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To ask if people today don’t agree with ivf?!

817 replies

Yaerry · 25/11/2024 15:44

or am I just naive? Watched the new documentary about Jean Purdy and I’m surprised there was so much push back at the time. It’s made me wonder if one day surrogacy will be more accepted? I thought ivf was just a standard thing now that wasn’t controversial.

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CharismaticMegafauna · 25/11/2024 17:45

I don’t think my mum agreed with IVF but I am not sure if she was opposed to it being funded on the NHS or to the idea in principle. It wouldn’t have been to do with leftover embryos. She was also opposed to organ transplantation.

CurlewKate · 25/11/2024 17:46

IVF is fine- although I know some anti choice---- pro life people who are opposed.

Surrogacy is a completely different thing- and I will never be able to support it.

pinksheetss · 25/11/2024 17:47

I don't think saying IVF isn't natural because it goes against population control is fair. The rise in infertility numbers shows how the chemicals and surroundings we are in affect human fertility.
I don't think nearly as many of those suffering with infertility now would have been the same back in the day.

PadstowGirl · 25/11/2024 17:48

My ethical issues with IVF are around the fact that some people working in the industry have made a fortune from other people's misery.
And yet they are treated like heros.

ByGentleFatball · 25/11/2024 17:48

EvilsElsasPetSnowman · 25/11/2024 17:44

Have I missed something - why does anyone care if an embryo was destroyed? What else should have happened to them if they’re not needed?

I think they should be used for various scientific tests

CaptainCabinetsTrappedInCabinets · 25/11/2024 17:49

Controversial, but I think if theres people not being able to get or get others pregnant. We should'nt force this either with IVF or surrogacy.

Having a baby is not a right.

The same way I believe people who have many disabled children (knowing theirs a high possibility of issues) are wrong.

Pollyanna87 · 25/11/2024 17:49

I’m against IVF because I believe that humans have the right to be made the human way.

helpfulperson · 25/11/2024 17:49

I do wonder if the increase in youngsters with SEN could be in part due to the rise in various fertility treatments. We just don't know what longer term effects could be.

Lemonadeand · 25/11/2024 17:50

category12 · 25/11/2024 17:45

One difference is you definitely know you have a viable embryo in the one case, and you don't in the other. You're just preventing a possibly fertilised egg from implanting, and it may not even have been fertilised with MAP.

Yes, that’s true.

BoobyDazzler · 25/11/2024 17:50

I think ivf is a wonderful thing but I'm
bit sure it should be funded by the NHS. I’m also not entirely sure that encouraging woman to part with their eggs to get cheaper treatment is entirely ethical.

SemperIdem · 25/11/2024 17:51

CaptainCabinetsTrappedInCabinets · 25/11/2024 17:49

Controversial, but I think if theres people not being able to get or get others pregnant. We should'nt force this either with IVF or surrogacy.

Having a baby is not a right.

The same way I believe people who have many disabled children (knowing theirs a high possibility of issues) are wrong.

Not dying of heart failure isn’t a right either but organ donation doesn’t seem to get the flack fertility treatment does.

Wellingtonspie · 25/11/2024 17:51

I don’t agree with the buying or selling of someone’s body or its parts.

OchonAgusOchonOh · 25/11/2024 17:51

I have no issues with IVF when the mother's egg is used. I have serious concerns about the use of donor eggs. There are commercial companies who sell the idea of donating eggs as being an easy way to make some quick money. They do not give adequate information on the risks to the donor. I read an article on a woman who nearly died from Ovarian Hyperstimulation Syndrome (OHSS)
and the company she was selling the eggs to were useless. There is also next to no research on long-term effects of egg donation, something the companies gloss over by stating there is no evidence of long-term effects.

Interesting article here - www.statnews.com/2017/01/28/egg-donors-risks/

pinksheetss · 25/11/2024 17:51

Pollyanna87 · 25/11/2024 17:49

I’m against IVF because I believe that humans have the right to be made the human way.

Is it not humans creating IVF then? Was always under the impression my fertility doctor was a human but huh I must have been wrong

Juno86 · 25/11/2024 17:52

Moglet4 · 25/11/2024 17:42

I really admire women who volunteer to be surrogates for sisters, best friends etc. That’s because I know I couldn’t do it myself; I absolutely know I’d become attached to the child and consider myself its mother. Kudos to those who can do it though.

