I'm muslim. I married a fellow indian muslim when I was very young in a quasi arranged marriage. I met him and got to know him. Thought I liked him.
He was okay when we lived together, however he started a drug addiction which led to me funding everything, him losing his job, getting addicted to all sorts and stealing money from me. He went out to buy drugs once and left the main door outside unlocked and we got robbed. He started to beat me when I refused to have sex with him.
I had no idea what to do. My mum wasn't supportive and wanted me to change him.
I ended up leaving them all and moving to a different city. Got a new job. I was 22 and had never lived by myself before without my family.
I went to the sharia council in Dewsbury and spoke to an imam about my situation. He met my ex and persuaded him to give me a divorce. I got a divorce and moved on, remarried ( an english legal wedding) and had kids to a good man.
I don't know much about sharia law although the Islamic finance makes sense to me (I work in the finance industry). It was horrid that my ex had to give me a divorce but that's just how it is and I had go work with the tools that were available to me. I'm glad the imam listened to me and didn't ask me to go back to him.
I know girls that are now refusing to go abroad and threatening families with calling the police if they are forced to marry. I really hope, here at least things are changing.
I do pray for my cousins in Kabul who had to leave university and now can't even have a mobile phone. I always try to be grateful and remind myself how lucky I am.