To be upset no one ever looks after me when I am sick?

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I am an adult living with my parents due to living in London and saving up for a deposit. My brother also lives at home right now whilst he studies for his masters.

My brother was sick a few days before I caught whatever he had. In that time I gave him a heated blanket, brought him tea and toast and cooked his favourite meal. I genuinely enjoy caring for people.

Now I have been in bed for the past two days and not a single person has even checked up on me.

It just makes me sad.

When I’m sick I like to be left alone, but I appreciate some people like to be pandered to.

Your parents didn’t check on your brother either (presumably because he’s an adult and not on death’s door) so it’s not like you have been excluded. He probably doesn’t look after people when sick as your parents don’t.

Maybe what you’re lacking is a partner? You may want to be cared for in a way that your family can’t.

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no, they didn’t really do anything for my brother. It’s kind of their style

OP it is sad. Everyone could do with being taken care of sometimes, especially when you're not well.

Sometimes people need a nudge in the right direction (they shouldnt always but they do). If you were vocal about how you feel and what you need would they check on you and help?

It's feels so lonely to feel like there is no one to care about you. So no its not dramatic.

Ahh you’re a youngun! Your family are mean and weird not to even ask how you are or offer a drink and sympathy.

My daughters are both in their 30s and I would still be doing my utmost to make them feel better.

Doesn’t matter what age you are it costs nothing to show some kindness.

Hope you’ve feel better soon OP 💐

I'm sorry OP.
As a parent I can't imagine my daughter being under the same roof as me, whilst she's unwell, and not checking in on her at points. I'm not going to stop being her Mum just because she's 26 or whatever age.

I can imagine it feeling terrible and quite lonely. I hope you feel better soon.

What a set of rotters! I think with this lot, you can't wait for them to act. You have to ask for what you want.
Put this on the family whatsapp. or set one up since it feels like they may not have one. Eg... lay it on with a trowel like this.

"Oi Mum Dad,
Just to let you know that I am still alive.
I'm up in my room feeling quite unwell but will recover

I caught this bug from Brother, he was in the same situation, but I looked after him when he was poorly. I haven't seen him since either.

It's not too much to ask for one of you to look in and say hello is it? although I haven't set eyes on a real life human being for (fill in) x days. And a cup of tea wouldn't go amiss either. I feel quite sad atm. "

You have every right to guilt trip em all! I hope you feel better soon.

No back story. I work and contribute to food shopping, cook meals and often whack a hoover around. As I am a neat freak.

Parents just aren’t lovey dovey.

We get on fine normally. Rarely argue as we are all too polite.

Oh you poor thing! I'm considerably older than you and would be very upset to be ignored while ill. Not to mention how emotional being full of cold / flu makes you. I would message all of them - highlight brother in particular - stating what you need. If you are then ignored it will be indicative of a different problem. Hopefully they will rally . Get well soon!

Sounds pretty shitty OP. Poor you. You were caring for your brother, knowing that your parents wouldn’t be, but he hasn’t reciprocated. Tell him how you feel or just say, hey, I need a bit of support please!
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only help people if you genuinely want to help, and never expect kindness to be repaid

Totally agree with this.

Time to advocate for yourself op, ask for what you need.

Hope you feel better soon.

Tbh when im ill i just want to sleep so I wouldn’t want someone constantly popping their head in. I think you’re being a bit dramatic because you’re ill.

Oh for goodness sake, you're hardly dying

so we’re only supposed to show loved ones care and compassion on their dying beds?

Oh, come on, OP, I will check in on you until you get better. Tell me now, what’s the worst thing in your illness - throat, nose? What would cheer you up? Are you all snug and cosy? Taking any meds?

I hope you feel better soon, OP.
I'm sorry you're feeling uncared for.
You say your parents aren't the lovey dovey types, but if you're feeling crap you probably want/need to feel like someone actually gives a shit.
Even a head round the door and a "How are you feeling?" can make all the difference.

Hope you are feeling better OP. Text that damn brother of yours and tell him to make you a nice cup of tea pronto!

How are you, OP? 🌷🌷🌷

If you want/need something then just message to ask if someone can get it. I tend to leave adult kids to sleep/rest as personally but always say drop me a message if you need me and I'll come up

I think the point is that she shouldn't really have to ask for family members to check that she is ok when she is ill.

But as an adult i think it's OK to just say what you need. I don't like to be checked in on when I'm ill, especially if I'm resting, they may have assumed she was asleep, people show care in different ways, if you're not getting what you need, as an adult you should be willing to just say that, imo anyway