To find this so cringeworthy?

[Bpuss]

(I realise using the word cringeworthy is a bit cringeworthy in itself, but here we are...)

Literally posting this so I don't end up telling him what I'm thinking!

I've been seeing a guy off and on for a year and he's a lovely person, but keeps coming out with things that just make me die a little inside.

The latest one is he went to the cinema with his friends last night to see Wicked.
He has this habit of messaging me after he's seen a film to let me know how he found it and the message last night read "It had greatest showman vibes, and the hallmarks of a classic". I almost, almost... replied with a bunch of laughy faces and told him to stop talking like a dick but I thought I should try and be kind so I just said something about being glad he likes it.

But I've never heard anyone in real life use the phrase "hallmarks of a classic" to describe a film, let alone something like Wicked?!

He also uses the word belly for his stomach...

I like him, but omg I cringe so hard sometimes at his choice of words!

You're the problem not him

I get it, I'd find it a bit different.

But poor guy. It doesn't warrant an entire thread the poor sod.

Just end it if it's too much.

It sounds a bit scripted to me. Like he's just paraphrasing things he's heard. Is he potentially different ( hence paraphrasing what feels like the right thing to say).

Get rid and stick to guys who only watch Rambo and football.

I think you have too much time on your hands op

I think he sounds great, actually. I would love a text like that and would likely have responded with “You mean like The Wizard of Oz is a classic?” It sounds like he has a good vocabulary and probably enjoys reading. Quite a few people say belly, I don’t care if people say that, stomach, tummy, whatever. If you find the way a guy expresses himself gives you the ick, then I’d say he’s not for you. As another poster said, let him go so that he is free to find someone who appreciates him.

Personally, I find using the word belly instead of stomach quite ignorant, and would annoy me.

I’ve seen wicked with my very straight husband and our kids and we all loved it. Hallmarks of a classic isn’t incorrect!

Abdomen would be preferable but 'belly' is surely better than 'tummy'.

Oh, leave the man alone.
Honestly, some people are never happy.

You don't deserve him! Your judginess is off the scale. My nephew is obsessed with Wicked. He is 30 and autistic spectrum and cried twice watching the film. I hope his boyfriend doesn't dump him for being so authentic.

Because it's cheesy crap probably.

My partner wants to see it, and he’s asked for tickets to see the actual musical for Xmas. He’s straight obviously but just loves music and musicals. And is very secure in his masculinity, I think that’s the key!

Just good vocabulary, I would think his capability to use it a plus in my book. Not just yeah it was OK. Personally I like someone who can converse more elaborately, much better conversations! X

It sounds like it's the forcedness, and the inauthenticity of it, to me, rather than the specific phrases.. that are giving you the ick. its that you can tell he's putting something on and trying hard, and that it's not really him.. I would say after a year that's quite icky. Sad too though, that he lacks confidence and self esteem enough, at his age (30s?)

my husband does. we saw the show a few years back, my friends choice of her birthday activity, and both loved it. before that we'd only ever seen Rocky Horror, musical wise, and it was wonderful. the sets were so elaborate and it was fantastic.
I'm sure he's not the only man that wants to see it either. he specifically wanted to see Barbie too, and we all enjoyed that a lot.

Sounds like he’s quoting from a review on somewhere like IMDb. But your call. If his choice of language gives you the ick, let him go

According to who?

Same here. Ex forces buff as hell DH loves a musical

I nervously asked my husband to come with me and he was all for it. If I go see gladiator too! I know he will like it and doesn't really care if anyone thinks it's lame that he went. That's a real man

You sound childish and judgemental OP

It's not really anything to analyse

He enjoyed a musical. You probably wouldn't have

Can't stand the word belly....seriously keep talking about how everything is "moist"....see his reaction.

I really don't see the issue with his choice of words .Just his choice of film that I find a bit strange

It sounds like you don't like him very much. If you were actually into him it wouldn't bother you. Let him find someone else who actually likes him

Are you just peeved because you're not included?

Maybe stick to someone with a more basic vocabulary like yours, obviously his intelligence is very intimidating to you.