Yesterday afternoon I got an offer provisionally accepted on a flat. I’m a first time buyer and I’ve been trying to get somewhere for a while and kept getting outbid, so this is a big deal.
I was at work when I found out, so I texted my mum to let her know. After the usual congratulations etc, she asked if she could tell her friends yet. I said no because I was at work and hadn’t yet had a chance to look at the details of the emails I’d received about the offer and next steps.
When I got home I read the email and found out that the offer isn’t formally accepted until I provide details of my solicitor and proof of funds. So I asked my mum to wait until I get the offer formally accepted early next week. She wasn’t happy about this and said it wasn’t fair that I was making her keep it from her friends all this time (one of her friend’s daughters lives in the next street over from the flat). She said she didn’t feel right about keeping it from her. I again repeated that I wanted her to wait until the offer acceptance was 100% confirmed.
Today I went out for lunch with my mum. We’d literally just sat down and I got a text from her friend’s daughter (who I don’t know very well) to say her mum had just told her that we’re going to be neighbours. I asked my mum if she’d told her friends. She said yes. I got annoyed and felt hurt because I’d asked her to wait. My mum said “well you’ve told your friends” and I replied, “yes, because it’s my flat”. At this point she said “well I’m involved too and what you wanted wasn’t fair”.
AIBU to be annoyed about this? We didn’t really talk for the rest of the meal and then when we got home she acted as though nothing had happened. I wouldnt even mind so much that she’d ignored my wishes and told her friends if she’d told me that she’d done it or was going to do it. What annoys me is also the fact that she did it behind my back, did she think I wasn’t going to find out?! AIBU?