People announcing their good deeds?

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I’m part of the community Facebook group that as we all know gets weird and wonderful things posted. Someone just posted about how someone couldn’t pay for their bus fare as their card wasn’t working and so they jumped up and tapped their card to pay for them and they wanted to know if they got home ok (no mention of the person being vulnerable just that their card didn’t work).

And whilst that’s a lovely act, it just smacked me as a “I did a good deed and I need recognition”

I’ve seen someone else I know posting a photo from their car of a car accident with the emergency team. And how they’d seen the crash and they’d assisted the person. Again good deed but weird you had the thought of then photograph it as proof it happened..

I always try and do good deeds, I don’t need to document any of them and tell as many people as I can. Aibu?

It's ok, everyone thinks those people are absolutely tragic dicks. A classic example of the unsaid iceberg of social media.

I dont think it really matters. Better people get validation and attention for doing good things than bad things.

Someone posted a photo of someone else's car crash?

That's really grim

I always post on sm when I give blood. Not for the likes but to normalise it and maybe influence anybody wavering. I was influenced by seeing others do it. I think this applies to other charity / volunteer/ good deed things.

Yes but we all know by now that Facebook is a breeding ground for thinly disguised narcissistic activity, everyone looking for attention.

I don’t like it either- my parents raised us on Jesus’ words in that regard and I thought it was the norm to give and help others quietly. But the number of people I see show off publicly about their “good deeds” (and take away the dignity and privacy of the receiver in doing so) is genuinely shocking to me. I’m glad my parents raised me to do good quietly and for the inner reward of helping others rather than for external praise and recognition:

“So when you give to the needy, do not announce it with trumpets, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and on the streets, to be honored by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full. But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, so that your giving may be in secret.” Matthew 6:2-4

Rude. I wasn’t the one who brought her up.

I don’t see anything wrong with people feeling good about themselves and talking about it. The deed remains the same.

Yes, and it is rife on local FB groups.
A couple that stand out on my local one. A chap posted saying that he was in the queue in a supermarket, and let the paramedics behind him go in front. He just wanted a pat on the back.

Another I saw, which was so unreasonable it was bordering on ridiculous. A lady posted saying that her teen son had spotted a lady in distress on a bridge going over a motorway. He kept her calm and talking, and called emergency services. She was taken away by police/ambulance combo, so most likely sectioned.
The mother of the teen posted about what happened, and actually demanded the lady on the bridge get in touch with her, so her son knew she was ok. Said he was distressed as he didn't know the outcome of the emergency services taking her away.

About 9-10 yrs ago my kids & I did a backpack collection for Mary’s Meals charity. I hate to think people thought I was virtue signalling on my FB page when I was just publicising for donations & to raise awareness of the appeal 😳

Oh, that's an interesting one. I am actually well impressed with that teenager.
Asking, on Facebook, to hear from the suicidal woman afterwards is beyond strange, but perhaps that was the best reason the boy's mum could think of for broadcasting his good deed!!

Posting a picture of a lost driving license. “Can anybody help me find the owner?”. Well yes, the owner’s name and address is clearly printed on it. That might be a good place to find them, you bloody attention seeking bore.

We have a women on our local page who litter collects and posts that she has done it and puts on a picture of how much she has collected.
if she comes across something with someone’s name or address on she will also name and shame them.

She did to my friend who had a football ticket accidentally blow out of her hand at the football ground. I was with her, luckily we still managed to get in.

Anyway said ticket found its way to the park were this women happened to be picking litter up from. Well she went on a huge rant about my friend destroying nature and named her. My friend ended up going on to defend herself but some of the abuse she was getting was awful. I ended up going on and asked if any of them could be sure they had never dropped a piece of litter in their lives. Funny enough everyone shut up after that.

Anyway she does this a few more times to people, but then she starts putting on peoples addresses if the address was on the piece of litter. (Each time incidentally seemed to follow a big storm were peoples bins were blowing over) She gets warned by the admins.

