To worry that he cant *come*?

[5599katherine]

I have been seeing someone for a while and often during sex he does not finish.
Sometimes, he loses the mood halfway through and its quite dissapointing.
He smokes, smokes weed and is quite unhealthy. I noticed when he takes a break from the weed especially, he can come.
I am in my 30s and want a family...I have tried to talk about it with him but he refuses to acknowledge it. Sometimes he says he has come, but he is lying!

YABU to date him and want kids with him!

I don't think the weed is necessarily causing this particular problem, although of course it causes other problems in itself.

My ex and I both smoked weed for years, then gave it up and were together for several more years. No difference in our sex life that I could tell.

You clicked into the thread. It was very clear what it was about. You can hardly blame the OP. 🙄

You should choose very carefully the man you want to be the father of your children. A smoker damaged his own health, but more importantly he damages his children's health (physical and mental) as well.

From what you have described I would not want him as my baby’s father. Please rethink this.

Wow, what a bitch.

OP, with respect, you are going to have to rethink this. The unhealthy aspect aside, your self-confidence is going to plummet over time due to his sexual issues.
You and your future child really deserve better than this.

Other possible explanation is antidepressants, but an unhealthy addict isn't a good prospect anyway.

First reply nailed it.