Husband doesnt wear his wedding ring

[NavyFox]

Hi, I got married a year ago. My husband always takes his wedding ring off for football, taking a shower, washing the pots. However, he often doesn't put it back on. He can go for days without wearing it until I say something. Last week I said you're not wearing your ring and he put it on. Later that night it was off again and he said its coz he washed the pots.
I am very hurt by it and took my rings and his and put them away in a box. I told him I won't be wearing them and if people ask why I'm not wearing them, I will just tell them the truth. He doesn't care and hasn't asked me about them since. I raised it again the other day and he just looked at me. Again, he hasn't asked about them or offered to wear them. I am really fed up at the moment and to be honest have considered leaving. I've told him so many times it's an important thing to me but he doesn't seem to care.

My husband doesn’t really wear his. It doesn’t bother me (he does wear his ring if we are out for a night out or as a family eg Sunday church)

It's absolutely mental that you'd consider leaving over whether he wears a ring or not.

It's reasonable to be mildly disappointed. The symbolism of a wedding ring is obviously very meaningful to most people. I can understand why you'd like him to wear it. But being so upset that he doesn't is not normal or acceptable at all.

I don't wear my wedding ring. I don't like sleeping in it and my fingers swell up quite easily when I'm warm. So I take it off and just forget to put it back on. I haven't worn it for weeks. It says absolutely nothing about my commitment to my husband and I'd think he was a lunatic if he threatened to leave me over it.

This is very dramatic and makes me think you haven't taken your vows seriously. You can't really think you'll leave someone over this?!

What would you do if there was a real issue in your relationship?!

I don't really wear mine; they've been sitting on the kitchen windowsill for months 🤷‍♀️

It doesn't mean anything; I just prefer the look as I tend to wear multiple bracelets and it can look very busy.

I’d assume that there are other issues for you to find this so important.

Is there more going 9n than the ring?

If not then sorry but you are been utterly ridiculous. It is a bit of metal. It is not what makes a marriage!

Arr you young @NavyFox because your post is very immature

It doesn't bother you but it bothers OP.

I can understand why it is hurtful OP. The rings are symbolic and meaningful to you but your DH is making it clear they don't mean anything to him.
It would have been fairer if before you were married he had told you he didn't want to wear a ring.
How has your marriage been apart from.the issue with the rings OP?

Edited to say I see there are a few pp who think because it's a non issue for them OP shouldn't be upset by it. OP is totally entitled to her feelings on this.

My DF never wore a ring, and neither did anyone I knew in his generation. DH wears a ring, but BIL who is a tradesman does not; he’s never had one.

We’ve both not worn any rings for about 8 years. I took them off when pregnant and he lost his in hospital when having our 1st child. It doesn’t mean anything. Do you feel secure in your relationship? It screams that you don’t trust him.

So why have you taken yours off.. talk to each other ... not everyone likes wearing a ring.

Me and my wife have , over the last 30 years been gradually wearing our rings less and less.
We have jobs where we could easily lose a finger of it snagged, but we don't often wear them outside of work. Until we had them resized last year they didn't fit!

But somehow my wife's lost her engagement ring and she's devastated, a year later after discovering it not there.

My view it's 30 years of marriage, a ring is just for show...

Seconding wondering if there’s more to this. Do you suspect he’s cheating? A marriage is about loving each other, wearing a ring seems a very silly thing to get worked up over. My DH lost his years ago, funnily enough it’s never occurred to me to leave him over it.

DH lost his about two months after our wedding because he can’t wear it for work - health & safety. It was inevitable really, taking it off and putting it on. We were both a little upset but haven’t replaced it, cos it’ll just go again. Sometimes we joke and I tell him I’m not bothered as long as he knows he’s married, and he tells me wearing one would only make him more attractive to women 😂 (this is a joke, for clarity..!)

There must be other issues that’s making you want to leave rather than just a ring.

Dh doesn’t wear his unless we are going out at the weekend, he has a manual job and wouldn’t want to damage the ring or his finger due to wearing the ring at his workplace.

My dad never wears his wedding ring. My mum wears hers but never wears her engagement ring. They have been happily married for over 40 years. It's just a ring. I agree that there must be more going on if you are seriously considering leaving over this. Have you actually explained how much it means to you or just repeatedly told him to put it back on?

You’re cutting your nose off to spite your face. You sound ridiculous. I’ve been married 20 years. Sunday morning I took my rings off to clean the cooker. Since then I’ve done 4 school runs, had coffee with a friend and been in the office. My rings are still sat on the kitchen window sill since Sunday morning, I just keep forgetting to put them back on. If my husband got the hump about this I would think he was a controlling twat.

Married a year? Mine took his off a month after our wedding while we were on our honeymoon.

That said, it’s never bothered me. He just didn’t get on with wearing a ring. Considering leaving your husband over an issue like this is a massive overreaction.

A ring doesn't actually mean anything.

There's plenty of horrible, abusive, cheating husbands wearing rings all the time.

Plenty who don't wear them who are fantastic men.

A ring doesn't equal a health, happy relationship.

Neither DH or I wanted wedding rings and I don’t have an engagement ring. We’ve been married over 25 years now so it’s irrelevant to the quality of our marriage.
Are you worried that other people (women?) will think he isn’t married?

We have been married 35 years and my husband has not worn his wedding ring since we returned from our honeymoon. In fact, I have no idea where it actually is. He had a manual job and wearing his ring would have been dangerous, he has a different manual job now and his fingers often have cuts, scabs etc so he couldnt just wear it at weekends anyway. Are you concerned that other women may see him as available if he isnt wearing his ring?

My DH hardly ever wears his, and we’ve been married 30 years. His ring has loads of sentimental value to him, too; when my MIL died more than 20 years ago he was gifted her ring and he had it melted down with his existing ring to make it chunkier. But wearing a ring all the time is just never something he got into. It has never, ever bothered me. I’m not much of a ring wearer myself, mainly because I have fat little chipolata fingers. I have a lovely diamond set wedding ring which he bought me a few years into our marriage and I wear that when we go out, along with my engagement and eternity rings. The rest of the time I wear the thin, plain, cheap as chips band he bought me before we married, when we were skint. This ring is very dear to me, but even so I often forget to put it on.

All of these things are just trinkets. Stuff. Inanimate objects. Why their presence or otherwise on your fingers should be an issue is beyond me. You do sound young, and newly married, but you also sound rather old fashioned to me.

It's a ring. You do realise you're still married whether or not he wears it? I can go weeks without putting mine back on.

I don't wear my wedding ring or engagement ring, I must admit I just don't like Jewellery and when my two DCs were babies I was forever having to take them off to wash hands etc that it seemed better to just keep them off permanently. I do however have an outline of a heart tattooed on my wedding finger.
My husband has never cared or seemed stressed that I don't want to wear my rings.

Rarely wear mine neither does my dh

luckily neither of need a ring to remember we are married 😂

but I did have a concerned colleague ask if everything was ok at home as they noticed I wasn’t wearing my ring 😂

It's only a ring. What do you think is going to happen if he doesn't wear it?