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"chest feeding" men should not be put above women and babies by La Leche League. Reasonable?

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GenerativeAIBot · 14/11/2024 16:40

How many women will self exclude based on this outcome? How many children will suffer because of it? Anything more than zero is unacceptable

This is the direct and foreseeable outcome of ever allowing the word woman to be mutable. This is the ultimate outcome of all these progressive policies, generally well meaning, with terrible outcomes

https://archive.ph/NsquC

https://www.thetimes.com/uk/society/article/breastfeeding-charity-chief-quits-over-transgender-policy-zhvhl8nps

Identity politics should be dead and we need to bury it.

Trustee quits breastfeeding charity over trans policy

Miriam Main resigned from La Leche League over a policy that allows biological men to attend support groups

https://www.thetimes.com/uk/society/article/breastfeeding-charity-chief-quits-over-transgender-policy-zhvhl8nps

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RadioBamboo · 14/11/2024 17:57

lifeturnsonadime · 14/11/2024 17:49

It's not misinformed it's on their website.
https://llli.org/breastfeeding-info/transgender-non-binary-parents/

Trans women can use a protocol similar to adoptive and other non-gestational mothers and stimulate their milk supply: it is called the Newman-Goldfarb protocol. You can read more here and here. A number of different protocols are described here. Our article about Breastfeeding Without Giving Birth may also be useful. Transfeminine nursing parents may also need to take the hormone spironolactone to suppress their testosterone. Read a case report of induced lactation in a transgender woman here.

True, but in fact just about unheard of in the real world! It may be theoretically possible (but not really successful) in a research setting, but in practice it's much more relevant (and successful) in working people up into a froth of outrage!

Transmen chestfeeding is what the policy is really about.

Appalonia · 14/11/2024 17:59

Gatecrashermum · 14/11/2024 17:21

I had assumed it was this

I am generally very inclusive and trans-positive but I find "chest-feeding" a step too far.

How many trans men will actually be using this service? It must be an absolutely tiny number. Seems silly to change all language to accommodate such a tiny minority

I think it must be incredibly hard bearing a child as a trans man, and probably extremely distressing. I'd imagine going to a class that called it "breastfeeding" would be the least of their worries

It's actually MEN, larping as women who have a fetish for being seen as women, even mothers, who have been demanding this. They take drugs to produce ' milk' ( which is obviously not breast milk, God knows what's in it, and I'm sure it's not good for babies...)

ByMerryKoala · 14/11/2024 18:01

Yeah, it's the engineered slippery language that makes these conversations almost impossible. It's not an accident, it's by design.

And yeah, men who are chemically inducing nipple discharge to make infants a prop in their gender delusion are grim. And that's the best case scenario.

Chersfrozenface · 14/11/2024 18:03

Posters bringing up transmen evidently haven't read the article linked to.

"A trustee and PR director of Britain’s oldest breastfeeding charity has resigned after it introduced an inclusivity policy that allowed men to attend support groups.

Miriam Main is leaving La Leche League GB (LLLGB) after a diktat from the global organisation elicited fears that volunteers would have to give advice to transgender women.

Directors at the charity’s British arm have already requested that the Charity Commission intervene over the inclusivity policy, which permits biological males to seek support from the organisation."

Helleofabore · 14/11/2024 18:04

This may need a content warning, so be warned this link show males talking about the amazing electric charge they get from infants feeding from their nipples amongst other things.

https://www.them.us/story/trans-women-breastfeed

This is an illuminating read and shows insight into the motivations for these male people who seek to do this.

What is very clear, is that this is NEVER about the child. This is never child centred. This is all about the male person's demands being met.

Yes, Trans Women Can Breastfeed — Here's How

Three trans women share their personal experiences with inducing lactation and breastfeeding.

https://www.them.us/story/trans-women-breastfeed

Redlarge · 14/11/2024 18:06

I think babies should only be given actual breast milk or formula. I feel awful that babies with no choice could be fed a chemically made substance and I'd worry that the long term impact isn't known. Surely the babies safety is the priority regardless of who the parent is. I couldnt breast feed and God knows I tried but feeding the baby with a bottle was still a bonding process and it can be for others.

Appalonia · 14/11/2024 18:07

It's actual child abuse.

GenerativeAIBot · 14/11/2024 18:09

username358 · 14/11/2024 17:46

I think the bigger question is: Why are people going along with this shit?

If the majority said no to a tiny minority there isn't much the minority could do. Let them set up their own fetish groups.

People are deliberately colluding with perverts in a mass delusion.

Because “be kind” I believe.

and because humans really can change sex.

and because being male or female is more sort of a feeling, than cold hard facts….

