To find a lost wallet and keep the money inside

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Today I found a wallet on the floor in ASDA. A decent leather, heavy wallet with credit cards inside etc. I quickly handed it into a security guard who then handed it into customer services. Told DH and he asked if I kept the money inside? He was half joking but said that he would keep the cash as a “finders fee” and that it served the boomer right for dropping their wallet (it was a wallet of an older man)

Tried to talk to him, would he really keep the money he found and he would! Although he then accused me of starting a fight.

I knew someone who kept the extra samples sent from a firm and ended up being jailed for theft! Be very careful what he does as there is CCTV EVERYWHERE!

I wouldn't expect cash back if I lost my wallet. Not many people even carry cash. It's much more important to take the cards out of circulation to stop fraud and let the owner know it's been found. If it was hundreds of pounds I think I'd wait and hope they gave me some of it when I returned it. If it was twenty quid or something I probably would just pocket it but still help the person her the wallet back. Only because I'm really broke. And I would accept that I would not get cash returned to me.

I lost my wallet once, I was absolutely distraught. A lovely man brought it to my house (I had my address in it!) and hadn’t taken a penny. I had my cash for the month in it, about £200.

The relief and sheer gratitude … I think I actually cried a bit. I tried to offer him £20 as a reward and he refused.

I would never, ever take money from a lost wallet because I know that horrible panic and the overwhelming relief when you find it intact.

A dishonest man with no morals is hardly a catch. I couldn't stay with someone who had that attitude.

No, a decent person doesn’t steal.

I found a wallet with at least a grand in notes folded up inside it, sat on a wall of a car park for a DIY shop. I presume the owner plonked it down whilst loading their car boot?

I took it straight to the store’s customer services desk and told them where I’d found it. The lady I gave it to has worked there for years and I’ve no reason to assume she would be dishonest. I didn’t leave my details as I didn’t want a reward just for doing the right thing. I’m sure the owner would have realised at some point and retraced their steps.

Where I live, I often read posts on the town’s local Facebook page from people losing stuff and it’s virtually always returned to them in tact within a day or so. I guess if I lived in a city, that would be less likely to happen. 😢

Your husband sounds vile OP, and now it's rubbing off on your kid.

Ick

dump him OP

Usual 'hate of boomers' stuff. Quite repulsive.

I'd never do that. I remember when I found a watch in a carpark when I was a delivery driver aged 17. I handed it in to the police station. The lady who had lost it contacted them to see if it had been handed in and they reunited her with it. She was so grateful she rang me to thank me for my kindness. It was a watch given to her by her late husband and priceless. I have never forgotten that and I am a very honest person anyway. Yes I steal the odd marker pen or bottle of tippex from work but that's a bit different.

Sorry OP I think I voted the wrong way. I voted YABU as in I think you would BU to take the money, but I think your question was actually the opposite. I do not think at all that YABU to hand the wallet in with the money in it. Your DH is horrible to steal the money! We have no idea what people's circumstances are and that might have been the difference between him being able to eat or not for the rest of the month.

Obviously stealing

Anyone who uses the term boomer is an ick as well

my usual question then. What does he bring to the table? have you had kids with this man?

In your first couple of posts, you sound shocked that he would suggest keeping it.

Your later posts about him being a thief make me wonder why you are surprised!

Of course you don’t keep the money. And Jeezo, your DH is basically a thief. I would struggle knowing that about him. How would he feel if it was the other way round and someone took money he needed, eg for food or heating?

I'm surprised he didn't suggest taking the credit cards & using them as well

And the OP is allowing him to bring up their son to have similar values.

I know someone who found over £1000 in cash in a department store, not far from the foreign exchange desk. They kept it. I was quite shocked that someone would do this as this is theft.

If I ever found cash or cash, I would hand it in to the police station, not hand it where found though. I would probably inform the store that money has been found and that any enquiries made to them, they should contact the police.

So, op. I think you are right, your husband is wrong to consider doing this..

Definitely hand it in. I had my wallet handed back to me once with all contents in and it was so lovely.

If i find money I donate to a charity box or someone homeless. I know some MNers claim to hand £10 notes into the police which is totally nuts!

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And are you planning on staying married to him for the rest of your life?

Fair point! I don’t know why I was so surprised! I’m a very honest person, I’ve actually walked back to a shop to pay for an item my toddler years ago squirrelled away in his pram and been honest if I’ve been given too much change.

That might be the last cash the guy has for the rest of the month. Well done OP for handing it in. Your husband has shown that if he were presented with the opportunity he would steal - not great!

I can’t say too many details but I’m putting together a plan to leave, it’ll just take a while.

Wallet-absolutely not.

Stray loose tenner randomly on the ground..yep Ill have that thank you very much.

I once saw a woman leave a tenner in a self service checkout in Asda. I took the tenner out and waited by the exit for ten minutes to see her come flying back in looking all dishevelled….and handed her the tenner back. I knew who it belonged to so it was the right thing to do to give it back.