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SoMuchBadAdvice · 21/11/2024 13:46

Darker · 21/11/2024 11:33

I used to work in a department store and every year a well known charity came in and bought 50 gift cards for £50 for their staff Christmas party. Whilst I’m sure they deserved it, I used to donate to that charity and when I did I didn’t do it for their staff Christmas gift I did it for the recipients in terrible situations supposedly being helped by the charity

Staff working for charities are often expected to make do with less because they work for a charity, often in teams that are chronically under resourced and with tiny budgets. £50 is hardly the earth.

£50 is the limit set by HMRC, any more has to go through PAYE.

Crikeyalmighty · 21/11/2024 13:49

@PotNoodlesFTW totally agree- she was a good hearted but naive person without the business skills required - I don't think there was any malice involved - the Ingram Moores however - not so much

labamba007 · 21/11/2024 13:49

It should be the law that charities have to disclose salaries and bonuses. I think people would be shocked how much some people who work for charities or founded them are paid!

TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 21/11/2024 13:57

labamba007 · 21/11/2024 13:49

It should be the law that charities have to disclose salaries and bonuses. I think people would be shocked how much some people who work for charities or founded them are paid!

You can see the number of people receiving bracketed salaries above 60k on the Charity Commission website. Charities must be registered and must report these things.

(Maybe people who comment on the work and operations on charities should be required to take a read of what the Charity Commission does before they comment?)

Crikeyalmighty · 21/11/2024 13:58

I had a bit of a vulnerable time many years ago and a lovely friend was involved with the Salvation Army - now I'm not religious but can honestly say the kindness and support offered was of immense help and totally non judgemental - so I have a very soft spot for their work -

Darker · 21/11/2024 13:59

labamba007 · 21/11/2024 13:49

It should be the law that charities have to disclose salaries and bonuses. I think people would be shocked how much some people who work for charities or founded them are paid!

How much or how little?

Most paid work in charities is under market rate without fancy benefits.

And I’m confused as to the moral stance of refusing to pay people properly as a virtue… it’s not really ok to expect people to work for peanuts, yet make huge demands on their goodwill and integrity.

And if you make it financially unsustainable for ordinary people to work in charities the jobs get taken by people doing hobby jobs.

Bruisername · 21/11/2024 14:01

If you look at charity accounts they do have to disclose certain salaries. Always have a look. If they are very late filing then red flag tbh

Re paying - of course people should get a fair wage for what they do. I think the issue is more around people at high levels expecting to be paid the same as very high earners in the private sector. Or celebs taking an excessive appearance fee when they go to one of their own charity events etc

SoMuchBadAdvice · 21/11/2024 14:02

Ivyn · 21/11/2024 11:49

OK, so how would you feel if public sector workers were all given a £50 gift card for Christmas, paid by the taxpayer?

I've worked in the public sector for many years and we even had to pay for tea and coffee, never mind receiving Christmas presents!

As a PP said, it's not why people donate to charity. If I donate I want most of the money to go to the cause, and understand that there will be admin costs as well, but absolutely am not donating for luxury gifts for the staff, whether or not they are paid or volunteers.

If I donate I want most of the money to go to the cause

You aren't going to be happy then!.

How Much Money Goes To Charity When You Donate?

Ever wondered where your money goes when you donate? We answer the burning questions about transparency in the charity sector.

https://www.goodbox.com/2019/06/how-much-money-goes-to-charity-when-you-donate/#:~:text=The%20remaining%20income%20is%20usually,likely%20between%2060%2D70%25.

Oreyt · 21/11/2024 14:03

@Crikeyalmighty
Why's goes the Salvation Army have to do with Religion!

TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 21/11/2024 14:06

I'm interested to know if people who want such scrutiny of charities make sure that they buy from companies where the wage structures are not exploitative?

Do you make sure you buy milk where a fair percent goes to the farmer, not the profits of Tesco? Do you make sure the children making your clothes get a fair wage?

I'm not defending poor practice in charities - far from it. I just find the psychology of it fascinating. By the mere act of a stated aim of doing good, charities are opened up to intrusion and demands by the public which the same people usually don't remotely apply the same principles to corporate entities who are ruining the environment, communities and society.

SoiledMyselfDuringSomeTurbulence · 21/11/2024 14:17

labamba007 · 21/11/2024 13:49

It should be the law that charities have to disclose salaries and bonuses. I think people would be shocked how much some people who work for charities or founded them are paid!

The sort of magical thinking you display here is very common when it comes to charities, as is people mouthing off about salaries without knowing about what's already required to be reported. So I expect you're right about the levels of surprise, unfortunately.

Ivyn · 21/11/2024 14:22

SoMuchBadAdvice · 21/11/2024 14:02

If I donate I want most of the money to go to the cause

You aren't going to be happy then!.

Which is why I donate stuff to charity shops rather than give money.

And yes, I did know that.

Darker · 21/11/2024 14:26

Ivyn · 21/11/2024 14:22

Which is why I donate stuff to charity shops rather than give money.

And yes, I did know that.

Where is the logic? A charity shop is an expensive way to raise money.

SoiledMyselfDuringSomeTurbulence · 21/11/2024 14:27

Darker · 21/11/2024 13:07

I think donating to charity shops has less to do with donating to charity and more to do with responsible reuse and recycling.