Well after 3 warnings with the rest of us thinking why the hell has she not been banned she posts another name and address plus names of the persons kids and the school they go to. (The letter looked like school had given it to a pupil who then lost it).
she is now banned but has recently bobbed up onto another site of the next neighbourhood over.

batshit

That post on page 2 I think about the dog going missing/being kidnapped at 6am is so funny. I'd have been so annoyed too. Lots of busybodies about. My dread in life is to be caught on a mobile phone doing anything/something. I like my privacy. Someone once tried to pay for my bus fare. I told him I had the money. I just couldn't get the coins out of my purse. He kept trying to give it to me. I kept saying no. I'm not a charity case and was really annoyed with him. He delayed the bus setting off more than I did.

It might be a bit more savage here. View complain about the horse poo, we are rural and v used to plenty. Dog poo is a different story. Although some people still do not pick up after their dog and so we do get the poo photos.

I’ve never done a good deed and thought “hmm I’m going to post this on Facebook because it’s not enough that the person merely thanked me”

Yep, I found a wallet that had a driving license in. It was not out the way, so took it to their home.

My best friend lost her Blue Badge. I saw it on a FB group post. BB have an address on, so not sure why it had to go on FB... and the funny thing was that it had been missing for a week. I bet the finder was using it in that time!

😂😄😆

It was strange, and she was very demanding too.
I have been the person on the bridge (a different time and place), and it was posted about on a FB group. People having to mention that they were there (why????). One man even said he was talking to me when waiting for the emergency services. A total lie!
I was literally looking at the group on my phone after being admitted to hospital. Probably not the best idea, but interesting too.

Yes, the whole "100% selflessness" mentality is very much a thing, even though the good-deed is frequently a two-way street when you drill down into it.

A couple of years back, a young lady posted in my local FB group that she had just got a flat and did anyone have any furniture she could buy. I immediately messaged her and asked her if she would like a washing machine. She said yes, and "how much"? I said it was free, and if she could collect it then that would be wonderful, but I could deliver it at a push. She was really reluctant to take it for free, but I was insistent.

And why was I? Well, I'd taken it from a friend who didn't want need it when she moved house. It was a perfectly good machine, albeit only a 5KG load, so I stuck it in the garage until my washing machine conked out. When that day came, i installed it in my house, and soon realised that working or not, it was a rubbish washing machine. I bought a new one.

Said washing machine went back into the garage. I eventually gave it to some friends when theirs broke, only one day her husband brought it back, just like that, because they too had gone-in for a better larger capacity washing machine that actually did a proper wash. So back into my garage it went, because despite being a bit crap at what it did, it was obviously built like the proverbial brick out-house, as it refused to breakdown and by now was many years old. As such, I couldn't bear to just dump it.

Anyway, I was so relieved when the aforementioned young lady agreed to take it away, and yes, I told her it was small in capacity and the performance was questionable, but she was delighted. As I was I to see the back of it, though I live in fear of the day she messages me to ask if I'd like it back. I may deleted my FB account & move house before then, I think.

Ugh, I hate those posts! "I'd like this to go to someone in need". Put it on marketplace for free then! If someone is in need of it they will contact you. Noone wants to publicly declare themselves as "needy" on your post. All the comments are always back-slapping congratulations or saying women's refuge or charity shop, but let's be real, the poster knows those things exist, they just want to make their post to show what they're doing.

This should be posted on every TikTok where the poster gives money to a homeless person with one hand and sticks their phone in their face with the other to film their reaction.

That must have been rather horrible to read in those circumstances. It didn’t occur to me that the teenager in that Facebook post might not have done what was claimed. Yes why mention it at all?

Someone I know filmed her husband walking an elderly man across a road and put it on Facebook. The comments were ridiculous.

Another took photos of food she was donating to a food bank and posted.

I mean a lot of people wouldn't do this stuff if no one was to find out so I guess that means more people are benefitting but I don't know why it angers me so much.

I have posted on Facebook that I have free toys to give away though. I have also thrown toys away. Can't win really.