern day equivalent of loads of hearts and posts saying what a hero they are.