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If you could say something out loud you knew you could never say, what would it be?

726 replies

twistandshoutloud · 12/11/2024 20:58

I'll go first.

I wish I could tell my SIL that I dislike her so much and I wish she'd never met my BIL. I hate that she is now part of our family. She came to disrupt our (far from perfect but lovely) family. I hate the way she treats my BIL. I hate how she makes everyone pander to her every whim. How all her messages are passive aggressive and how rude she is to my MIL. I could never say this out loud of course, but I dream of it often.

Feels good getting that out of my chest.

Anyone else feel free to add.

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dreamer24 · 13/11/2024 19:15

MagicTheCat · 13/11/2024 17:17

I’d tell all the people blaming being fat on their “food noise” to shut up. If you want to lose weight then eat less, but stop expecting everyone else to believe food noise is real. Eating too much is a choice.

Must admit this "food noise" concept has been baffled too. Surely it's just a thought process, which one either chooses to act upon or not? Much like any other life choice. Unless I'm missing something.

dreamer24 · 13/11/2024 19:15

*has me

OhItookdelightinthat · 13/11/2024 19:21

I would tell my colleague that it was me that set up the fake IG profile and told his wife that he has been having an affair. Shitty thing to do but he is such a dick. His life has now blown up and better still he has no idea who stabbed him in the back so he is suspicious of us all. It is a delight to watch.

mymissycat · 13/11/2024 19:25

twistandshoutloud · 12/11/2024 20:58

I'll go first.

I wish I could tell my SIL that I dislike her so much and I wish she'd never met my BIL. I hate that she is now part of our family. She came to disrupt our (far from perfect but lovely) family. I hate the way she treats my BIL. I hate how she makes everyone pander to her every whim. How all her messages are passive aggressive and how rude she is to my MIL. I could never say this out loud of course, but I dream of it often.

Feels good getting that out of my chest.

Anyone else feel free to add.

I could never say this out loud of course

I think it’s incredibly sad that you don’t stand up for your MIL or anyone else when she is being rude. Sometimes in life you have to speak up and not be a doormat with a victim card. I think it’s on you to step up if you feel this way. If not you are just as bad tbh.

TheBobbysAreSurly · 13/11/2024 19:33

I'm really fond of you, but this thing you've started doing where you speak and write in the accent of some where you've never been because your birthmother ( who you have never met or spoken to ) was from there is well weird and doing my head in!

Jeneregretterien9 · 13/11/2024 19:34

Comtesse · 13/11/2024 15:16

Anyone who voted for Donald Trump is a loon.

Regardless of your views & I don't wish to publicise mine for or against, it's undeniable 72 million Americans voted for him

XChrome · 13/11/2024 19:50

To the people complaining about the thread or being offended by other people's rants, the whole point of the thread is to be able to say what you feel without being crapped on for it. So stop crapping on them.
There are going to be things you disagree with on such a thread, and if you take offence so easily, maybe you should move the fuck along and let others rant in peace. You have a lot of gall disrupting a thread where others are talking about the most heart-wrenching experiences just for the sake of making your pointless, petty complaints. People feel how they feel. Get over it.

Please note; comments are fine, but criticism of the way people feel, on a thread devoted to the free expression of our feelings, is quite another.

XChrome · 13/11/2024 19:52

OhItookdelightinthat · 13/11/2024 19:21

I would tell my colleague that it was me that set up the fake IG profile and told his wife that he has been having an affair. Shitty thing to do but he is such a dick. His life has now blown up and better still he has no idea who stabbed him in the back so he is suspicious of us all. It is a delight to watch.

Not a shitty thing to do. You did right and I'd be enjoying watching his fall from grace, too.

Lisanoonan · 13/11/2024 19:54

Jeneregretterien9 · 13/11/2024 19:34

Regardless of your views & I don't wish to publicise mine for or against, it's undeniable 72 million Americans voted for him

Because they are like him. Obviously they were going to vote for him.

XChrome · 13/11/2024 20:00

Namechangeweds · 13/11/2024 15:03

Help me

What do you need help with, love? Can any of us help?