Kudos nothing.

The baby has no option in this shitshow.

Kudos indeed to the women who deliberately choose to engage in a process which rips a newborn away from the only person it knows. You wouldn’t do that to a puppy.

sprigatito · 25/11/2024 17:52

PadstowGirl · 25/11/2024 17:48

My ethical issues with IVF are around the fact that some people working in the industry have made a fortune from other people's misery.
And yet they are treated like heros.

Is it fair to say they're profiting from human misery? They're profiting as much from alleviating misery and helping create families, surely? I'd say profiting purely from human misery would be someone who manufactures gallows, or writes scripts for Keith Lemon.

That said, I am opposed to private healthcare (and education, and transport) personally. The two purposes - maximising profits and providing the best service - always end up being in conflict, and there's only ever one winner.

CaptainCabinetsTrappedInCabinets · 25/11/2024 17:52

SemperIdem · 25/11/2024 17:51

Not dying of heart failure isn’t a right either but organ donation doesn’t seem to get the flack fertility treatment does.

A baby is not essential for life. Organ donation is.

IHaveNeverLivedintheCastle · 25/11/2024 17:53

I've never been in favour of it. I was 18 when the first "test tube baby" was born. The then Pope and I were (surprisingly) in agreement. My view has, if anything become more opposed, not sure what the current Pope thinks.

BobbyBiscuits · 25/11/2024 17:54

I wouldn't equate IVF with surrogacy at all. The issues with IVF is the amount of times women go through it without success. Then those with more financial resources can do it more times but sometimes it's exploitative as it's so unlikely to succeed.
With surrogacy we are talking about involving vulnerable women strangers in someone's pregnancy whereby there's a massive balance of power. I find it very unethical.

pinksheetss · 25/11/2024 17:54

@nosmartphone

Firstly - every IVF child I know is perfectly fine, lots even ahead of their class. Zero issues mentally or physically.

Secondly - your argument that the egg and sperm aren't meant to go together doesn't quite sit correctly. In IVF cases where no donor is used it quite literally is the mothers egg and fathers sperm going together and creating an embryo. They are just facilitated to make it happen. So it's not incompatible otherwise the embryo would be created

nokidshere · 25/11/2024 17:54

Having a baby is not a right

Again....

Before we even start discussing the rights and wrongs of ivf or surrogacy we need to address forced sterilisation or compulsory contraception for the many thousands of shit parents already out there.

You cannot say 'it's not an automatic right' then let every unfit person have a child. If it's not an automatic right then we should be able to 'control' who has babies, or at the very least stop the shit ones from producing.

EvilsElsasPetSnowman · 25/11/2024 17:54

Pollyanna87 · 25/11/2024 17:49

I’m against IVF because I believe that humans have the right to be made the human way.

What rights are IVF babies not born with??

TinyRebel · 25/11/2024 17:55

I have no issue with IVF, but am uncomfortable with anonymous or untraceable gamete donation because I think children have a need to know where they come from.
Surrogacy is abhorrent and the buying and selling of babies should be banned.

Ohhbaby · 25/11/2024 17:55

Dumptytree · 25/11/2024 16:37

Its been very interesting seeing the discourse coming out of the USA about this especially the pro-life crowd. Its been interesting that DT courted them but has also gone to great lengths to stress he supports IVF and will actually make insurance pay for it.

I have no problem with IVF but if life begins at conception to the point that plan B should be banned then IVF should be banned. I do think its hypocritical to be pro-life/ forced birth and pro-ivf. Ive always been genuinely to understand how people reconcile the two.

I haven't met a genuine pro-lifer ( as in life begins at conception, No exceptions) that are pro ivf.
Most pro choicers are pro ivf

IHaveNeverLivedintheCastle · 25/11/2024 17:56

CurlewKate · 25/11/2024 17:46

IVF is fine- although I know some anti choice---- pro life people who are opposed.

Surrogacy is a completely different thing- and I will never be able to support it.

I'm very much pro choice. I don't support IVF.

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