AIBU to not want to meet my friend for a walk and to meet elsewhere?

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A friend who I haven’t seen for a while wants to meet up. This is fine and I’m looking forward to seeing her but she keeps wanting to meet for a walk. I’m disabled and walking is becoming increasingly difficult for me. My balance is poor enough on a good day but it’s Winter now and I really can’t get out at all when it’s icy. Plus I have cough variant asthma and the cold makes it much worse so that I can barely breathe for coughing.

I’ d suggested meeting at my home, her home, a restaurant, cafe etc but she’s a bit fanatical about walking and keeps saying that she’d rather meet for a long walk. She’s financially comfortable so that’s not an issue.

AIBU to keep declining and offering alternatives? I’ve explained my situation but she says that a good walk will make me feel better. It definitely won’t.

TIA

Arrange to meet her for a very long walk uphill on rough terrain, borrow a wheelchair, get a taxi to drop you off at the start, when she arrives tell her youve had a turn for the worse, but you’d love some fresh air, but could she be a dear and push you.

What is she a golden fucking retriever? Tell her you can meet at the local park and throw a ball for her to fetch back, silly cow.

I'd tell her I'm very much looking forward to my piggyback

Well, I laughed. 🤣

Time to let this particular friendship die a death.

And I did 😂

Don’t bother with this friendship because she can only think of her needs. Leave it with an open invitation to meet at your home and see if she visits.

The friendships ran its course. She likes to be active and get out there and not waste time indoors and you can’t do that.
She shouldn’t have to sit inside all the time to meet you and you shouldn’t have to go for walks. Just call it quits.

She sounds bonkers. And horrible.

I can't imagine any of my friends saying this to me!

You'd be well rid.

She actually sounds stupid!
How can anyone be so self absorbed that they thinkasking a disabled friendto meet for a walk rather than catch up over a coffee or whatever is a good idea
I say that as I have moderate CP and no one I know would suggest that, let alone a friend!
I'd feel insulted too as if they thought I could walk further if I tried harder!
She's not a true friend.

She sounds very selfish. Are you sure she’s a friend?

This! How willfully clueless is this woman? Be blunt so she gets it.

I'd just reply saying "I'm disabled therefore I can't meet you for a long walk. Let me know if you want to meet at any alternative place."

TBH if she's that cloth headed I'd be tempted to just never see her again.

Be my friend instead. We could have a nice long chat every week over zoom

I’m disabled too & have mobility issues & none of my friends would insist on going for a long walk, in fact they’d never even suggest it. In your position I’d be telling them that I can’t manage a walk & if that’s what they wanted to do then unfortunately I won’t be able to join them & ask instead for them to let me know when they’ve got plans for something else & I’ll join then instead

Gosh, she sounds incredibly dull.

YANBU.

She’s said that she’s too busy to sit around

How fucking rude. Tell her to forget about it then.

Nailed it - what an odd friend
I love walking so would have a walk and then visit friends in their own home (and take flowers).

Are you carrying a bit of extra weight ? It might be that she thinks she is doing you a favour to get more active but without realising your actual physical restrictions.

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Sorry. It's nothing to do with your disability, which I fully understand is not your fault. I have compassion for anyone who has added difficulties, including you. I have a neurological disability myself.

It's all to do with my sick sense of humour.

It amused me.

I sympathise with the poster, but it was a snarky post and you nailed it very well.

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I got it - and thought it was funny too.
This 'friend' is bats

Tell her to walk to a cafe where you will be waiting for her. I’m all for exercise but she’s being very self absorbed not considering your needs.

This is the perfect answer. I think she needs it spelling out OP.

If she can't understand your situation, then she's either incredibly stupid, or incredibly selfish.

If she persists with the walking narrative, I would think about ending the friendship.

She’s no friend! I wouldn’t meet up with her.

Tell her she can walk to your house for a coffee and then walk home again!

So no-one has to do anything kind even if they are fully capable of doing so?
OP cannot accommodate her so-called friend's social needs but the reverse does not apply.
What's wrong with a nice chat over a few drinks and nibbles now and then?
People who need to be constantly active, stimulated and challenged whilst remaining impervious to the simpler needs of others are selfish pains in the butt. I hope their days will come when they need some consideration from others - and don't get it !