To find this so cringeworthy?

[Bpuss]

(I realise using the word cringeworthy is a bit cringeworthy in itself, but here we are...)

Literally posting this so I don't end up telling him what I'm thinking!

I've been seeing a guy off and on for a year and he's a lovely person, but keeps coming out with things that just make me die a little inside.

The latest one is he went to the cinema with his friends last night to see Wicked.
He has this habit of messaging me after he's seen a film to let me know how he found it and the message last night read "It had greatest showman vibes, and the hallmarks of a classic". I almost, almost... replied with a bunch of laughy faces and told him to stop talking like a dick but I thought I should try and be kind so I just said something about being glad he likes it.

But I've never heard anyone in real life use the phrase "hallmarks of a classic" to describe a film, let alone something like Wicked?!

He also uses the word belly for his stomach...

I like him, but omg I cringe so hard sometimes at his choice of words!

I'm surprised so many are impressed by what he put.

I'm with you Op!

It’s not that we are impressed is that I find this woman particularly pathetic criticising a fucking sentence that her boyfriend has written about seeing a film then say it’s so cringe. How old is this woman? Is she a fucking child because what really upsets me is there are very much lonely people out there that would love a decent partner. The guy sounds like he’s a decent guy and we’re talking about being cringe because he’s gone to see wicked and had what is a little sentence Are we that shallow nowadays?

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with seeing a family film as a man with your mates. I don’t think him expressing what he thought and then laughing that it did sound a bit bog standard movie reviewer in the wording is bad or wrong either.

I do think it is sad that so many people think it’s ok to be derisive about this because he’s a man and act like it’s childish or something - would you say the same about women seeing it? I also bet these are the same people who moan about men being emotionally dead, not expressive and too ‘basic’ when it comes to any kind of relationship. So what are men to do?

Here here

I agree with you 100%. People can do what the hell they like but if my DH wanted to go and see this film, I would think he had a tapeworm cyst on his brain. That might just be me and I'm OK with that. I have that right too though.

The guy sounds like he’s a decent guy and we’re talking about being cringe because he’s gone to see wicked and had what is a little sentence Are we that shallow nowadays?

If he's a decent guy he'll find someone else.

The way he writes wouldn't be for me-unless he was doing it as a joke.

I personally have no opinion on a guy going to see Wicked.

You're dating this man, probably sleeping with him, whilst criticising him on an online forum. I don't think he's for you. I'd be upset if someone treated me like that. Let him go and find someone you gel better with.

Fine then she needs to get rid of him then rather than being pathetic and whingeing about it I really truly believe there are people out there right now with a shitload of problems and we have somebody here saying some shit like this. That is what really annoys me when I read some of these

I'm astonished that the bar for articulacy in men is so low that all it takes is two clichéd sentences and he's framed as having a wide vocabulary, expressive and as emotionally intelligent. There was nothing imo offensive about his comment, unless cliche offends, but the ability to regurgitate extremely commonly used phrases about a film does not make the man a sensitive wordsmith. If a woman friend had 'expressed herself' this way I doubt we'd be singing her praises for it. (I think he redeemed himself by recognising the humour in it though OP. It would be more worrying if he shared the views on here that it makes him Oscar Wilde).

My 40 year old son went to see Wicked with his wife and 12 and 10 year old children. He texted me the next day to say it was amazing and recommended I go to see it 😊

What are you talking about? Do you even have any idea what the film is about? The film, like the musical, is aimed at every one.

So straight men can't enjoy musicals now! Wow!

My DH is in his 22nd year of his Army career, has fought in many wars and had he not been on deployment he would've come with me and our DC to see Wicked. Not just because DD would have wanted him there but because he loves a musical and can appreciate the talent of the performers. He actually likes them more than me.

Mumsnet is so weird sometimes.

Presumably you wasting so much energy and time commenting repeatedly on this post also irks you when people have a ‘shitload of problems’?

Surely you have some self awareness that you have whinged and insulted the OP repeatedly over several posts? Or is that okay for some reason?

@Words it's not specifically a children's film.
It's based on a musical which is based on an adult novel.
Children under the age of about 6 would probably find it long and confusing.

@SleepyHippy3 well I wouldn't be dating a man that attended the musical either! I'm not into stuff like that so if someone was then we would almost certainly have not much in common. If I loved Wicked then I'd be happy if my man also liked it.

She put the post on and it’s perfectly fine for me to be saying that you have a man who obviously is seems to be decent. The only thing you are cringing about is how we mentioned how we watched a film in the cinema, are you having a fucking laugh when there are literally people including myself who are sick of being on their own? Who really can’t find anybody? And are you having a laugh over that? Yes it really upsets me and yes, it pisses me off because when I was read How people are so damn shallow nowadays, it’s ridiculous

When you're in a relationship you have to make judgments about whether someone's right for you or not. OP can see from his taste in films and his review that he's someone who doesn't appear to have original or informed thoughts or developed critical faculties, and she's judging that he probably isn't the person she wants to spend the rest of her life with. That's fine.

I have no issues with anyone, male or female, gay or straight, 14 to 80+, going to see schlock designed to appeal to teenage girls, but if they don't have any intelligent critical insight after seeing it then yes, I would conclude that they're not the interesting, stimulating, intelligent companions I seek.

Has the OP not been insulting this random guy that none of us know? She's come on a public thread to defame someone's character and now there's a bunch of random women shitting on him for a sentence he said!

When you say "grown up", do you mean someone who knows how to talk about football and drink lots of beer?

Sorry...what's the issue here? He wanted to share what he thought of the movie. I thoroughly enjoyed it as well and would want to let others know.

@DustyLee123 I know quite a few males who want to see it. I saw it last night with one of my best friends and know another male friend who saw it as well.

Personally I’d find the odd cheesy text amusing, and would be much more concerned about if we click and communicate well face to face. But if you dislike the way he talks of course you can end things - it’s your time and your life. I’m not sure other people can really help you with this one.

It doesn't matter the content. It's a 'fantasy fairytale'. It self describes as such.

I agree with you soooo much! Seems like all the judgemental women who think their poop don't stink get all the good ones and we get left with nothing 😂

If it bothers you, widen your circle. I know lots who have seen or will see it. What an odd thing to comment about.

That wouldn't bother me in the slightest. Can't imagine my dh going to see Wicked but he's not a big cinema person. Sounds like he's not the one if you find the way he speaks cringey and laughable.