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to think a child doesn't need EVERYTHING brand new

146 replies

milliec · 28/04/2008 16:01

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MargaretMountford · 28/04/2008 16:03

what a very foolish and profligate woman

FreddysTeddy · 28/04/2008 16:05

Course YANBU, did you really need to ask?

Brangelina · 28/04/2008 16:05

I find this pov really irritating. I was happy for people to pass me things for my pfb, a lot of which was lovely and practically new, but I can't find anyone who won't turn their nose up at me passing some of my dd's hardly worn kit on. I'm not talking about scuzzy pooed in bodysuits, I'm talking about twice worn expensive or designer gear.

Throwing it in the bin! WTF! Your child knows that you care from your hugs and kisses, not from how much money you spend on him/her. Sheesh, some people!

JaneHH · 28/04/2008 16:05

Probably CAN'T afford it and has to make such a point about it to cover up the fact... (even worse)

YANBU!

Lauriefairycake · 28/04/2008 16:05

yuk, what a horrible attitude, for god's sake don't choose her for a friend.

Brand-new-everything doesn't prove your parent cares

what a weirdo.....

yanbu

littlepinkpixie · 28/04/2008 16:06

What a shame that people think it is OK to behave like that. How many planets does she think we have to live on?

Turniphead1 · 28/04/2008 16:06

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FAQ · 28/04/2008 16:07

well I must to confess enjoying buying new for my DS's as much as I can.......

HOWEVER they are also given plenty of hand-me-downs and I've picked a few bits up in charity shops for them too.

For me it's more that I ALWAYS lived in (badly made) homemade clothes and 2nd hand stuff when I was young and hated it as I often got teased, so I suppose in some ways I'm trying to "protect" my DS's from that. However, DS1's best "smart" top was a 60p job from the Red Cross shop - so I'm not too daft about it.

And ALL of my DS's used clothes (if still useable - as they tend to get handed down from child to child....) are passed onto other people.

Chequers · 28/04/2008 16:07

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bergentulip · 28/04/2008 16:07

What a flippin' waste of money! Silly bint.

Brangelina · 28/04/2008 16:08

If you can come and collect from Italy, yes.

MargaretMountford · 28/04/2008 16:08

Turniphead - did you ask me that the other day ? or was it someone else ?! not the real one anyway !

bergentulip · 28/04/2008 16:08

(not you FAQ, by the way! I mean this strange lady the op was talking to!)

quickdrawmcgraw · 28/04/2008 16:09

What got my back up most about this horrible sounding woman was that she implied that you don't care about your child because you give her second hand things.
She is to be laughed at as she obviously hasn't a clue.

I would think that about 1/4 of dc's clothes and toys were bought new and the rest has been handed down or has come from a charity shop.
Not because we can't afford to buy new but because it makes so much sense.

FAQ · 28/04/2008 16:10

phew

IdrisTheDragon · 28/04/2008 16:10

I love having clothes that have been used before for DS and DD and also love passing on their clothes.

The thought of someone throwing clothes in the bin is quite silly really.

HappyNewYearFeet06 · 28/04/2008 16:10

Ooooh I would love to come and collect from Italy, I have a dd.

Don't think dh would like me to have a holiday to Italy though!. For the purpose of picking up clothes for dd!

sitdownpleasegeorge · 28/04/2008 16:17

Yep, some people are completely barking aren't they ?

I find it hard to believe she actually throws it all in the bin. Hasn't she heard of charity shops and recycling ?

mad mad mad !

paddingtonbear1 · 28/04/2008 16:18

whaaat?! Of course YANBU. dd's current fave cardy cost 1.50 from the local baby boot sale! I've just sorted out a load of dd's baby stuff for a friend, who is v grateful for anything I can pass on. I can't believe how much stuff dd had! There is so much waste, really.

IdreamofClooney · 28/04/2008 16:18

What bothers me more than her thinking thta brand new clothes are essential, is the fact that she is throwing what are presumably still pretty wearable clothes IN THE BIN.

Is her daugher the same size as yours? If she is bigger perhaps mention that you would love her handme downs to save them going into land fill

Some of the nicest clothes DS has a charity shop ones - often find almost brand new stuff if you are willing to look hard and often.

That attitude is so alien to me. I used to work with someone who bougt a new duvet every season as she "couldn;t be bothered" packing the out of season one away. I asked what she did with the old one - chuck it in the bin 2 duvets a year in landfill by one person!

Turniphead1 · 28/04/2008 16:19

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muggglewump · 28/04/2008 16:19

Crikey, I can't afford all brand new but I'd buy or accept second hand anyway even if I could.
The woman is a snob!

hanaflower · 28/04/2008 16:20

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moondog · 28/04/2008 16:21

I've offered my (lovely) baby equipment to (v. distant) 19 year old relative who is a p/t student.

Was refused because 'she has a list in Mothercare'.

Er...who is paying for that then?

MrsTittleMouse · 28/04/2008 16:21

Wow, I was really happy to be given second hand stuff from a friend. Some of it was obviously worn, but all of it was clean and perfectly wearable. I've passed on some of DD's stuff as well (although that was a loan as I'm now PG again and might need it if this one is a girl too).

Children and (especially) babies are in things for such a short space of time. What a complete waste to throw things out.