Visited parents for them to make stupid jokes.

[ThePerkyCoralPoet]

Visited my parents to drop dinner over. Myum
kwpt waffling about something after work and I said “how many times have we heard this now” she then turned around and nudged my dad and said “ooh look at her. She’s rude. She’s not my daughter. My daughter is supposed to have manners” at which point I got in the car and ignored her and drove back to mine. She thinks I’m being unreasonable and a brat. I however. Think what she said was rude and stupid.

Aibu?

I think you sound like a spoilt child , I'd be ashamed to do that to my mum, who is no longer here btw but have some respect and grow up fgs how are you?? I'd be in the phone apologising right now.

You obviously just want people to agree with you and are being unpleasant to those who do not.

Well, line me up on the side of those saying YWBU, you were rude to your Mum and behaved childishly. Much like your responses on here. But we won't change that dead set opinion of yours.

You don’t turn around and say “that’s not my daughter” pathetic.

You need to grow up.

Why post if you’re just going to tell everyone they are wrong?

Six of one and half a dozen of the other.

She says how she was talking was ‘a joke’ and you say you were talking in ‘a jokey way’. You massively overacted, it sounds as if you were speaking to each other in exactly the same way.

It sounds like you’ve been drinking, but you drove off so I hope not.

Her remark was harmless. She thought you were a bit cheeky and made a silly joke. I really can't believe you stormed out of her house and then put the phone down on her. I'd never treat my mum like that.

You were rude, she called you on it and you threw a tantrum.
Get a grip and learn some manners.

What's the backstory?

You were rude first and what she said was no worse - she basically said that's not like you to be so rude. She called you out for poor manners, you were being ill mannered.

You were tired and were taking them dinner so you didn't like being called out but fact is, you started it.

Your mum was talking about something you've heard before. You made a rude comment, she picked you up on it and you stormed out and are continuing to seethe and strop.

How does that make your Mum the bad guy?

I'm team Mum.

Get a grip and grow up op

You were rude, then rude again by hanging up. You sound like a spoilt teenage brat.

She's making the point that she raised you to behave less like a stroppy, rude, nightmare.

Jesus, I wouldn't have called you - I'd have let you stew in your own juices.

How are you not embarrassed to admit to such ridiculous behaviour, even anonymously?

My dd is 13 - a literal teenager, and if she acted like you have she wouldn't have her phone to sulk online.

Yes, you are BU.

You sound like my 12 year old, huffing and puffing, she's your mother, get over it, you sound a bit uptight 🤔

Your Mum offended you but says she only said it in a jokey way. Her rude comment was in response to your rude comment that she was offended by but you say you only said in a jokey way. So both equally insulted, both think the other rude, both said something offensive but claim it was a joke.

The apple did not fall far from the tree, did it?

Would you have been any less rude to her afterwards had she said any of

'It's not like you to be so rude to me. Are you OK, dear?' or

'At what point did it ever become acceptable for you to speak to anybody like that?' or what she was probably thinking after your following performance;

'Who the fuck do you think you are?'

But couldn't she argue she was saying it in a sarcastic jokey way too? Why are you allowed to make sarcastic comments and she isn't?

You must be a teenager surely?!!

My son constantly tells me the same story, people at work tell me the same stories, parents, friends etc - but I wouldn’t make a comment - I’m sure I have a tendency to go on about the same stuff at times

Imo your mum was way out of order but I feel you’d had a bad day OP and it was your trigger point.

Which I do get, as it’d trigger me too! Your mum saying”that’s not my daughter” would have flipped me over the edge.

hope you can resolve it in your favor though 💐

#teammum

It all seems a bit over the top unless there's a huge part of the story you've missed out

Not sure how well this is going to go for you, OP. You were rude to your mum, she responded with what sounds like a miffed, piss-takey remark and you’ve stormed off, are apparently so enraged you can’t type, are (incorrectly) throwing around words like ‘ignorant’ and pushing back against everyone who’s saying YABU.

If it takes so very little to send you off the deep end you must be bloody exhausting to deal with. Are you always this easily offended?

Quite!

Are you ok OP? Genuinely because to react this way O wonder if you are struggling and this has been the last straw?

You were rude to your mum and it sounds like she was obviously joking and pointing out that you are usually better mannered. It clearly didn’t translate well but I think you probably owe her an apology for your strop.