Don't know what to make of DH's lack of concern

[Boots4me]

I have been feeling ill since Friday: sense of doom, feeling sick, and stomach pains. I have a range of pre-existing health conditions, and I often feel unwell.

DH isn't too concerned, he keeps saying "it's probably a virus, you'll be fine."

He then suggested going to A&E which I didn't want to and I'm sure he said that to shut me up.

But I feel so upset and angry at his indifference. He keeps either downplaying my concerns or telling me that there is nothing he can do. I've just ignored him for now am not responding to him

I just wanted him to listen to me.

You need to find other people to talk to, or some other outlet. One person, even the most devoted husband, can't give you everything you need.
With your chronic conditions, it is just too much for him. You need more people to support you than just him.

If there is truly no-one else, then try writing your feelings down in a journal. Can you perhaps find a support group or telephone helpline?

I know it is hard, but perhaps your relationship needs more joy and fun from you, and less neediness and emotion.

Yes, journal too. If you don't already it might feel strange at first but just write what comes into your head. It definitely helps get things straight in your head and make sense of how you're feeling.

Agree with others re fatigue.

My partner has chronic pain and health issues, and those 10mins of support OP refers to aren’t just 10mins. It’s 10mins that can turn into days, with extra workload for the other person in terms of either supporting, or things that need doing. It can be really tiring.

We grade my partners pain, give it a number - I’ve got no real concept what those numbers mean, and I can’t make them any lower, but it helps me work out where he’s at with things.

I do it because I love and care for him, and will continue to do so, but I much prefer knowing what practically needs to happen, what answers are available if any, rather than just aimless moaning, because I can’t actually impact the pain itself.

I agree with previous posters OP in that you need to be offloading this onto a counsellor and not your DH. He's only trying to lift you out of the mindset you're in and he isn't the answer to your health problems.