To find this so cringeworthy?

[Bpuss]

(I realise using the word cringeworthy is a bit cringeworthy in itself, but here we are...)

Literally posting this so I don't end up telling him what I'm thinking!

I've been seeing a guy off and on for a year and he's a lovely person, but keeps coming out with things that just make me die a little inside.

The latest one is he went to the cinema with his friends last night to see Wicked.
He has this habit of messaging me after he's seen a film to let me know how he found it and the message last night read "It had greatest showman vibes, and the hallmarks of a classic". I almost, almost... replied with a bunch of laughy faces and told him to stop talking like a dick but I thought I should try and be kind so I just said something about being glad he likes it.

But I've never heard anyone in real life use the phrase "hallmarks of a classic" to describe a film, let alone something like Wicked?!

He also uses the word belly for his stomach...

I like him, but omg I cringe so hard sometimes at his choice of words!

Seems like you are already losing a little bit of respect for him which is a slippery slope towards the ick. Maybe he's just not for you.

Calm down, Gobby. Learn to enunciate, at least.

I'm not sure that even the most enthusiastic advocate of the man could have read both his comment and the OPs posts and come to that conclusion! It's nice that you want to stand up for the random guy you've never met, but there's no need to descend into fantasy.

On the cringe scale, that's only about a 3/10, so I think it's just that you're not that into him.

Nothing wrong with what I wrote it was perfectly understandable. To paraphrase she's got fuck all to worry about but thinks I will write about what my nice boyfriend has said when he's been to the cinema. Belly is a word that people like myself do use. You know all this right stop being facetious .
I also think she comes across like a child all this uts so cringe there are people Lonely that would love a nice boyfriend they you have this woman whinge on like this

what is your point?

This. Just let him be the person he is, and if you don’t like that person, or a lot about him irritates you, then he’s not the one for you. I’d hate my brothers or son to be in a relationship where someone found them “cringeworthy” and things they said made the person die inside. Everyone is different and if you don’t like things about him, instead of complaining about it, end it.

The comments here about men watching the biggest blockbuster of the year reminds me of who MN is actually made up of. Gross.

It's not weird to like cinema and to go see all films, its not weird to like musicals, especially a classic that has been out for over two decades and is based on a very adult book.

Nah. I know what turns me up by now is all.

Judgemental twats you mean lol and those that hate nice men to it seems

I'd have to reply with 'Hall mark of a classic? Wicked? You're hilarious 😂😂😂. Then see how he responds - that will tell you everything IMO. If he takes it with good humour then I'd say he's a keeper. If he gets all defensive and cross and starts asking you what you mean then I'd call it a day.

If you're going to cope with someone so pretentious then they need to be able to take a bit of ribbing IMO.

The comments about a man watching the biggest blockbuster of the year have been overwhelmingly positive, with perhaps two posters at most suggesting it was odd to have seen the film. Which clearly indicates MN, with very few exceptions, is 'made up of' people with little time for regressive gender stereotypes. What's gross about that?

’Who MN is actually made up of. Gross.’

There are some posts who have made some shit comments about men watching musicals but definitely the vast majority have not done that and many of us have called it out… and where do posters like us fit in it? Do you not form part of ‘MN’?

Without derailing comments like this are ironically the same reason why I find the DP’s comments cringeworthy - empty soundbites without critical thought. It just comes across as a weird ‘I’m not like other girls Mumsnet posters’ when actually most of the posters on this thread do in fact share the same opinion that a man should be able to see a musical if he wishes.

LTB - he’s far too rounded for you OP. Then next time you’re on Hinge be sure to stand outside Wetherspoons on a match day or the local bookies and swipe away. Maybe put in your bio articulate film buffs needn’t apply.

🙄

Gross.

What a peculiar response. Someone wanting to be a film critic is hardly a bad thing, and the comment about adults watching a perfectly good film... I can't tell if you're trying to be funny or something?

I’ve already commented that I find nothing wrong with what he said.

Just to add though that I took my DC (including a DS) to see Wicked without my DH, because he has no interest in it and we don’t have to do everything together.

Sometimes he takes them to the cinema to see films that I have no interest in, to give me a few hours to myself.

Sometimes we go as a family.

For him it’s not about Wicked ‘not being for men’, as he’s been to see plenty of Disney and other animated films, and other musicals. He’s just not interested in this one, and I was happy to give him a few hours to himself at the weekend!

We still love our DC despite not going to see every film together 🙄

Why wouldn't a man go to see wicked? My DS did and cried twice.....

Good grief, do you have any idea what Wicked is actually about? Do you know the premise of the film?

I'd find that message an utter cringefest to receive. I don't think he sounds like he has a good vocabularly, I think he sounds like he's regurgitating clichés.

This is what would make it cringe making for me I think.

It's not going to change or get any better, so if you feel like this now, it will only get worse.

You clearly don't like him, so just end it and let him find somebody else.

Not being funny, this sounds ridiculous. Poor guy.

When he first sent that message I did reply in the way I usually would and then thought better of it and just said I'm glad he enjoyed it.

He asked what the unsent message was, I answered and he admitted he thought he'd sounded like a film critic but went it anyway as it was funny.

One good thing about him is his ability to laugh at himself, but I do hate the fact I keep finding these "icks". I really wish I wouldn't as he is such a nice person.

Is he being ironic or deadly serious?