Surprisedcupcake · 13/11/2024 20:02

To an ex friend - no one cares about your sodding 'mental health' it's been years of you assassinating every interaction and we're all bored! Your blatant attempts to goad people into talking about your therapy sessions, your sex life or your self harm sessions are pathetic. You need to grow up, take some responsibility and for god's sake stop burping and farting every two seconds, it's revolting and you're not Homer Simpson. You've destroyed our entire friendship group because everyone is sick of you, how have you not figured this out yet you self absorbed nob!! Everyone else is was not put on this earth t pander to you and your non-issues!

LondonFox · 13/11/2024 20:08

Lisanoonan · 13/11/2024 13:28

I'm in Spain . There's loads of English people living here in Spain, that can't speak Spanish

Idiotic isn't it?

mymissycat · 13/11/2024 20:12

Lisanoonan · 13/11/2024 13:28

I'm in Spain . There's loads of English people living here in Spain, that can't speak Spanish

The English people should go back to where they came from.

mymissycat · 13/11/2024 20:13

Jeneregretterien9 · 13/11/2024 19:34

Regardless of your views & I don't wish to publicise mine for or against, it's undeniable 72 million Americans voted for him

Because they are loonies just like him.

PollyValente · 13/11/2024 20:13

I hardly know where to start....

I love you, but I know what impossible is, too.

I think I'm fundamentally unlovable anyway -my parents neither liked or loved me, ànd nor have two husbands. I'm not arrogant enough to believe everyone else is wrong, so there it is.
Sometimes I think I'm actually becoming completely transparent- I look down and I'm surprised I can't see through my hand.
I guess at least I can be useful.

Lisanoonan · 13/11/2024 20:16

mymissycat · 13/11/2024 20:13

Because they are loonies just like him.

Hasn't trump just passed something- to make it impossible for him to be charged with any crime while he's president.

How is that normal. So he can rape someone if he wants to now?

SunCreamQueenie · 13/11/2024 20:16

The reason you have no friends, your family has disowned you, and you're four times divorced is because you are so horrible to everyone.

Zae134 · 13/11/2024 20:17

I would stop forcing patience constantly with some of my teenage students and tell them when they're being an utter prick, that teachers are human beings and they should be absolutely ashamed of the way they speak to us and the personal abuse they give us. I would tell them that this is merely my job, and I should be saving all my patience and compassion for my own children, but instead I use it up every day on students who treat me (and other children) like garbage, then I go home and be ratty with my own family who show me only love. That I comfort myself with the fact that, one day, you will do this in a pub and someone will punch you for it.
(FYI I have never and would never say any of this in class)

BustyLaRoux · 13/11/2024 20:21

BullyBossCoping · 13/11/2024 18:19

There’s some posts and just one or two down form your own wishing people dead! Yes I would say they’re pretty awful.

Thanks for stating some of the obvious though.

That’s OK. Any time sweetie x

cookiebee · 13/11/2024 20:26

Weight loss literally is as simple as taking in less calories, calorie deficit equals weight loss everything else is just an excuse!

BullyBossCoping · 13/11/2024 20:27

BustyLaRoux · 13/11/2024 20:21

That’s OK. Any time sweetie x

Oh you’re one of those. Pass agg when called out for stupidity.

Lisanoonan · 13/11/2024 20:28

cookiebee · 13/11/2024 20:26

Weight loss literally is as simple as taking in less calories, calorie deficit equals weight loss everything else is just an excuse!

Who were you replying to?

I scrolled back and can't see it

cookiebee · 13/11/2024 20:33

Lisanoonan · 13/11/2024 20:28

Who were you replying to?

I scrolled back and can't see it

Nobody!

Lisanoonan · 13/11/2024 20:35

cookiebee · 13/11/2024 20:33

Nobody!

oh right! I got confused. I forgot this is a thread where people are just writing what they want to say.

twistandshoutloud · 13/11/2024 20:35

mymissycat · 13/11/2024 19:25

I could never say this out loud of course

I think it’s incredibly sad that you don’t stand up for your MIL or anyone else when she is being rude. Sometimes in life you have to speak up and not be a doormat with a victim card. I think it’s on you to step up if you feel this way. If not you are just as bad tbh.

How do you know we’ve never stood up for her? Every time we’ve tried to do or say something my SIL kicks off and then threatens to cut the relationship of my MIL with her grandchildren. I’m not going to be the one responsible for that.

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