I donate because I feel bad chucking good stuff into landfill and am happy for someone to benefit. When deciding where to donate, I tend to consider how easy it is to make the donation above the actual cause.

Agree. A lot of people view charity shops as a way to get rid of things they no longer want, without feeling guilty. My main priority is for it to be out of my way.

Which is fine when you're giving decent stuff, and I try to make sure I am. But let's be honest, any charity shop worker will tell you there's a section of the general public who view it as a glorified free waste disposal. Some of whom expect gratitude to be shown to them while they do it!

SoMuchBadAdvice · 21/11/2024 14:33

I think that there are 2 lessons to take from the discussion:

  1. If you want all your donation to go to a good cause - roll your sleeves up and get involved yourself. This doesn't necessarily mean that you have to work for a charity, 2 examples might be:

Give a street sleeper a meal deal that you just bought from a supermarket.

Give an Animal Shelter your old bedding, blankets, and throws. They need vast quantities for the animal beds as it doesn't last long.

  1. Like it or not a lot of bigger charity work can only be done by corporate style organisations with skills, expertise, technology, but also the attendant overheads (think drug companies, hospices, medical research, Samaritans, Macmillan).
NeedToChangeName · 21/11/2024 14:53

Oreyt · 21/11/2024 14:03

@Crikeyalmighty
Why's goes the Salvation Army have to do with Religion!

Salvation Army is a Christian organisation https://www.salvationarmy.org.uk/our-faith

I believe they have a very good name for actually rolling up their sleeves, doing useful things and practical help

Our faith

The Salvation Army is a Christian Church and charity. Learn more about our faith.

https://www.salvationarmy.org.uk/our-faith

SoMuchBadAdvice · 21/11/2024 14:57

Ivyn · 21/11/2024 14:22

Which is why I donate stuff to charity shops rather than give money.

And yes, I did know that.

And this is the charities justification for a low % of turnover going to good works. From my other post - if you can give your charity donation goods directly to someone who needs them there is a much more effective outcome. (e.g. blankets to animal shelters).

Darker · 21/11/2024 15:04

Giving direct works to a point but only on a fairly simple level.

Giving a homeless person a meal will help stave off hunger but it won’t get them into accommodation or help them to address the trauma, addiction problems etc that they need to address to thrive. For that you do need charities or statutory services.

Toddlerteaplease · 21/11/2024 15:06

Frostycottagegarden · 21/11/2024 06:21

I actually didn't give them a penny at the time, because it felt off.

Same here. Didn't like it from the start.

SoiledMyselfDuringSomeTurbulence · 21/11/2024 15:33

Darker · 21/11/2024 15:04

Giving direct works to a point but only on a fairly simple level.

Giving a homeless person a meal will help stave off hunger but it won’t get them into accommodation or help them to address the trauma, addiction problems etc that they need to address to thrive. For that you do need charities or statutory services.

Quite. And donations of physical items, while useful in some types of charity work, are actively unhelpful sometimes. There was someone on here the other week complaining that Social Services hadn't accepted their used pram to give to a teenage mother instead of buying new, for example.

Youngatheart00 · 21/11/2024 15:36

I had the misfortune of meeting them in person a year or so ago at a corporate event.

I got a bad vibe from the both of them, however what I will say is that from memory, her husband seemed to be pushing the agenda. Hannah is not innocent by any means and is totally culpable, but I do wonder whether there was an element of encouragement verging on control from her husband, who has been able to remain in the background.

I only had a short chat as I felt uncomfortable with the glee with which they were talking about their plans and the shameless way they wanted to exploit ‘the captain tom brand’, from books, mugs and gin, they also spoke of Captain Tom branded holidays and at that point I politely introduced them to an unsuspecting colleague and moved on!

TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 21/11/2024 15:40

Darker · 21/11/2024 15:04

Giving direct works to a point but only on a fairly simple level.

Giving a homeless person a meal will help stave off hunger but it won’t get them into accommodation or help them to address the trauma, addiction problems etc that they need to address to thrive. For that you do need charities or statutory services.

Indeed.

My charity funds health research into conditions that cost the taxpayer BILLIONS.

The quid pro quo for existence is really obvious. Quibbling about the below-market rate we're paid for doing it is massively missing the bigger picture.

(Funnily enough I've had a 12% pay bump recently when my role was evaluated against the whole sector for my job - this brings it up to the lowest end of the normal rate. It's a six figure role elsewhere, and I specifically chose not to apply for several such roles that I felt were an unethical use of my skillset.)

camelfinger · 21/11/2024 15:52

Hannah Ingram-Moore is sure to turn up as a contestant on I’m a celebrity get me out of here at some point.

Ella31 · 21/11/2024 15:56

Darker · 21/11/2024 10:17

That is ridiculous.

Can you imagine the mess that would leave for vulnerable people to navigate?

People in need of charitable support deserve professional standards of care, and charities need to be accountable to their beneficiaries and donors.

Completely agree. The Irish charity here for Stillbirth and Neonatal death supported me and my dh after our baby twin sons died last year. They provided a coffin, memory boxes , photos and footprints and free counselling. We'd have nothing left of our boys without them as we were so numb to the world when it was all happening. Not all charities are self grabbing. But this charity is regulated and ran by families who lost children. There is accountability

Ivyn · 21/11/2024 16:09

Captain Tom branded holidays?

wtaf?

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