To worry that he cant *come*?

[5599katherine]

I have been seeing someone for a while and often during sex he does not finish.
Sometimes, he loses the mood halfway through and its quite dissapointing.
He smokes, smokes weed and is quite unhealthy. I noticed when he takes a break from the weed especially, he can come.
I am in my 30s and want a family...I have tried to talk about it with him but he refuses to acknowledge it. Sometimes he says he has come, but he is lying!

Its the weed

This is the man you want to father your children?

He’s an addict. You’re settling.

Move on.

This is natural selection at work.

I put YABU, would you really want to have a baby with someone who smokes weed and refuses to acknowledge anything when you try have a conversation?

If you want to start a family in the future please set your bar high than someone who drinks heavily, smokes weed and lies to you in an intimate setting.

is this really the person you want to be the father of your children?

What about the smell?

For different reasons

The smell of the weed! It reeks on the person and in the whole house!

As a man, I’ve experienced this..
Non smoker, fit & healthy, certainly no porn addict.. I can just take a very long time to reach orgasm, sometimes not at all, during sex.
I confess I have faked once before as a partner was upset that I hadn’t and I didn’t want to hurt her feelings.
For me it’s not an issue; I love the intimacy of making love and seeing the pleasure of my partner is the biggest turn on and genuinely makes me happy.
If I ‘see to myself’ in the shower afterwards, it’s all good!

This man is not father material. What kind of childhood do you picture for your future kids? Drop him into that picture, puffing on a spliff - is that what you had in mind?

Don't have children with a man who smokes weed.

Can he come in any other ways and just not PIV like oral or hands or is it totally he does not come? I was seeing a weed smoker/smoker (the horror!) and he didn’t struggle with other ways just PIV

Are you happy to condone a trade that sees young black men stabbed, and incentivises the gangs who traffic people in small boats across the Channel. Do you hate Mexicans?

That's what in effect you are doing if you continue a relationship with such a man.

Well at least you aren't overreacting

What a horrible response!

Did you not see the title before you clicked on the thread? Extremely rude and unnecessary comment. Even if it was posted on the relationships board, it can still come up on your homepage anyway!

Let the Natural Selection do its thing here.
Smoking tobacco and drugs isn't exactly prime fatherhood material, let alone partner material.

Is a impotent weed smoker who lies to you and isn't capable of having a sensible discussion about things like this really the person you want to start a family with?

Get your standards out the bin!

You want a stoner for the father of your child…..what are you thinking?!! I feel sorry for the kid already.

That's not really comparable. A man needs to perform sexually and be able to orgasm 1: To give satisfaction to his partner and 2: To reproduce.

Don't waste your time on a druggie OP. Money for weed will always be the priority, not you, not a child. You can do better. Dump him, raise your bar way higher and move on. Plenty of decent men out there.

Wow young black men stabbed...in the 1980s my mate, young white man was also stabbed over a weed deal..yep murdered for £8 of shite!

See drugs ain't racist...they are an equal opportunities life fuck up