To find this so cringeworthy?

[Bpuss]

(I realise using the word cringeworthy is a bit cringeworthy in itself, but here we are...)

Literally posting this so I don't end up telling him what I'm thinking!

I've been seeing a guy off and on for a year and he's a lovely person, but keeps coming out with things that just make me die a little inside.

The latest one is he went to the cinema with his friends last night to see Wicked.
He has this habit of messaging me after he's seen a film to let me know how he found it and the message last night read "It had greatest showman vibes, and the hallmarks of a classic". I almost, almost... replied with a bunch of laughy faces and told him to stop talking like a dick but I thought I should try and be kind so I just said something about being glad he likes it.

But I've never heard anyone in real life use the phrase "hallmarks of a classic" to describe a film, let alone something like Wicked?!

He also uses the word belly for his stomach...

I like him, but omg I cringe so hard sometimes at his choice of words!

I think he sounds sweet and very sincere !

There's an irony here - a thread full of grown women arguing about whether someone's choice of words should give them "the ick".

I was going to say he sounds autistic. I didn’t know my DP was autistic when we first got together, but I describe him as a “weirdly programmed robot” sometimes. (He laughs and agrees.)

CatCaretaker
He just loves the cinema and critiquing films, and he literally knows almost every single film that's ever been released in the western hemisphere. I think it's a great hobby!

This sounds like myself and two of my adult DC, we compile a list of all the films we’ve watched each year and on Christmas Day reveal our top five to each other. We love our hobby, it’s cheap, it means we always have stuff to talk about and it’s feels good watching a wide range of stuff. I subscribe to quite a few different apps so I can watch more foreign films as I’ve watched so many English speaking ones.

The guy has obviously came out of the cinema excited and wanted to share his enjoyment of the film with you. I absolutely can’t see what’s wrong with that, I’m thinking he isn’t the man for you.

I really don’t care, my point is that you said grown men going to see this specific film would give you major red flags, even though you had no clue what the film is about, regardless of whether or not it’s a musical. How can someone comment on something, and then judge someone for it, if they have not seen the said film or have no idea what it’s about?

I know someone who says things like this, really did give me the "ick"

Just different upbringings really, I am very working class and he is very middle class but he is also very caring, supportive, loving, funny, loyal and great in bed.

I struggled with it a lot, we are both so different, constantly rolling my eyes internally when he came out with another cringe statement.

I ended up finishing things with him and this was the biggest mistake I ever made.

Several months later I realised I missed all the other parts of his personality so much and realised what an idiot I had been, he wouldn't take me back though and had started seeing someone else. I'd never been so heartbroken.

Eventually though as it turns out he missed me too and we are back together and now very happily living together.

Does he still come out with statements that are so not the way I'd talk? Of course he does and I still roll my eyes but now it makes me laugh and there are plenty of things I say that I'm sure he thinks wtf.

Moral of the story? If everything else is great then this is just a small thing to get "icked" by.

My nerdy, geeky partner is amazing and I'm very lucky to still have him in my life and I will never forget that again.

@SleepyHippy3 I don't like it. I don't want to know about the intricacies of it. It sounds like you won't accept that I have no interest in Wicked, or musical theatre, or looking at Ariana Grande and instantly remembering my time in a psych ward for anorexia.
This is so not what the OP was talking about at all anyway.

Metrosexual

Absolutely it is. The OP doesn't like a major aspect of this guy. But just because he's not done anything objectively wrong, she is being told off for being unkind, had it pointed out to her how much worse other guys are "at least he's not..." had him elevated to ludicrous levels as 'creative' 'expressive' 'Well educated' 'thoughtful' on the basis of a comment a year 8 might write in a film review writing excercise. Basically an all out onslaught to persuade her she is wrong. Seems unless a man is an all out wrong 'un there is so much pressure to remain in a relationship with them, its hardly surprising women settle against their better judgement.

" I'd have to get turned on to describe it properly, but it's kinda like all energy and feelings get focused between my legs and up my penis, then you think of all the sexy things you wanna do"

This sounds like something I'd imagine a 15 year old boy saying 😝

That's a very good story. It's also showing what some of us were saying some people are particularly picky. This isn't about settling with somebody. This person hasn't done anything that bad, but I think he's too good for this woman.I really do.
I think whinging about it ridiculous, and I don't think anything he's done is particularly wrong and I will go back to what I have said, there are literally women here who are so desperate to find somebody nice who has never been treated right? So when they see people like this woman whinging over some stupid Sentence, I think it's rather pathetic.I know that people are going to hate me for that.I don't particularly care

I don’t know what you are talking about now, as you are completely missing my point, which was in response to one of the posts from you.

Eventually though as it turns out he missed me too and we are back together and now very happily living together.

That's great for both of you.

Maybe they won't miss each other if they split though?

That was meant for @BobbyBiscuits

God I thought it was going to be truly cringe! But I like to hear films and music critiqued in a knowledgeable way with references to classics. Are you the sort of person who calls someone ‘pretentious’ because they like art? Thing is-if you’ve gone off him, whatever the reason, you can just finish it. There will be women who like to chat about things like films that’s a bit more than ‘ great ‘. And compared to some of the knuckle draggers you hear about on here, he sounds like a prince! He doesn’t sound as if he’ll make you happy though.

Nevermind, I was being needlessly horrible

Aw that's a nice ending. Can you give some examples of stuff he said?

Oh god that made me feel ick.

I don't know if I'm having the ick because what you're saying is reminding me of my ex and how he spoke.

Fair point. Thought it must be.

Just seen Wicked and I have to say it has the hallmarks of a classic!

He sounds great to me. A man that doesn't mind seeing Wicked and saying he enjoyed it..

It is quite Partridge 😄

YABU!
You are being judgemental and rather caught up with how things appear or are supposed to appear.
Also, nothing wrong with saying cringeworthy.
If he's too fusty for you, move on. You can each find someone more your speed.

Wise words!

Sounds good to me. Articulate, able to make assessments, keen to communicate. What’s wrong ?