How old is too old to have a baby?

[Shaz83]

Just wondering how old is too old to have a baby? Fair enough being healthy etc is fine.. but how old is too old?

did I say you said it’s too old…. No I didn’t… I’m saying others are using the word too old…. They need to express that in different wording… because it makes one feel they are ancient thankfully I don’t think I am….
if I turn around to you and said your too old in that context would you like it??
come to think of it I should of worded my own post differently but hey I put my hands 🙌 to that! 🤷🏻‍♀️

ok….no need to sound so angry 😡 😂

What’s weird if you don’t like what I put in my posts then why read it??why does it get you angry… when it’s nothing to do with you…. Now that’s weird lo

There was nothing weird about your og post. It's your reaction to responses!

Why do you think I'm angry? Do you get angry at mumsnet posts? I have so many things in my life to be angry or upset about and mumsnet doesn't even come close to even being on those list of things.

Such a weird thread that seems more 'netmums'...

My personal cut off was 35. I personally think 40+ is too old but that is my own personal circumstances. I didnt want to be an old mum, I wanted my kids to have time with their grandparents (they know 2 sets of great grandparents too) and grow up with their cousins.

But that suits me. I was lucky enough to find my husband early to have mine ar 32 and 35. I appreciate not everyone has that.

@FilthyforFirth love your name. Assuming we are Mr Darcy era, here? 🥰🔥

Oh ANY era! But yes, Mr Darcy is particularly pleasing!

I’m 41 and my kids have both sets of grandparents still and they do loads with them. So my kids are very lucky! To be fair! I think 6 years difference from 35 to 41 is not that big off a deal but that’s me. My opinion…

My kids have all four grandparents still, I meant they also know two out of four great grandparents as they are still around.

I think there is a big difference in six years. I was noticably more tired at 35 than I was at 32 and that was only half the time.

Seems you have already made your mind up though so not sure what purpose this thread serves.

Are you noticeably more tired though because you’ve aged 3 years, or because you’ve had 2 kids and are running around after them?

i was noticeably more tired when my kids were in primary school and I was working, keeping on to of the house, school runs etc.

now one is at uni and one doing a’levels I am much less tired as I am working, doing half the housework, no having to get up to get them ready and breakfasted and drop them at childcare/school before doing a full days work, picking them up, feed, bedtime, tidy/clean the house, go to bed, repeat. Now I get up, work, come home, gym, relaxing dinner, maybe chuck a wash on.

two of my grandparents died before I was born. My kids only had 3 grandparents before they were born. Nothing to do with age, just circumstance.

What I meant was you were not that much younger than me when you had your last. I had my daughter back in 2015 and I don’t feel any difference today…as in health wise I’m very energetic and feel great no issues whatsoever. 🙂

With me I’m very lucky because I got friends and family support my husband is fantastic everyone that knows us always compliments how lucky I am because he so hands on with the kids and is a great husband…sorry too cheesy lo..
but in general I don’t feel knackerd at all come evening time me and hubby are chilling relaxing ☺️ kids are in bed and we just chill.

Crazy how you've just answered a question not aimed at you 🤔

Yes I have but it’s my thread I created… also I’m not being rude like you…I’m being positive where as you was out right nasty 🤮

What was the point in creating this thread OP? You've taken offence at the advice that isn't in your favour. No one cares if you have a baby at 41. It's your life. All anyone else can do is answer for themselves.

How the hell was I out right nasty?

I had my first at 29 (although it was only a month off my 30th), next at 31 and last (unplanned) at 33. I would have preferred to have had them all in my 20s to be honest. Mine are now 13/15/16 but if I'd had them all in my 20s, I'd have been able to start my teaching career earlier and not be so knackered juggling everything whilst in my mid 40s!

Ur comment was irrelevant rude not even helpful nor needed. If you ain’t got anything nice or positive to say then just don’t bother ok 👍

Or anything that doesn't align with your opinions its seems.

Omg u again 😂😆

Omg there is a lot off knackered people on here! Everyone just so tired lo

Lo

Last one at 37 - I would have liked a 3rd but guess it wasn't meant to be.

There is nothing to be gained from these 'how old is too old?' threads. A close second is the 'should I have a third baby?' threads.

Why not concentrate on the baby you are having first?