Called a dirty little bitch

[ForAvidQuail]

Unfortunately today I was called this right in front of my 2 year old after going through a nightmare day . I’m obviously leaving him but he called me a dirty little bitch I’m not dirty my house is spotless I’m clean and he lives in it I just don’t get why anyone would say that ??

Hope you're ok xx hugs xxx

Sounds a shitty comment, what was the context? ( Not justifying just trying to understand)

Presumably because he knows you’re houseproud and this is a way he knows he can hurt you.

Brush it off, you don’t need to worry he said it. Just keep making plans to leave. Show your child that this isn’t an ok way to talk to anyone by making sure he never gets the chance to do it again.

He said it to hurt you. Horrible man.

Please say he's the one leaving , you say he lives in it ( in reference to the house) Why was your day a nightmare? Have you got anyone irl you can talk with?

He’s living in your house well he needs to leave now.

Im Absolutely leaving he’s bloody awful and it’s going to destroy my kids but it was a new insult and I just wondered why he would call me dirty when I’m not at all 😢

I’m clean and he lives in it I just don’t get why anyone would say that ?

Because you let him? Honestly, tell him to leave . Don't let him speak to you like this..

He's just trying to hurt you, it doesn't mean you're dirty. Ignore the twat and get rid.

@ForAvidQuail because he knew it would hurt you and make you upset you. You say this is a new insult? He sounds vile

why he would call me dirty when I’m not at all 😢

Why does it matter ?
He insulted you, just to insult you.

Why should you be the one one to leave? kick the worthless bastard out.

Well your kids might miss him but they will be safe with you, it will help them knowing you there for them.

where will you all be leaving to ?

I think you’re absolutely right. I’m leaving anyway I’ve got 3 kids 2 youngest with him he’s gotten so much worse with his comments I’m done 👍

You need to make sure you are safe and happy , look after yourself and children .
Can you speak with anyone in real life ?

Good. Take him and go far far away. Cut him out of your lives.

Oh his comments are indescribable but he apologises every blue moon I am leaving him that’s for sure I did bleach my hands when he called me dirty yet again and he’s terrible I am leaving him 👍

@ForAvidQuail don't bleach your hands, you're only hurting yourself not him

@ForAvidQuail can you afford to move out, do you need to speak to the council? Have you got any local women's/housing charities who could help steer you in the right direction?

Nope I have nobody. My life is terrible awful in fact but I have been bullied by him that much I think it’s ok but I know it’s not I’m the cliche I will be leaving. He puts a bag on his back and says he’s leaving us walks out then comes back an hour or so later and calls me insane for getting upset he’s done that for years I’ve been hysterical in the past but now I’m so bored and so very very tired of it it’s head games I’m knackered with it all but then I’m called dirty

@ForAvidQuail he sounds like a controlling knob head you deserve more, can you Google women's charities in your area? ( Try on a safe search maybe, I don't know if he checks your phone )

Call womens aid and get an escape plan.

He is escalating.

He sensed his "I am leaving" bullshit didnt work anymore so he ramped it up. And soon it will escate again. If he even gets a SNIFF that you are done with him, thats when he will totally lose his shit and you and you kids will be in danger. Log out of MN and everything else, change all your passwords, and act your normal "scared" self. In the meantime, make a plan. Your local library should have internet access on computers, browse incognito out of the house if you really must use your phone.

Do you work? Reach out to anyone at work who may be sympathetic. You would be surprised how many people who you wouldnt thinkg would care, who are willing to help you.

Take care sweetheart and FFS be careful.

Do you feel you could call the police and say he’s a use and ask for him to be removed? I’m sorry I don’t k ie what your rights are re changing locks etc but MN always seems to suggest calling Women’s Aid, so perhaps that’s a good place to start?

I’ve already rang and chickened out many times. Now I mean it I’m just so done so so tired. I hope he goes nicely I don’t think he will though. I shall see very soon

@ForAvidQuail You can do it, believe in your self , you deserve to be safe and happy

OP, you say that you've 'chickened out' before, can I ask why you've done that, what it is that has made you stay with this vile piece of shit?