I don't want to be a Debbie downer but having a drink 3 nights every week is probably too much. My conclusion is that trying to drink the amount which is almost definitely safe is really just not worth the candle, easier and almost certainly healthier not to drink at all.
Just in case anyone cares my own drinking hisotry:
1992- 1994 Age 15-18 weekly drinking mostly beer or cider couple of pints once or twice a week
1994-2000 Age 18-23 Student years heavy drinking 2/3/4 nights a week, the beging of having a drink at home some nights. Definately above government limits drank allsorts.
2000-2004 Age 23-27 Junior doctor regular nights out ( probably once a week) drinking at home another 2-3 nights, some weeks more, some less, mostly wine. Almost certainly too much.
2004-2012 Age 28-35 ish Mum to young children nights out very rare but wine at home 3-4 nights a week.
2012- 2018 Age 35-41 Stuff starting to be muttered by some medics about links with cancer, early studies showing serious bad effects from binge drinking, goverment guidence reduced from 21 to 14 units. Started being strict about no drinking Mon-Thurs never on school nights.
2018-Sept 2024 aged 41-48
More evidence emerging about harm at even " safe" levels of drinking. Salford study about FASD is published. DH's Dad is acknowledged as an alcoholic, he dies in 2021. Contempories start being diagnosed with cancer ( breast and bowel). Decide not to drink at home or in term time. Now well below government recomedations but evidence is that there is no safe level ( WHO 2023)
Sept 2024 Decide trying to guestimate how much might be safe is a mug's game.Give up on the whole "will I drink, won't I drink ?" narrative on any given occasion. Also menopause on the horizon which is not a good bedfellow with alcohol.
So that is my journey and how I came to relaise that " a few wines" a couple of times a week is not harmless. I do worry about my alcohol consumption in the past although I would never have been described as a problem drinker, just like smoking I just hope I have stopped in time..