Would you have had another child?

[Annabella92]

Or a couple more children if your circumstances were different?

What would you need in your life to have had more children?

For me, simply more money. Bigger house. I would have liked at least one more. Its OK, but it would have been nice.

Had a boy followed by a girl in my twenties. I wouldn't have another if someone paid me!
It has been hard working full time, being there for both of them, having time to do things with them, keep the house ticking over etc.
My eldest is 18 now and obviously doesn't 'need' me in the same way that a child does but they still need a lot of support whilst they learn to be an adult.
I think people would potentially have more children if we parented like people did in the past, when 14 year olds were considered independent and old enough to work full time. I think we support our children until much later in life than we ever have and it doesn't leave much energy for large families!

Exactly the same here. We have 3 and I think would have tried for a 4th if finances and housing were different.

Started late and struggled to conceive. Had two close together and it was very hard work. But if we had been younger I would have loved another two.

Two is perfect. Wouldn’t have had more whatever the circumstances. Even the super wealthy families mostly still have two or three. The most insanely wealthy international family we know have 3.

No. Did it once, never again. Loathed the whole pregnancy experience more than I like children.

No. We debated long and hard about having a third but I’m pleased we didn’t. Not just for financial reasons but also because I just don’t think I’d be cut out for it - I can’t bear mess and noise!

we stayed at a friends’ house recently, they had four children, and even though they live picture-perfect lives with money, a big house and domestic help, I couldn’t help but notice that it was still pretty chaotic and that our friends were still super calm and tolerant as parents - something I think we’d struggle with!

I have 3, and happy with that, but i’d have had shorter age gaps is circumstances permitted. I have 14yrs between eldest and youngest, and have been doing the school run for 26yrs and I am so over it

Yes.

If I had met my partner earlier, then yes, but I was engaged for four years to a man who announced, just before our wedding that he had changed his mind and didn't want children ever.

I knew I would become angry and resentful so I walked away which was tough, and started again.

I have 2, and we've stopped there because DH (who is an excellent hands on dad who does half the child care) doesn't think he'd cope well with more. Had I been a SAHP, I think we'd have had three or four.

I daydream sometimes about how many kids I'd have with no contraception. Probably about 10. Weird thought and I've no idea why it appeals, it's just a fantasy of a giant mansion and armies of staff.

We have two DC. We are both the middle of three and we agreed we would never put another child in that position so it was stop at 2 or have 4 which we simply couldn’t afford. Instead I went to uni and had a great career..

Same here. I'm lucky to survive a second one. The second pregnancy felt like that I had stolen 9 months from my first child as I wasn't able to function for the duration of my pregnancy physically first and then mentally.