To think H is a selfish p*ick?

[Incandescentwithrage]

H supports Liverpool. Who may well go through to the European Cup final to be played in Moscow. Last year he went to Eindhoven, Barcelona and Athens to watch them in the various legs of the competition. We had one family holiday to Spain.

He is now arranging to go to Moscow should they get through this year. This in spite of the fact that we are very short of money and we as a family will not be able to afford a holiday this year. His argument is that he cant afford to pay for us all to go on holiday but he might be able to afford this because it is just for him. I am absolutely furious and can hardly speak to him because I am so angry. He also says that this is a match that will never happen again and this is his justification.

Am I being unreasonable? Would welcome some tips on dealing with this. It is not just the holiday issue but we are struggling financially also. His selfishness is actually making me feel ill.

Wel incand looks like you won't have to worry.

On a more serious note, I do think that you need to have a long discussion about his priorities.

Will have to strongly disagree with you there KaSo about football being as important as food, shelter, water! FFS! Its absolutely ridiculous! there are people out there who don't have any of those things. It must be a very lucky person whose only stress in life is fucking football. The h in the op is being a tosser and sounds as if he's a tosser in general when it comes to family responsibilty. I would agree with Queen.

He is completely unreasonable.

Why not send him without a visa - that way he will end up locked up somewhere really nasty, ponders Roskva evilly.

Incandescent - I thought I had problems! Your dh sound as though he's never got used to the fact that he now has 2 kids and they and you come first. It also sounds as though you've made your mind up. You have got to take a stand otherwise this will keep happening.

Man U v Chelsea.

Your husband is a twunt who supports a shite team

incand, i'm a liverpool supporter, but v pleased about the result for you!

agree with pru, you need to get this sorted

Problem solved... for now.

yes Emma - children, rightly, change everything. Footie is last on the list.

Problem not solved at all. Football just a symptom of a massive problem.

Thank fark for that .

So what are you going to do now?

Time to go and book that family holiday quick, strike while the iron's hot!

Would it be very childish of me to chant 'loser', 'loser'! at the computer?

Well given that he's not going on his jolly little jaunt, why don't you take the money and go on holiday with the kids?

Seriously, your husband sounds like a selfish shit. There are better men than him out there. LOADS of them.

I can't believe that when I heard the result of the game on the radio this morning the first thing I thought was how pleased I was for the OP. I really spend too long on here

Yeah, my husband looked at me like I'd started speaking fluent Japanese overnight when he woke up and I told him that Liverpool had lost.

I'm not really a football girl.

He's extremely impressed that I read it on Mumsnet.

Following this thread and had a little smile last night when Liverpool lost.

Well H was absolutely gutted last night and I was almost unable to hide my glee at the Chelsea win. He also told me that I have driven a wedge between us by being so difficult over this situation.

Not sure what is going to happen now but I know that things have to change. Unfortunately I know that I have let things go on for too long just accepting his crap mainly for a quiet life and I knew that he would just do what he wanted anyway so it was pointless arguing. Also think that it has probably gone so far that I don t think I will be able to make changes except just to get out of the relationship, which is rather depressing. My DD starts nursery next year so will be going back to work then and probably be in a much better position. I love being a SAHM but it brings so many problems with regards to financial equality - well with my H anyway.

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I suppose it doesn't really help that I am a Man U supporter either

I think you need to mention to your husband that the wedge wrangler in the house is him, and that if he doesn't want to lose you and the kids he needs to do a Labour-esque U turn and get his arse into gear and be a husband and father instead of a grade A twunt.

Yes ladies and gentlemen, madmuggle had practically no sleep last night

Well, that status, incandescent, merely confirms your infallibility in this matter.

I am so pleased

I read this last night and i thought of my sister and BIL who is a liverpool fan,and yes he would go to MOscow (i'm sure he went there a few years back with liverpool) until he would have watch the news last night and saw the price of going.

FLight was £900
ticket was £1345.00
Hotel rooms £500 per night.
oh the most important cost beer £4.00 per pint.

Visa only being issued to ticket holders.

Incadescent - I was thinking of you last night!

Dh had a bit of a funny turn when I asked him who had won as he knows I hate football so I had to tell him about your dh - he was not impressed!