Am I being unreasonable, is this rude?
DH and I go out to my DS’s nursery parents evening (I know, sounds odd, but it was helpful). My DPs look after the children, take them to a class the eldest has, and put them to bed. Lots of toing and froing, children falling asleep in the car, not an easy night. We come home and my DH says ‘Hi’ to my DPs and proceeds to empty and load the dishwasher. In my opinion that was rude, I thought he could have at least come over and said ‘how are you, how were the kids’. I sat with my DPs told them about parents evening, asked how it all went, whilst DH was clattering around with the dishwasher (we are in an open plan, family, dining, kitchen). Then my DPs say, I see you are busy, we best be getting off.
you are being unreasonable- that’s not rude, and saying hi is sufficient
you are not being unreasonable - DH should have said more than Hi and at least engaged in some small talk (and said thank you)
Our relationship has been rocky, but it’s improved recently. And he’s making effort etc, but these things niggle me. With my ILs I make loads of effort and drive the conversation. Offer drinks, ask how they are, will sit and chat away. Just wondering whether I’m expecting too much. He says he thinks my parents just want to talk to me (which isn’t the case) so he gets ‘out the way’.