To find a lost wallet and keep the money inside

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Today I found a wallet on the floor in ASDA. A decent leather, heavy wallet with credit cards inside etc. I quickly handed it into a security guard who then handed it into customer services. Told DH and he asked if I kept the money inside? He was half joking but said that he would keep the cash as a “finders fee” and that it served the boomer right for dropping their wallet (it was a wallet of an older man)

Tried to talk to him, would he really keep the money he found and he would! Although he then accused me of starting a fight.

Your DH sounds like a total cunt. 'Serves the man right for dropping his wallet'? Good grief.

No, of course I wouldn't keep the money from someone's wallet. I might keep money that I found on the pavement (rather than a shop) on its own with no indication of who had dropped it, but I absolutely wouldn't steal money from a wallet I'd found. That's really, really shitty behaviour.

Yeah he sounds awful tbh.

Wow. I would say that least now you know what he's like buy you already do! So I actually agree you are picking a fight, you know he is a thief, why poke that bear?

My advice is know your enemy. If you ever divorce him you know he will be hiding stuff because he has a takers mentality.

Only dropped my purse once and was handed in at college with my money in which I was so grateful about as my dad had given me money for new jeans and I think would have killed me. 😁

I hate this. Many years ago I found a wallet on tbe floor of a pub (kicked under a couch). I handed it to the car staff and didn't even look inside.

A friend told me the next day that her boyfriend had found it twenty minutes earlier, stolen the cash and thrown it under the couch.

The bar staff must have thought I was a thief

Absolutely horrible! Apart from the fact that it's stealing first and foremost, the owner might be broke for the rest of the month without that money. My DH took a purse to the police station that he found in a phone box. We were skint at the time, it belonged to a lady who had just got her pension out at the post office. She was in tears because she thought she would never see the money again.
Your husband should consider how this might impact an older person. And remember he will be old one day.

Me personally, I'd have tried to find the person on LinkedIn or FB and tried to get it back to them personally

Me too I think - I'd rather find the persons name and put it on Facebook or similar. I wouldn't trust random shop workers or security guards - by handing it in you really have no idea if the person would ever see their wallet again.

So he is a coward as well as an arsehole?

Does he steal from your handbag too ?

You have bigger problems than a hypothetical lost wallet, OP. Why do you keep posting about him if you're never actually going to change your situation?

At a certain point, you're as complicit in your childs' upbringing as your husband. You're choosing not to make changes. Changes that would demonstrate to your child that people don't need to tolerate such poor behaviours.

Someone did this to me at Butlins, I was very upset as it was DS pocket money to spend in the arcades. Also had to cancel all my cards just in case because clearly some arse had been through it.

Best to hand it in as if it belonged to an elderly person theyaren’t going to be on Linkedin or Facebook. Plus if you leave the store with it you’re on camera as having stolen it.

Your husband seems to be an unpleasant thief

Pretty pathetic weapon. What you said was the truth.

Does he not realise that there will come a time when he is an older man? being called whatever unpleasant epithet people like him are using in 30 or 40 years time?

Essentially has the attitude that everyone is out for themselves and if he hadn’t kept the air pods/pinched money from a found wallet-someone else would do it.

How disgusting. That is totally without morals and vile.
IF eg you found cash dropped in the street with no identifying features with it then I could maybe see why you'd keep it. In a shop? When it is obvious who it belongs to? That is barely any better than just pick pocketing it from their person. It's blatant theft.

Do you have children with this man?

This gives me The Ick.

Tell him sooner or later he’s going to get caught. Shops are rapidly improving their video surveillance.

My husband found a purse in a car park recently. Contained cards plus a large amount of cash. He was able to reunite it with the owner who was very thankful.

They insisted he take something which he tried not to take but they were very insistent. It was the right thing to do and by the way he would have been called a boomer by your husband and the prison who lost their purse was probably early forties. Also the gentleman when he got his wallet back would have known what cash was in it and you could have found yourself under investigation for the missing money.

I kept reading down hoping you would say that you do not have children with this man. Sadly you do. Why are you with him? What good does he bring to your life. He sounds like utter scum.

I found a wallet in the snow yesterday, it must have been dropped and then covered when it started snowing.

I opened it only to find the name and address on the drivers license, but there was cash and numerous cards in there too.

I’ve got less than £20 to last me until I get paid at the end of next week and the address listed was in a really nice part of town, big houses and fancy cars, so guess what I did?

I got in my car and dropped the wallet and all of its contents off at the address listed. Like any decent human would do.

I'm guessing there are issues with empathy in other areas of his life? I have a relative who is very non feeling and I had to go NC for my own wellbeing. They'd have an attitude like this - not caring that could be the poor man's last few quid.

The other stuff is almost like thrill seeking - trying to get stuff without scanning properly for example.

I'd be a bit bothered by the wider context regards the person he is. I believe there will be much more than this example.

Just saw your update. Your own son calling you a narcissist is weird. I'd be careful he doesn't become a little minion to your husband and they gang up on you with manipulative tactics. There's a huge risk with your husband being the sort I think he may be.

Your husband is vile. Tell him from me.

I understand why he would be tempted but no I wouldn't.

Quite simply because I wouldn't want someone to do it to me.

He's wrong. Decent people don't steal. He may judge everyone by his own standards, doesn't mean he's correct, suggests he probably keeps company with people who ate as scuzzy as himself.