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GenerativeAIBot · 14/11/2024 18:11

CanadaNotAMum · 14/11/2024 17:50

She wouldn’t. If she’s transitioned to a woman, she would prefer the term breastfeeding more than likely. Chestfeeding is more for people who have transitioned to male but still have the ability to produce milk, even though they may have had a lot of breast tissue removed.

Is anyone going to tell them men still have breasts? And can get breast cancer? FML.

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Americano75 · 14/11/2024 18:11

I miss the days when people kept their squalid little fetishes behind closed doors. Good times.

MixedCouple2 · 14/11/2024 18:12

How much longer will people support this me talk health issue...... You give and inch hen want it all.

username358 · 14/11/2024 18:13

GenerativeAIBot · 14/11/2024 18:09

Because “be kind” I believe.

and because humans really can change sex.

and because being male or female is more sort of a feeling, than cold hard facts….

But they're not being kind to women and they're not being kind to babies and they're not being kind to staff who object. So that can't be the answer.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 14/11/2024 18:13

Namechangeforadhd · 14/11/2024 17:05

It's particularly awful given the low breastfeeding rates. It's something that is really hard for many mothers and this is just one more barrier to something which should be made easier.

Yep. This is why we can't have nice things, essentially.

BrightLemonShark · 14/11/2024 18:19

I can’t get too angry about this.
If a woman (at birth) who considers herself non binary or trans has a baby and finds it easier to feed their baby if calling it chest feeding- I’m ok with that.
I think trans women (born male) should bottle feed as like many born women they can’t produce any or enough milk.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 14/11/2024 18:21

BrightLemonShark · 14/11/2024 18:19

I can’t get too angry about this.
If a woman (at birth) who considers herself non binary or trans has a baby and finds it easier to feed their baby if calling it chest feeding- I’m ok with that.
I think trans women (born male) should bottle feed as like many born women they can’t produce any or enough milk.

LLL don't agree and think that trans women should be supported to "breastfeed".

FranticHare · 14/11/2024 18:22

username358 · 14/11/2024 18:13

But they're not being kind to women and they're not being kind to babies and they're not being kind to staff who object. So that can't be the answer.

But the women don’t count, the babies can’t say anything, and most staff are women too. They don’t count.

But you must Be Kind to the mens! They’re the ones that count!

WandsOut · 14/11/2024 18:27

In plain sight.
Endorsed by activists.
Abusive to babies.

Nikitaspearlearring · 14/11/2024 18:27

username358 · 14/11/2024 18:13

But they're not being kind to women and they're not being kind to babies and they're not being kind to staff who object. So that can't be the answer.

Yeah, but they're being kind to men, which is what's important, eh?

Hufflemuff · 14/11/2024 18:29

Gatecrashermum · 14/11/2024 17:21

I had assumed it was this

I am generally very inclusive and trans-positive but I find "chest-feeding" a step too far.

How many trans men will actually be using this service? It must be an absolutely tiny number. Seems silly to change all language to accommodate such a tiny minority

I think it must be incredibly hard bearing a child as a trans man, and probably extremely distressing. I'd imagine going to a class that called it "breastfeeding" would be the least of their worries

Exactly this!! You're gonna go through all that trauma in your life, be brave enough to come out as Trans... but the word breastfeeding will send you over the edge? Absolutely not!

How many trans people even agree/care about this change of wording? I'm sure they aren't even fussed about it and the ones that are... well. I'll leave that unsaid.

Hufflemuff · 14/11/2024 18:31

lifeturnsonadime · 14/11/2024 17:26

Mmm don't be so sure....

https://llli.org/breastfeeding-info/transgender-non-binary-parents/

From that page

Trans women can use a protocol similar to adoptive and other non-gestational mothers and stimulate their milk supply: it is called the Newman-Goldfarb protocol. You can read more here and here. A number of different protocols are described here. Our article about Breastfeeding Without Giving Birth may also be useful. Transfeminine nursing parents may also need to take the hormone spironolactone to suppress their testosterone. Read a case report of induced lactation in a transgender woman here.

"Hello... social services....yes I'd like to make a complaint please."

WHAT ON EARTH.

ShinyOtter · 14/11/2024 18:33

Even the phrase chestfeeding gives me the rage. It's so twee.

username358 · 14/11/2024 18:35

FranticHare · 14/11/2024 18:22

But the women don’t count, the babies can’t say anything, and most staff are women too. They don’t count.

But you must Be Kind to the mens! They’re the ones that count!

Exactly. It's pandering to men, not being kind. It's facilitating fetishists at the expense of everyone else.

username358 · 14/11/2024 18:37

Nikitaspearlearring · 14/11/2024 18:27

Yeah, but they're being kind to men, which is what's important, eh?

Pandering to men is not being kind, especially when babies are involved. Giving Savile a key to the children's ward wasn't being kind. That's just the way it's packaged.

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