To find this so cringeworthy?

[Bpuss]

(I realise using the word cringeworthy is a bit cringeworthy in itself, but here we are...)

Literally posting this so I don't end up telling him what I'm thinking!

I've been seeing a guy off and on for a year and he's a lovely person, but keeps coming out with things that just make me die a little inside.

The latest one is he went to the cinema with his friends last night to see Wicked.
He has this habit of messaging me after he's seen a film to let me know how he found it and the message last night read "It had greatest showman vibes, and the hallmarks of a classic". I almost, almost... replied with a bunch of laughy faces and told him to stop talking like a dick but I thought I should try and be kind so I just said something about being glad he likes it.

But I've never heard anyone in real life use the phrase "hallmarks of a classic" to describe a film, let alone something like Wicked?!

He also uses the word belly for his stomach...

I like him, but omg I cringe so hard sometimes at his choice of words!

Of course the content matters. You can’t make a specific comment, in this case, in regards to something, that you haven’t even had a brief look at/looked up, or understanding the basic premise. It’s like if someone went to the cinema to watch George Orwell’s Animal Farm, then other people having a go at them for going to see a film for children - simply basing that assumption on the title of the book/film and therefore it’s presumed audience. Animal Farm could also be described as a fantasy fairytale.

No, not necessarily. Obviously if s/he's the kind of adult who's into beer and football that'll be what s/he talks about, and as I'm not into beer or football s/he won't be the kind of adult I want to spend time with.

I look for people who are intelligent, articulate and have some critical faculties. They can see Wicked and Portrait of a Lady on Fire (also a film about young women and society's expectations) and they can explain in detail about why they preferred one over the other. I enjoy discussing films, theatre, books, opera and music. I don't have to agree with peoples' opinions to find them interesting, but they have to have something interesting and thought-provoking to say, and they have to be able to express their ideas well enough for me to understand the nuances. OP's BF has neither skill: no acuity of thought or analysis, nor an interesting and original way with words. So, nice guy that he may be, I wouldn't be expecting us to be friends.

As for those who think what he wrote to her is insightful and eloquent... raise your bar.

What? Is this for real? Theres nothing wrong with him.

And for those assuming he’s gay because he wants to see Wicked, I hate to shock you but some straight men like musical theatre too!

@Bpuss you have some odd issues. Why shouldn't adults watch U films? The classification simply
Means there's nothing inappropriate for young children. Do you really think adults absolutely couldn't enjoy something unless it contained sex, violence and swearing?

And that’s fine, but you made comments, about the film, and what you presumed is its target audience, without knowing anything about what the film is about, and its premise.

According to the some boards on here, trans people are just confused attention seekers for overly identifying with masculine or feminine traits because gender stereotyping is offensive, yet here we have someone essentially saying a man watching a musical is not masculine and unless he shows his masculine side (no clues given how, because we all should just know what being a macho man means?), the OP should run away from him. Persumably because watching wicked and using words to express himself makes him gay or a girly man?

Did I wake up on November 24 1954?

And if anything is cringeworthy it’s adding x to the end of posts on a random forum.

i think he's doing a bit, as he's writing a review.

And honestly a lot of the reviews i've heard o the film have said the same thing.

It's his personality and he's trying to build a little special routine that you guys have. I don't think you like him so it doesn't work. If you did then it would.

you're just incompatible.

Could you explain why? I'm baffled.

Do the poor guy a favour and end the relationship. If you feel able to mock him like this, then there really won’t be a happy end to things.

Well you sound nice.
You've invented a whole persona to denigrate which isn't evidenced in the OP at all.
Musicals may not be your thing, but thoughtful and intelligent adults might very well want to watch Wicked (not me as I object to them making two films out of it, not because I think it's beneath me)

I don't understand exactly what he means by that, either. But I would ask him. Then you have an interesting conversation.

I should also say, I love people who have an opinion on things (films, TV, music etc) that's a bit more considered than "Great/rubbish" and I look down on people who can't articulate one. It's not 100% clear to me which he is, so I'd ask.

Nothing wrong with a man liking musicals, but I do get the ‘ick’ about the language use. My ex talks like a Victorian who was public schooled at times. Not entirely his fault, definitely autistic and it’s a form of being hyper lexical and social communication difficulties. But it does grate, because it’s not a natural way of communicating and your brain can’t quite comprehend why.

Nothing wrong with saying belly

No, anyone who's read Animal Farm would know it's an allegorical satire on Stalin's Russia. Anyone who hasn't read Animal Farm and thinks it's a children's book is just someone who doesn't know.

Animal Farm isn't a fairytale, it's very firmly rooted in the reality of soviet politics. It's also part of a long tradition of Beast Tales that go back to Chaucer and beyond, explaining human behaviour through tales about animals.

AF (published in 1945, just as the WW2 ended and the future of Russia/ the Soviet Union was a huge concern in Western Europe) was making some very grown-up political points about totalitarian regimes. It shines a light on the hypocrisy and awfulness of the communist system which had led to 20+ million Russian deaths during the war. What political/ contemporary world view does Wicked explore?

ISWYM, but this was a quick message. We don't know if they've actually discussed the film in a considered way. Ok, if I wrote that message it would be ironic; perhaps you're right.

You don't think it's a classic then? Have you seen it to form this view (I haven't, so I do t know). Perhaps if the OP were to ask why he thinks that she could have an interesting discussion, instead of dismissing a short text which obviously can't include all his opinions.

That’s sad. Does he also turn them down when they want to paint his nails because it’s “for girls”? What a gent.

Inaccurate? It was his opinion. How's it inaccurate?
It may be a tad pretentious but it's quite hard to be subtle and detailed in a short text.

It's not a film for female children, so you do t need to wave your red flag.
What a ridiculous thing to say.

You thought wrong. It's based on a musical which was based in a book for adults.

It's better than 'Tummy'! I had a male lodger who'd refer to that area as his 'tummy'- 'I need to lose my tummy before summer' 'I was going to have a beer tonight but I've got tummy ache' 'That woman on TV has put weight on her tummy'...😫(where's the vomit emoticon when you need it?).

Blimey, so you deduced all of that from the two sentences the OP quoted her boyfriend describing the film? Give over.

Do you think it's essential for partners to have the exact same interests? I'd find that a bit dull. Nice to have some things you each do separately.

Like Munchkins, (in one of the more problematic quotes)

You haven't seen it but disagree with his review of it? Ok.