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Littlemissgobby · 21/11/2024 16:15

Right from the very start I was very cynical about this not because I thought they were taking money out of the charity which is very disgusting, but because I believe they had a lot of association with the Conservatives which it turns out there is some sort of network that the family had because it was taken away from what we believe was going on at the time with the conservative trying to make this a good news story.

When I said I was really cynical though and I didn’t buy into this the amount of abuse u got for saying that at the time was unreal but it’s been proven. I have been right..
But it seems to me that interesting at the same time this was going on. A few lads were doing something like camping in the garden. I can’t remember what they were doing for charity but they never ever managed to get any traction.
But as it happens, we now realise that the family were in PR so that makes a lot of sense

Toomanywars · 21/11/2024 16:18

ChocolateTelephone · 21/11/2024 06:43

They are horrors. Greedy, deceitful, manipulative graspers who exploited the good faith and generosity of people genuinely moved by the sincerity and effort of their father/FIL in order to fund luxuries well beyond the reach of the people the charity was intended to help. Shameless, wicked, unforgivable greed.

This.

Shameful behaviour. Will they pass any of the £1.5 million profit from book sales on.....
The other money donated seems to be used by the too, swimming pool, extension etc.

Greedy vile woman

SoiledMyselfDuringSomeTurbulence · 21/11/2024 16:21

Ivyn · 21/11/2024 16:09

Captain Tom branded holidays?

wtaf?

Is it wrong that I kind of want to see the brochure?

superplumb · 21/11/2024 16:34

Frostycottagegarden · 21/11/2024 06:21

I actually didn't give them a penny at the time, because it felt off.

Same. Never liked her and felt ot was a scam.

labamba007 · 21/11/2024 17:05

@Darker I don't expect anyone to be paid peanuts and I don't believe transparency on salaries should be reserved for the charity sector either. Ideally, all employers should disclose pay, it would hugely benefit employees and customers - allowing them to make informed decisions where they spend their money. I am a business owner myself and fully transparent on finances. If you have nothing to hide, why fear it?

labamba007 · 21/11/2024 17:09

And the UK charity commission has been highly criticised (often rightly) for failing to investigate misconduct - including Captain Tom saga.

fedup33 · 21/11/2024 17:12

Camila Batmanghelidjh? this is not an isolated case

that was all very odd.

fedup33 · 21/11/2024 17:14

Does anybody remember the Bargain Basement Tom? A lady who ran up and down stairs for charity?

Darker · 21/11/2024 17:31

labamba007 · 21/11/2024 17:05

@Darker I don't expect anyone to be paid peanuts and I don't believe transparency on salaries should be reserved for the charity sector either. Ideally, all employers should disclose pay, it would hugely benefit employees and customers - allowing them to make informed decisions where they spend their money. I am a business owner myself and fully transparent on finances. If you have nothing to hide, why fear it?

Thank you. I look for the Living Wage accreditation, which shows that employers are paying their own staff and that they are working with suppliers that do the same

roastiepotato · 21/11/2024 17:32

camelfinger · 21/11/2024 15:52

Hannah Ingram-Moore is sure to turn up as a contestant on I’m a celebrity get me out of here at some point.

Oh God you're right..

PylaSheight · 21/11/2024 17:35

I rolled my eyes at the whole thing, as it was a cliche of feel-good tick boxes...

  1. War "hero" (although I gather he only spent 5 years in the army, and much of that was either being trained or being a trainer)
  2. Seemingly sweet elderly person. Awww.
  3. Raising funds "for the NHS" (although he was actually raising money for NHS charities so so many people seemed to think he was raising money for the NHS itself)
If he hadn't ticked those boxes, and had a pushy daughter with PR knowledge and links, it wouldn't have gained traction.

He was walking around his garden as part of his physio plan post hip surgery from what I understand and I think they saw it as a money-making venture and capitalised on his Army background and age. I don't think he was exploited by his daughter, I think he wanted his 15mins of fame (like he did when he was on Blankety Blank 🙄). He was a salesman and businessman, his daughter similar, so their personalities are likely money driven. He only became a national treasure because of great advertising, great PR, the right contacts, and huge media backing.

Useofstirm · 21/11/2024 17:35

Youngatheart00 · 21/11/2024 15:36

I had the misfortune of meeting them in person a year or so ago at a corporate event.

I got a bad vibe from the both of them, however what I will say is that from memory, her husband seemed to be pushing the agenda. Hannah is not innocent by any means and is totally culpable, but I do wonder whether there was an element of encouragement verging on control from her husband, who has been able to remain in the background.

I only had a short chat as I felt uncomfortable with the glee with which they were talking about their plans and the shameless way they wanted to exploit ‘the captain tom brand’, from books, mugs and gin, they also spoke of Captain Tom branded holidays and at that point I politely introduced them to an unsuspecting colleague and moved on!

Jeez....

