How old is too old to have a baby?

[Shaz83]

Just wondering how old is too old to have a baby? Fair enough being healthy etc is fine.. but how old is too old?

There's no one size fits all answer to that question. Everyone is different. Some people slow down and are knackered in their 40s and 50s while others are still fit with boundless energy. Some people are mentally and financially ready in their 20s and 30s while for others it's not until their 40s. I had twins at 48 (IVF) and have loved every minute. I loved my 20s and 30s socialising and travelling and now I love being a mum. They are16 now , I work full time, drive them here there and everywhere but love it and don't feel I have any less energy than anyone 20 years younger so I think it just depends on the individual and their circumstances

Ok thanks for your advice.👍

Can u not read?? I have 3 under 4’s which means getting pregnant pretty much straight after….i have a 9 year old who I conceived 9 years ago u know like in 2015….. so obviously she ain’t back to back…..Why comment stating that comment anyway?? It was not useful just unnecessary Iike why read my comment and just say that?? Oh wait to make a person feel stupid or dumb… well guess what u ain’t succeeded 👍🙂

Thanks @SillyOldBucket . I have never met anyone who had a baby as old as I did (49 but was a natural surprise pregnancy as I said earlier in the thread). A part of me still feels embarrassed to be such an old mum especially as we moved a few years ago and all the mums at school seem to be in their 20s/30s. My daughter is now 7 so take heart that you are still energetic at 64 (?).

That's an odd thing to say. I'm a well educated professional, and the age I had children was something I deeply considered, which was why I wanted to be done by 25. I'm extremely glad that I decided what I did, because if I'd waited until I was 35, I wouldn't have been able to have children. Oh, and I'd be disabled too. I think it's much more sensible to have a baby at 25 than 35, if you're in the position to do so.

Why do you think it was an odd thing to say? My sisters are both well educated proffesionals who had their firsts at 30 and 35. I had mine at 21, 24 & 25 😅

I dont think the pp was saying that's the age it should be, just that's her experience of her adult children and their friends. My sisters friends have all had their DC later in life too where as most of my friends had babies around the same times as me

It just sounded odd to specify that they are well educated professionals. It implies that people who have children before that age are uneducated.

I had my first and only child 3 weeks before my 37th Birthday. My pregnancy was terrible and I spent the final 4 months in hospital in Abu Dhabi where we were living as I had complete placenta previa and placenta accreta. Do not think that had anything to do with age though but wish I had got pregnant earlier in my life.

Not at all. Just putting my observations into context. I think among those undergoing long training for medical careers especially the trend is to have children later.

Lots of angry people here!!

It's a well-known fact that university educated professionals, on average, have children later in life.

Where I work, the mothers had their babies in their late 30s / early 40s.

It wasn't an odd comment at all.

Not all ‘educated’ people have children older.
If you are 41 and contemplating your 5th child you know if you feel too old or not. If you feel you have enough energy go for it.

so true and it’s a fact!

I have a Masters degree and had my children at 28 and 32, so not all “highly educated” women have their children in their late 30s!

Lol

Lol no, to point out all your inaccuracies. Is the 9 year old actually yours? As you seem very keen to leave them out of all your descriptions of your family. I have 3 under 4, except the 9 year old. I've had back to back pregnancies, you know, except the 9 year old.

No one is leaving comments to make you look stupid, I don't think you need any help in that regard.

Is a masters highly educated?

Does it pissing matter? You don't need to be educated!

Fucking he’ll @Kneebonefuture youre looking pretty stupid yourself here… 😂

It’s not because they’re too clever to have kids younger, it’s because they’re busy doing other things than having kids, ie doing degrees.

Just like how I’m starting my career now - I’ve been busy doing other things, ie having kids.

It's a personal choice, what's too old for some is a perfect age for others. I had my last at 38. I'm still doing the school run in my mid 40s but I enjoy this stage of parenting. I have adult children who happily look after their younger sibling occasionally so I am getting the best of both worlds.

Yes she is mine and I am very lucky she is 🥰🥰🥰🥰 i have already explained my self. Now go and attack someone else u clearly got nothing else better to do 😂😂
I couldn’t care less anymore it’s getting boring now going about the same thing lol

Good for you!