Visited parents for them to make stupid jokes.

[ThePerkyCoralPoet]

Visited my parents to drop dinner over. Myum
kwpt waffling about something after work and I said “how many times have we heard this now” she then turned around and nudged my dad and said “ooh look at her. She’s rude. She’s not my daughter. My daughter is supposed to have manners” at which point I got in the car and ignored her and drove back to mine. She thinks I’m being unreasonable and a brat. I however. Think what she said was rude and stupid.

Aibu?

I sometimes say to my 10 year old son when he hasn't gone to bed and I see him playing with the dog, "that's not my son! My son went to bed like I asked!" He doesn't strop. He laughs. Then he goes to bed!!

I have been known to say to my 13 year old when he forgets a thank you "oh, what have you done with my son! My son always says thanks!" Or something similar! He rolls his eyes and then we move on, chat about something and enjoy our evening together.

I can't believe your reaction to "she's not my daughter, my daughter has manners" is to have a tantrum and complain to the internet. It's completely bonkers!

There absolutely must be a backstory here. No adult can react like this to something so minor, surely ....

You were rude. She reacted in kind.

You were rude. Your mum was jokingly pulling you up on your rudeness. Don’t give it if you can’t take it.
How many people telling you that you were rude does it take for you to accept that you were rude?

No she was actually saying she’s not my daughter in a way that’s like “hmph I don’t know her” not like “‘my daughter has better manners than that” it miffed me off. I know her and that wasn’t funny.

As many posters have said, you sound like really hard work, and very obstinate and difficult. I feel sorry for your parents. I bet they feel like they're walking on eggshells around you.

You came onto AIBU to ask if you're being unreasonable, and everyone has said you are. Yet you're stamping your feet like a toddler, and saying 'NO YOU'RE ALL WRONG!!!!' 😖 Seriously, you sound about 5!

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Yeah OP you were rude :( Your mum was talking, you shut her down- disguising it as a joke- then left . Your poor mum! Sometimes mums just like to chat and vent … let them!

You started it.

You were rude when you started it. You were rude when you stormed off. And you were rude when you hung up on her. There's only one person who looks bad here.

I’m not sure if you’re agreeing with me.
But honestly, let it go. This could turn into too big a rift.

I don't think you were that rude to say to your own mum "how many times have we heard this now?" Whether it's in a jokey way or matter of fact. It could be said rudely but you aren't always a bastion of politeness around your mum. And if it was then you're unreasonable.

What is actually sounds like is you're both pissed off at each other and responded badly to something that wasn't meant that way. You were jokey, she's probably trying to be too. You do sound like this is the proverbial straw. No one gets that pissed off to storm out over one comment.

You are behaving like a brat. You were rude and continue to be so.

You started an argument with your mum now you're starting an argument with everyone online. Go to sleep.

Yeah, we do this… ‘that’s not my son, he’s out of bed before midday’... even the kids do it now ‘that’s not my dad, he’s eating a vegetable!’ It’s a joke.

So you can be rude but it's ok cause "joking" but your mother can't?

Pathetic

You're being ridiculous and not making yourself look great. Let it go.

You made a “jokey” comment she found rude.

She replied with a “jokey” comment you found rude.

You’re even, except you started it and then you stormed off.

Unless there’s major backstory, you seriously need to get over it and both make up and grow up!

You were very rude and unkind... I'm sure almost everyone tells stories others have heard before or repeats themselves, no need to be so nasty. I'm secretly sick of hearing about my father in laws fishing and mother in laws job but I love them so I smile, nod and change the subject after a little while.

I think you were over sensitive in your reaction too. I think you owe your mum an apology

Yes. You were rude.

Myum kwpt waffling about something after work and I said “how many times have we heard this now

What a rude and unnecessary comment, no wonder your mum retaliated. You then stormed off and hung up on her phone call. Frankly, if I was your mother I’d be giving you a wide berth, it doesn’t sound like you like your mum much. I wouldn’t want to know someone who was as ill mannered as you were either.

Why have you posted asking if you are being u reasonable, then being rude to everyone who says you are? You sound very rude

Or "who are you and what have you done with Sammy? Because Sammy would never say that"

So let me get this straight. You made a fairly rude comment is a “jokey sarcastic way” and instead of overreacting or getting angry (like you did when you stormed out) they tried to make a joke.

You are absolutely being unreasonable and really should understand your part in this and the outcome of the evening was completely due to your initial reaction.

YABVeryU

You sound awful. Your poor mum.

Realise I do this, re-tell a story several times. Grates. Must learn to stop myself - or put it in a novel.
NB You were rude. My DD says similar, however, and I shut up about whatever it was.