To ask where women get their....

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I didn't want the thread to be raunchy as that's not what I'm asking.
I often read about women saying on threads how it's so easy for women to get D if they want. I'd like to know where these women speak off and why it's so easy but so difficult for me!
Lighthearted really. But I'm in my late 30's and being singe is no fun at all when you love sex like I do!
I don't understand where I'm going wrong...
I'm relatively attractive. Definitely not a stunner but certainly not hideous!
I have a job and a nice home. I'm a good friend and genuinely a really nice person! So I don't understand my predicament at all 😂
I know no one can give me an answer but where does all this 'it's so easy to find a man for sex' come from?

I'm sure you're at least a bit of a looker because it's not like that for everyone lol

It’s very easy, but I suppose it depends what you’re looking for really. If you’re looking for a no string attached one night thing or a no strings few times here & there I’d go on the likes of Tinder. If you’re looking for something more romantic then it leads to sex, I do think that’s harder to come by. But definitely drinks & sex is easy to do when you go on dating sites.

I think sex is easy to get whether you’re male or female, you just have to put yourself out there for it so to speak.

I think if you are literally just after sex it wouldn’t be too difficult.
As others have said you could join a dating site as that’s all they seem to be good for these days.
However, in your post you mention having a good job, home and being a nice person - all of which are irrelevant in a just-sex relationship which leads me to think you do actually want more and that is why it is difficult.

Personally I would love to be able to go out and meet someone just for sex however due to past trauma, I just can’t do it. I need to know the person and be able to fully trust them before I can have sex with them, makes it even harder to get that D

Low standards? I mean, pretty sure if you set up a profile online and said you were up for no strings sex you'd be inundated. If you want to have safe sex with an adult within your age bracket, who has decent person hygiene, is interested in making sure you also enjoy the experience and isn't aggressive, mentally unsound, morally or physically repulsive to you then that probably thins the field a bit...............

Totally agree with this..

I'm 50. I know I could go out this evening and find someone to go home with if I wanted.

Probably with one of the men I've casually known for a few years who frequently let me know I could choose them 🙄

And I wouldn't say I'm much of a looker either!

It's easy if your not choosy and not bothered about it being good.

Like others I've tended to hit up decent in bed exes for dry spells.

I'm 40 and have no problems finding a man to sleep with, even the good looking ones, it's finding the decent ones personality-wise that's the problem!

Oh don't be silly. Obviously I meant Dick! I'm 39 so definitely old enough.
I just know some people get offended.

Don't worry OP using D is popular slang for it these days, I'm slightly older and me and my friends use it often.

I'm the same age and it doesn't work for me

Thank you! I can't believe that people were confused about the D= Dick!

So I suppose I should just go online and say I'm after sex! But I fear that would attract a lot of creeps and I wouldn't feel safe.
Maybe going to clubs and flirting... oh the horror. I wouldn't do that alone.

Clubbing , dating apps . If you really wanted no strings attached you wouldn't be stuck if you made it clear that's what you wanted

Sex 😂

🤣 so true!

Just be safe about if you do meet up with someone at least let a friend know where you are x

Do you come across as approachable? Men that age have probably suffered so many rejections that they sometimes can't be bothered making the first move any more unless they're sure someone is interested or at least approachable.

I'm usually quite flirtatious and chatty.

I'm also quite forward and will ask if they're good at cooking, if they say they are I tell them I just throw everything in the air fryer so next time they're making something nice I'm expecting an invite. I think this panders to their ego (them being a better cook than me) and they equate that with you having made them feel good. Doesn't have to be cooking, can be anything, ask what they do for work so if they're a mechanic then something like 'Oh really? I am rubbish with cars, next time I have a problem I know who to call'. Works a treat for me 😆

Any good wing women you can take with you? sister or friend? I'll happily go to a few pubs on my own that I know but not all of them. Sometimes I'll go out with my mum, she's taken so it's less competition 😂

@Keleshey oh stop... hilarious 😆

Also you can use the creepy ones to your advantage, if one of them pesters you then you find a man you like the look of and ask if you can chat with him for a bit to ward off the creep. Again, he'll get an ego boost and feel like a bit of a hero with a damsel in distress.

Thanks guys. I guess I need to put myself out there more.
I just thought everyone was getting it SO easily according to the things I read!

Any D? Easy. Good D? Much more difficult! When I was single other also single exes worked. Can’t say I have ever had a properly good sex with a ONS, wherever I found him!

My friend has successfully used an OLD site purely for hook ups but for people who'd like some decent conversation and a bit of effort. A bit like a nice date with both people knowing sex is a very likely option afterwards, if they both want to. Just a bit more than a hook up but definitely nothing serious. Can't remember it's name but it definitely does exist! Might be Hinge.

I joined fab swingers or something like that because I read about it on a thread on here and could not contain my curiosity to see if there are actually swinging meetups in my parochial, religious little corner of the UK. I couldn't see that without signing up.

I had no photo and put my real.age (mid 40s) and had 150 messages the next time I looked.

If you want a FWB - Feeld is the place.