To find this so cringeworthy?

[Bpuss]

(I realise using the word cringeworthy is a bit cringeworthy in itself, but here we are...)

Literally posting this so I don't end up telling him what I'm thinking!

I've been seeing a guy off and on for a year and he's a lovely person, but keeps coming out with things that just make me die a little inside.

The latest one is he went to the cinema with his friends last night to see Wicked.
He has this habit of messaging me after he's seen a film to let me know how he found it and the message last night read "It had greatest showman vibes, and the hallmarks of a classic". I almost, almost... replied with a bunch of laughy faces and told him to stop talking like a dick but I thought I should try and be kind so I just said something about being glad he likes it.

But I've never heard anyone in real life use the phrase "hallmarks of a classic" to describe a film, let alone something like Wicked?!

He also uses the word belly for his stomach...

I like him, but omg I cringe so hard sometimes at his choice of words!

I think I understand, OP.

His message was pretentious, inaccurate, and empty of any real thought or insight.

And your concern is that, were you to live together, it would become increasingly clear that he is a pretentious, vacuous and self-blind man.

Words matter. They are one of our primary means of sharing who we are to another person. The picture his use of words is starting to paint for you of who he is, is a picture not to your liking.

I would be mortified if someone was on a forum talking about me. It’s fine not to like someone or what they say but we can’t change people. It comes across as immature to think otherwise.

You sure he's not getting ChatGPT to write his texts? 🤔 Maybe he didn't even see the film, it was his alibi while he was shagging around? 😉

Seriously though, if he has one of those cinema passes he will probably see any old crap he's only slightly interested in to get the most value out of it. But if you have the ick, you have the ick.

At least he didn't say, "Tummy", :-).

You obviously have a man who likes cliches! I don't know what you can do about that, it's part of him. Some people don't find it easy to express themselves in their own words so fall back on stock phrases. I hope he doesn't use the same ones too often.

It would get on my nerves to receive texts all the time about nothing but that's me.

Good luck.

This is just an 'unpopular opinions' thread, OP. Post some more of the words that you use and see how many posters don't like them. I wonder how many this man inwardly shudders at?

Everyone's a critic now of so very little, it's just meaningless criticism.

That film review reads like AI?

Is the OP trying to play the female lead in My Fair Lady?

That’s really sad. Some men are just weird.

Thank you for using the term "cringeworthy" and not "cringe", which is used a lot on here.
He sounds fine, but maybe you're not compatible.

Just the pure fact he went to the cinema with his mates to see Wicked would send me into red flag overdrive. Why is he into films aimed at female children? His earnest critique doesn't do him any favours either but it's more that he went to it at all that bothers me!
I do say 'belly' sometimes for stomach. 'tummy' would be even more cringe surely, coming from a bloke? But yeah, he sounds excruciating. And just not sexy at all.

I think vacuous is maybe a tad harsh, but yes basically, it was the clichéd wording that sounded a bit copied and pasted, rather than giving any genuine insight into the film.

He does it a lot; the other day we got talking online about how it feels for men and women to be turned on and he said " I'd have to get turned on to describe it properly, but it's kinda like all energy and feelings get focused between my legs and up my penis, then you think of all the sexy things you wanna do" which doesn't really describe anything.
I get the gist of what he meant, but he didn't describe the feelings or sensations in any useful detail.

Thats kind of how I feel when he describes most things. It's kind of vague.

So now I wonder whether he's autistic too...

I agree.

I'd much prefer an emotionally intelligent man with a decent vocabulary than one who wouldn't go see a film cos it's "for wummin"

Nothing wrong with what he said.

Nope, he sent me a photo of the pink and green popcorn, which actually, didn't give me the ick and I found that part really cute as he was so excited about it!

This is not the flex you think it is.

Yes he did I understood what he meant what did you want him to say? Maybe he is autistic to who knows personally you need to stop nit picking or get rid. I find you a bit pathetic if I am honest. Do you not realise that there are lonely single people that would be very happy with a nice relationship who would not be nit picking over comments like what you are saying he said. Be happy with what you have or leave

They still walk among us

Well done for using cringeworthy OP rather than the cringeworthy ´cringe' - which is a verb.

No clue about the film though. I thought it was for children ?

No, I'm not trying to be funny, but I'm amused that you think I might be. Sounds as if you'd be well-matched with OP's boyfriend: similar tastes. You could message her and ask for his number because it sounds as if she's ready to move on to someone a bit more grown-up.

I think that's a better review tbh!

People can go and see whatever the hell movies they want to see regardless of whether it gives you the ‘vomitorious ick’ or not. They can also write whatever kind of review they like, and use whatever words they like for their midsection. If the OP is unhappy with that she is free to move on and find someone with a less interesting approach to prose. Mind you, bearing in mind the ‘vomitorious ick’ phrase, you might be very well suited to him.

Yes. Beautifully put, @anythinginapinch

Wow so judgemental over a nice man going to the cinema

Oh is this an online/LD boyfriend? Are all these "cringe" conversations happening via text? How people type is not generally how they speak.

My adult DS loved it and said similar.

Personally I don’t see anything wrong with it. Some people can barely string a sentence together, but it’s your opinion that counts. You’re the one that knows him.

Conversely he uses the common (horrible IMO) word belly instead of stomach.

If his communication style makes you cringe a lot, this won’t get any better. It is who he is.

In my experience the cringe feeling gets a lot worse.

Communication is a big factor in relationships.