If you could say something out loud you knew you could never say, what would it be?

[twistandshoutloud]

I'll go first.

I wish I could tell my SIL that I dislike her so much and I wish she'd never met my BIL. I hate that she is now part of our family. She came to disrupt our (far from perfect but lovely) family. I hate the way she treats my BIL. I hate how she makes everyone pander to her every whim. How all her messages are passive aggressive and how rude she is to my MIL. I could never say this out loud of course, but I dream of it often.

Feels good getting that out of my chest.

Anyone else feel free to add.

If you were truly her friend you would already told his this because you care about her. That's the point of friends. To give each other a wake up and look after each other. If you haven't levelled with her for her own good and own health, you're not a good friend.

Oh god @MistressoftheDarkSide . I would send you all the cat memes in the world if I could.

What a bloody awful burden. Xxxx

Thanks @Words x

I am surviving out of spite mainly xxxx

Good. You show them. 

If my darling old boy cat was still alive he would wee on them all for you. And all their texts and accoutrements. Copiously.

@MistressoftheDarkSide

I just wanted to say that writing down the hurt that my sister's husband caused was very cathartic. If I am honest, I am just sad, he should have died first (by age) but sadly she had a fast growing tumour. He was kind to her and I think probably did not cope well with being left behind but his behaviour at and around the funeral was grim.

I’d tell all the people blaming being fat on their “food noise” to shut up. If you want to lose weight then eat less, but stop expecting everyone else to believe food noise is real. Eating too much is a choice.

Your kids don’t have AuDHD, neither do you. You’re an inadequate parent and you need to grow up and pull your finger out not sit on your are scrolling fb all day

I'd tell my entire family that they need to wake up about my alcoholic father's behaviour. Just because he's dead , it doesn't mean that he lived like a saint. He deprived my mum of enough money to clothe herself appropriately , he exhausted her by expecting her to raise us independently and on a tiny budget and it's his fault that I married the first man to pay me any attention as the house was unbearable with him in it. That man went on to abuse me and ruin my 20s by the way.

I'm not allowed to say any of this and have to leave the room when they wistfully discuss how wonderful he was as a father and husband.

Thank you , that felt good to type!

Why wouldn’t you say that out loud? I do whenever I hear his music, I don’t give a fuck what his fans think.

I wish I could shout out ‘Arse crack alert!’ every time I’m ‘treated’ to the view of some workman’s hairy crack. You’re not safe anywhere from its hideous peek a boo games.

Massive agreement

This!
Makes a mockery of those actually struggling with ADHD and paints them as people who can’t behave properly!

Here is a big giant cat meme for you, you deserve it

That I have borderline personality disorder, that every day is a struggle and I’m holding down a stressful job and trying to raise my kids as a single parent as best I can and that if I don’t come to your mum drinks or remember your birthday or help with the PTA or have a perfectly clean house it’s because these things are too overwhelming and I’m drowning quietly and I’m sorry. I’m waiting for therapy but I’m in survival mode and balls are getting dropped.

To ex friend - the reason I ended our friendship is that you were abusive and mean, and I always walked away from our encounters feeling shit about myself. I tried to tell you but I wish I had been clearer with you about why we would not be seeing each other any more.

To managers at work - you are all fucking useless, stop sitting around talking to each other for hours and actually do some work. We would not be in this mess if you were not so useless and lazy.

I don't care about why your ex dumped you but I can totally see why
Leave me alone

see me I am human with feelings too .. I may not be the perfect wife or mum but can you not help or even treat me ?

Awwwwwww gorgeous 😍 thank you 😘🥰

Yeah, I guess. But it's a good ten years away and it seems a long time to wait.

There’s some posts and just one or two down form your own wishing people dead! Yes I would say they’re pretty awful.

Thanks for stating some of the obvious though.

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I would say "fuck you all!" to the people I'm thinking of

@Steppered I am so sorry. ❤️❤️❤️

No, I don't want to visit your grandchildren on Christmas Eve just because you think I'm missing out on their excitement. My own baby faded away in January; I'm trying not to dwell on what could have been, and a 'Christmassy' gathering is too much for my unhealed heart to bear. Please don't send passive-aggressive requests for my presence. I simply can't share in your joy.

I drag myself through every day. I'm waiting until I get to die. I have no intentions of actively ending things, I have two DC with additional needs to care for. That being said, I'm also a terrible mother. I genuinely do my best, but it's not enough by far. My youngest is struggling, I'm not helping her properly. I should never have had children. I know I have tanked my career, which I actually used to be good at by having DC that I'm fucking up more by the day, despite my best efforts. I hope I die young, because I can't take another half a century of this. I also dearly hope that my DC find a good support network when they're older, good people who can support them in the ways I haven't; underneath their issues, they're amazing little people who deserve so much better.