To find this so cringeworthy?

[Bpuss]

(I realise using the word cringeworthy is a bit cringeworthy in itself, but here we are...)

Literally posting this so I don't end up telling him what I'm thinking!

I've been seeing a guy off and on for a year and he's a lovely person, but keeps coming out with things that just make me die a little inside.

The latest one is he went to the cinema with his friends last night to see Wicked.
He has this habit of messaging me after he's seen a film to let me know how he found it and the message last night read "It had greatest showman vibes, and the hallmarks of a classic". I almost, almost... replied with a bunch of laughy faces and told him to stop talking like a dick but I thought I should try and be kind so I just said something about being glad he likes it.

But I've never heard anyone in real life use the phrase "hallmarks of a classic" to describe a film, let alone something like Wicked?!

He also uses the word belly for his stomach...

I like him, but omg I cringe so hard sometimes at his choice of words!

Do you only date men who have exactly the same interests as you?

That's quite unusual I would say.

I think he's just trying too hard to try and impress you, but it's having the opposite effect.

I think it's sweet he's so enthusiastic about things (and I agree with other posters - good vocabulary and grammar even when texting is very attractive!) but if it's making you fancy him less I don't think that's going to change. I think you did the right thing by not making fun of him over it.

You don’t need to verse me about 1984, i know exactly what it’s about and and it is fairy tale with a premise, based on political ideology, and its horrors when it goes wrong.

Wicked is most definitely about totalitarianism and power, and the original novel was specifically aimed at adults. But then you wouldn’t know that because you clearly have judged the book/musical/film by its cover.

It takes all sorts OP. Have you asked him if there’s anything you do/say to make him cringe ?

As you say, @Pluvia anyone who has read Animal Farm will know what it is. Have you read the book Wicked is based on then? Because your criticism seems very akin to someone who would see Animal Farm as a story about talking pigs.
It's about the way people who are different are othered and blamed for all the ills of society, and how sometimes the only way for them to survive is to accept that. It's about how friends across such divides can both help and hinder each other.

Firstly, Wicked is amazing! Would be delighted if my OH went with me. Secondly, just cut him loose, am sure someone else would appreciate him if all that’s ‘wrong’ with him is how he phrases things sometimes.

Oh, yes. His answer is always that there's nothing because he loves me so much...

Thanks all for the replies, you've given me a lot to think about!

I meant to say that I don’t need to be versed about Animal Farm, not 1984.

I wouldn’t nit pick over that. Maybe he’s a film buff?
He has a decent vocabulary. Is his education level higher than yours? No big deal just be aware.

It would give me the ick if he reported back that the exploding heads in a film were brilliant.

I think when you get irritated by little things then maybe he’s just not for you.

Be careful though as there are lots of exploding head fans out there.

Word-finding can be really hard for some brains alongside added pressure to "say the right thing".

Maybe text less and speak more if you find him less cringe in person.

@EvilsElsasPetSnowman
Because he would not sit through any musical. He walked out during the newest Charlie and The Chocolate Factory.

I would find "hallmarks of a classic" cliché type language icky too, OP.

@CorbyTrouserPress
😂😂😂

@EvilsElsasPetSnowman

Well he is kind of manly he's been a royal marine for 25 years 🤷‍♀️

Me either. Modern life confuses me.

@SleepyHippy3
Yes he's always telling us he's the Alpha.

Not very manly then obviously 😂😂

My husband came with us to see Barbie AND wore pink. There is clearly no hope….

Yes, it's Be Kind in musical format. All you need is love. I'm a bit beyond all that.

I feel a bit sad about a lot of the posts here. Implying someone is gay because they want to see a musical? No wonder so many men feel they need to hide behind masculinity. There's nothing wrong with what he said either, he sounds intelligent and cute that he send you reviews. Huge amounts of Mumsnetters say how their partners dont message etc. He is Cleary not for you and that's fine, but I find it deeply misogynistic that a man cant watch something he enjoys without this kind of response. My fiancé is 6,2 in the navy, built like a brick house, covered in tattoos and his favourite film is the Greatest Showman.

@Devonshiregal

Yes. Why would he want his nails painting.

Can't be bothered replying to anymore messsges.

But it’s not about that? How can you comment on this if a) you don’t know what the film is about b) you haven’t seen it.

@Kbroughton

I feel a bit sad about a lot of the posts here. Implying someone is gay because they want to see a musical?

Now you are just making things up!!

I'm afraid I'm with Jeremy Clarkson on musicals. Can't stand them and I've had to sit through most of them as the DC love them.
Wicked was particularly shrieky.
It really was like a form of torture.
It wouldn't put me off DH if he went to see them though, people like different things don't they?