Crikeyalmighty · 21/11/2024 17:37

@Youngatheart00 yes- the husband appears to have got off awfully lightly

Crikeyalmighty · 21/11/2024 17:40

@Oreyt Christian ethos charity -

fedup33 · 21/11/2024 17:41

Captain Tom branded holidays! The mind boggles. Do you family take you somewhere in the hope that you'll pop your clogs? Or maybe you get to walk up and down a field all day long while listening to Michael Ball?

Littlemissgobby · 21/11/2024 17:42

They’ve just been saying on the radio that it’s not criminal what they’ve done. The charity commission is saying it’s not criminal why is it not criminal because apparently the initial 38 million whatever they raise for the foundation did go to charity it was after that it was then when they did Captain Tom‘s book And it was the disingenuous about how much was going to charity etc

Youngatheart00 · 21/11/2024 17:47

I think it skims a very fine line between illegal and unethical.

I had no real issue with the initial fundraiser, I just think they’ve let the 5 min fame-by-association go to their heads and thought they could bankroll this for life.

I thought it was very sad she was so exuberant about the brand aspirations so soon after losing her father.

Hopefully they will disappear quietly now and readjust their expectations and morals.

roastiepotato · 21/11/2024 17:56

Crikeyalmighty · 21/11/2024 17:37

@Youngatheart00 yes- the husband appears to have got off awfully lightly

That's because she was the one always hovering over him

Youngatheart00 · 21/11/2024 17:58

@roastiepotato front of camera, yes, but I just got a sense of something different when I did meet them in person.

roastiepotato · 21/11/2024 18:00

Youngatheart00 · 21/11/2024 17:58

@roastiepotato front of camera, yes, but I just got a sense of something different when I did meet them in person.

Can totally see it

ARealitycheck · 21/11/2024 18:04

labamba007 · 21/11/2024 17:05

@Darker I don't expect anyone to be paid peanuts and I don't believe transparency on salaries should be reserved for the charity sector either. Ideally, all employers should disclose pay, it would hugely benefit employees and customers - allowing them to make informed decisions where they spend their money. I am a business owner myself and fully transparent on finances. If you have nothing to hide, why fear it?

A private company is an entirely different thing.

An example of wages would be I employ two salesmen. One is brilliant and turns a sale on nearly every deal, the other has a success rate of 50%. It is not unreasonable for that good salesman to negotiate a better wage, and that be nobody elses business.

You, as my customer an look at the product and decide if it is for you at the price advertised. You really don't need to know my profit/loss.

But a charity asking for money for 'good causes' should be totally transparent, and looking at this shower of conmen and their charity/company returns, they appear to be feathering their own nest way before any good cause sees a penny.

ARealitycheck · 21/11/2024 18:05

fedup33 · 21/11/2024 17:41

Captain Tom branded holidays! The mind boggles. Do you family take you somewhere in the hope that you'll pop your clogs? Or maybe you get to walk up and down a field all day long while listening to Michael Ball?

Surely that would be considered some form of punishment. They could market it to the justice minister as a replacement to prison, stop overcrowding. 😂

DanielaDressen · 21/11/2024 18:10

Not in the slightest bit surprised sadly. I didn’t donate at the time as I had a bad feeling about the whole set up. She’s a total grifter who should go to prison. One of the saddest things is the fact many people will be put off donating to charity in the future for fear of something like this.

Youngatheart00 · 21/11/2024 18:12

There are key legal differences between a Ltd Company and a Registered Charity.

One of which is that a Ltd companies purpose is to deliver a return for its shareholders.

A charity looks to deliver maximum value to the stated cause. That is after deducting operating expenses, but there is a gray area around what level of operating expenses are ‘correct’, and can be open to manipulation if there are huge salaries, ‘consultancy fees’ etc. It’s reasonable for a charity to make a surplus to ensure it’s financially sustainable, but money leaking out to the controlling parties and the charity status being used in vein for planning applications etc is just an abuse of the charitable status and the tax breaks etc they get, this is why they’ve been closed down, and rightly so.

Darker · 21/11/2024 18:19

ARealitycheck · 21/11/2024 18:04

A private company is an entirely different thing.

An example of wages would be I employ two salesmen. One is brilliant and turns a sale on nearly every deal, the other has a success rate of 50%. It is not unreasonable for that good salesman to negotiate a better wage, and that be nobody elses business.

You, as my customer an look at the product and decide if it is for you at the price advertised. You really don't need to know my profit/loss.

But a charity asking for money for 'good causes' should be totally transparent, and looking at this shower of conmen and their charity/company returns, they appear to be feathering their own nest way before any good cause sees a penny.

I work for a charity and get a salary package based on my skills and experience. They could replace me with someone cheaper and give the balance to cover more ‘direct’ costs but it wouldn’t be much of a saving if in the long term I was able to give much better value. A good accountant or fundraiser or project manager will cost more but will also save time and resources and know how to make the charity more sustainable and effective.
This goes x 10 for a good CEO. You won’t be able to tell if they are worth it from salary disclosures in the accounts. It’s the trustees job to worry about that - and big charities invest a lot on getting the right people on their board and in their Senior Leadership positions.