to think a child doesn't need EVERYTHING brand new

[milliec]

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dd gets loads of new stuff. but she loves it when my cousen gives her bags of hand me downs.

yanbu.my children would be naked with no toys and no furniture or car if everything had to be new!i cant understand why if you can get perfectly new second hand things why you wouldnt want them.id have no clothes at all if everything had to be new!things that i buy second hand are new to me and my children so same thing!

YANBU. I buy clothes from charity shops and always pass clothes on to younger siblings.

YANBU from me too. we get most of our stuff passed on from friends, and some from other mn-ers. it is fabulous too esp the girls' stuff. So likewise we pass it on to friends or send on for postage cost on here.

YANBU at all, I pick up things from charity shops all the time and I accept clothes from friends.

In fact I have just packed up a huge bag of baby clothes for a friend. It would be such a waste to throw them in the bin, how wastefull!

YANBU

Although, I do buy new for my dd. I just prefer to. I've bought her a few items from ebay but not many, and I do accept hand me downs from my family. Everything that dd has grown out of either goes on ebay, to a charity shop or to children I know. I'd never put clothes in a bin, unless they were beyond repair.

Tbh, the womans attitude doesn't sound very nice, although I'll admit to knowing plenty like her! I just try to keep my distance.

Hand me downs help us tremendously i love them .!

YANBU...but i can't help thinking she's a bit laughable. I mean - how uneducated must she be? Just goes to show, being well-off doesn't mean you're intelligent (no particular meaning, just makes me feel better about being skint ).

Slightly off topic but can I ask a question? We have a 'black box' recycling here and generally I put old clothes in there for recycling.

Is it better to take them to a charity shop (even if they include socks and pants etc) or freecycle in a batch (but then they are mixed sex and age)

I have a big bag full of age 4/5 boys and age 5 girls winter and summer stuff to get rid of ....

only read the OP, but sounds to me like the child might know mum cares but on the other hand won't know the value of money, & will grow up to be a spoilt brat. (i'm speculating of course!)

I buy from ebay charity shops MN hand me downs etc. it's all helping each other out isn't it?

DS has one or 2 good sets of clotehs the rest are play ones - why spend £15 on a pair of jeans when a £3 pair in tescos do the same job? and I wouldn't care if they got wrecked! (well as much!)

I do buy Brand new shoes, bedding, towels, and mattresses thou that's the only vice I have, not so bothered about the rest of it - oh and car seat.

Good lord, she sounds a right knob. Does she think it makes people admire her because she buys everything new? . In DD's school the Summer dresses cost £45 EACH - I promptly went to the second hand cupboard and bought 2 for £30 (still ) - there is NO WAY I was spending £90 on 2 dresses that DD will wreck and only wear for 9 weeks.

We were the first of our group of friends to have children, so got nothing in the way of hand-me-downs . I make a point of trying to hand everything on to other people - the moses basket is on its 7th baby, and has plenty of life left in it yet...I can (sort of) understand why someone might not want cast-offs for their children but am that they would throw stuff away. Only the most disgustingly stained items get thrown away here, or used as dusters...

When my son was a baby he mostly wore hand me downs. Babies grow out of clothes so quickly they get very little wear.

At the age of 6 we mostly buy clothes new. I buy the biggest size that will fit him without looking daft and generally he gets about 2 years of use out of some of clothes. He is an active little boy and particularly trousers often end up with holes in the knees. His t shirts get faded with the sun.

Many of his T shirts are not fit to pass on, however our local supermaket has a bin where they can be recycled for rags. I think its criminal to put clothes into landfill.

She's clearly a moron. I buy a lot of my kids stuff 2nd hand, less now they're older and charity shops have fewer older kids things. Baby equipment was almost all 2nd hand except for safety items like carseat and mattress.
It's cheaper, it's good for the environment and your kid doesnt end up looking like an identikit Next 2008 advert by wearing the same thing as every other kid at nursery.

Snickersnack - we never got hand-me-downs either. We weren't the first to have a baby, but the first to have a girl! Everyone else just keeps having boys and we just keep getting girls

What a stupid, snobby woman. I never throw clothes away. They go to jumble sales, charity shops, ebay etc and I always reuse if I can. DD2 who is 4wks will be wearing dd1 castoffs after 6mths (gave the 0-6mth clothes to a friend of dh who had little money for his dd when she was born). We can afford new but whats the point unless for special occasions, they get worn so little because they grow so fast.
The woman is a complete muppet
I also buy second hand toys because kids soon get bored of them.

All our baby stuff is out on loan again. I'm really pleased it's getting used tbh.

We did buy everything new for dc1 since we didn't know anyone else with small children at the time who could/would lend us stuff & there was I'll admit a certain pleasure in buying pristine things for a nb - but that wore off!

I'll happily use car boots - dd & ds have lovely Gap winter coats & clothes to wear to a wedding from one. Dcs love going as it means a possible 'new' toy or at least a book.

YANBU babies and small children don't care what they wear-you might as well make the most of it before they get fussy! I used to get most of mine from NCT sales, car boots etc and then sell it on afterwards-all lovely stuff. It always amuses me when newspapers list the cost of a baby. You do NOT have to buy it all new!! If people buy designer clothes they have more money than sense IMO!! They should be dressed in clothes that they can get in the mud-covered in paint etc.

how very odd

i can't throw anything out i have just freecycled mounds of childrens clothes and the collectors have all seemed very greatful. particularly a lady earlier with twin girls.

When i had dd i didn't realise how much good 2nd hand stuff was around and that people may also be able to lend things like moses baskets(not the matress though)

ds has not had much at all new as he used all dd's baby things(car seat etc) and a friend passed on all of her boys clothes so he's not had new clothes either. I wouldn't buy new even if i could afford to.

For some people though it's a compulsion. they have to buy new clothes. my friend who gave me ds' clothes couldn't believe i didn't buy extra new ones i have to admit at first it was very hard to resist the blue after all the pink but funds meant i had to.

I don't care that she buy her daughter new stuff, but she could freecycle it, chartity-shop it...

YANBU - I recycle, freecycle and very happily accept hand-me downs from friends/colleagues etc. Even if I had enough money to buy everything new, I still wouldn't and would definitely not throw things away.

Wow, YANBU, that woman is defo in the minority. All my DD's stuff is at least second hand, apart from the occasional thing we had bought as a present. As long as its clean and safe, what's the problem?
SO many kind people gave us stuff, even people I had never met before. Some of the lovely newborn stuff DD cant wear because she was nearly 10 lbs at birth and has to wear a Pavlik harness.
Thus I will be delighted to be able to pass things on to others who need/want them. Can you imagine how many others end up with things they cant use and what a colossal waste it would be if everything went in the bin?
Sheesh, some people

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I come accross this attitude so much!! I buy most of dd2's things second hand from charity shops or ebay. Nobody ever knows, but when one friend asked me where I got her dress from, i said charity shop and she immediately hushed me and told me my secret is safe with her!!! BTW, when I had ds, I was a skint single mum and all his pressies came from a charity shop. He is now 11 and I KNOW he doesn't think that i cared for him any less because of this - bloody stupid thing to say. Caring comes from the love you give, not the brand new, materialistic things you buy

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