Would you have had another child?

[Annabella92]

Or a couple more children if your circumstances were different?

What would you need in your life to have had more children?

For me, simply more money. Bigger house. I would have liked at least one more. Its OK, but it would have been nice.

I have 2 with my DP but also have 2 step children who live with us full time. If DP didn't have children from a previous relationship then I would have liked to have at least one more but 4 between us is more than enough is all respects.

Nope nothing would change my mind. World peace maybe… but otherwise no thanks.

That did occur to me! Those little hooves...

Exactly what I did. My Nana said "you can stop now, you've been blessed!"

Absolutely not. 2 is more than enough!
In some ways I do see that 1 would have been enough.

I would have loved one more but we realised we needed to prioritise ND child's education. He needed something different and we knew we'd have to pay for it. No regrets.

Totally this

I have one. I was very lucky to have one. I've loved it all but it's horrible having to work full-time when you want to spend time with your baby/child.

It must be wonderful to have enough money not to have to work. The only way I'd have been able to have more children was to win the lottery.

If I was rich I'd have a houseful of kids.

If I had more time, more money, more energy, a bigger house, better health/genetics i would've had a minibus full.

But if ifs and buts were candy and nuts we'd all have a merry Christmas...

I always wanted a big family, but I didn't have my first until 35, second at 38. Wish I had had them in my 20s, but I wasn't financially stable enough. I had complications during both my pregnancies and the risk of dying during a third pregnancy is all too real. Now in my 40s and I know I wont have any more.

We have one.
We (especially I) wanted two, but had multiple miscarriages.

Nope, you couldn’t pay me to have another.

I hated pregnancy and births were shit so nope, no more for me no matter what

Had 2 would have had another 2 if money were no object - as in enough to afford a housekeeper, cleaner and good holidays.

I have two and would have loved at least 2 more. However then exh left and had several more kids with his new partner. I didn't meet anyone else and now too old. something i will always feel sad about

I have noticed that with a lot of my friends who have 3 kids, the first two are normally the same gender, none of them ever admit to it, but I'd love to see stats, families that have 2 kids always seem to have one of each sex!

We have a lot of money but like a lot of people, we left it later than we should have. I was already mid thirties after DC2, and having had a few miscarriages and a complex pregnancy, we were high risk for still birth & other issues. It wasn't worth it.

We need to normalise having our families at a better point in our fertility - mid/late twenties is a healthier time to produce children than mid/late thirties.

@PerditaLaChien there's a sweet spot I think, we had children mid 20s but going for a 3rd felt like a risk when we weren't more financially established, as it happened we went on to do well and now we are financially comfortable we wouldn't want to go back to baby rearing, but then I suppose if we'd have had 3 chances are we wouldn't have established our careers as we have. Sorry that was a lot of "haves".

I have 3 and would’ve loved a 4th but I was 37 by then and had terrible SPD which got worse with each pregnancy so didn’t think I could physically go through it again. Also it would’ve been a pain to fit 4 in a car.

I have two, and had to wait until my career / finances were at a point where we could manage.
I wanted more, maybe 3 or 4 in total.
But two periods of mat leave close together took a financial toll, and we bought a house etc. We just couldn’t afford it. I couldn’t fathom how we would make it work, financially. How we would afford another period of mat leave. How we would pay for a bigger car, more crippling nursery costs etc etc.
I was desperate for a third, but by the time we felt financially able to try again I was just over 40 and it never happened.
The really frustrating thing is we were just a very few years away from being really high earners, but by that time, I couldn’t get pregnant. I still yearn for another.

I have 3 and 1dsc
Wouldn't change it

Why do you want to know and what are you going to do with the information that people provide for you? What is your AIBU?

We stopped at 2, simply because of the cost. Every time we had a child, it took until they started school to financially recover (due to childcare costs of us both working fulltime). We live comfortably now with our 2. If they need new clothes, money for school trips or days out, we don't have to think twice. I'm one of 4 and my parents lived in absolute poverty. I never wanted my kids to experience that. If money was no object, sure. I'd probably have had 3 or 4!

I have one. I would have one more if my partner was more supportive and helpful (and much less selfish).
Possibly if my parents were more interested.

As it stands, even if I won the lottery I wouldn't have another with the life I have.

We have 3 and debated a 4th. We came to the correct decision not to put my body through a 4th pregnancy. I am on a weight loss journey and trying to carve out some time for myself. The complications in my pregnancies have increased in severity. In my first 2 pregnancies I had a stillbirth risk, with dd2 there was also a stillbirth risk and a threat to my life. I've learned I would have been pushing my luck. It came down to me wanting to be present for those that I already have and to be in the best shape. If I didn't have complications and not had 3 sections I would have considered it. We have girl, boy, girl. Neither of us have gender preferences and we wanted a 3rd just because, both of us enjoy parenting and our dd2 is joyful.

Nothing would make me want to have more.

Had one, money not a problem would probably do the same again. I don’t have the bandwidth for more.