If you could say something out loud you knew you could never say, what would it be?

[twistandshoutloud]

I'll go first.

I wish I could tell my SIL that I dislike her so much and I wish she'd never met my BIL. I hate that she is now part of our family. She came to disrupt our (far from perfect but lovely) family. I hate the way she treats my BIL. I hate how she makes everyone pander to her every whim. How all her messages are passive aggressive and how rude she is to my MIL. I could never say this out loud of course, but I dream of it often.

Feels good getting that out of my chest.

Anyone else feel free to add.

I’m going to add some more:

To the same friend that has spent years cheating on her partner… you keep slagging off our mutual friend for putting on you too much. Her DM is very poorly and it’s not looking like she is going to pull through. Our mutual friend thinks you’re being very supportive but I know that you’re bitching about her constantly for having to ‘check she is ok every day’ or for taking her phone calls when she is upset and she has no idea you feel that way because of how two faced you are.

To my most recent ex… even though you have treated me like shit almost constantly for months. I still miss you. I am coming to the conclusion that I am better off out of it and I haven’t said one bad word about you to any of our mutual friends. I don’t think there is any point as they won’t believe me. I hate you and miss you in equal measure.

To my other friend - I hate your husband, he is a very nasty piece of work and I suspect he is abusing you.

nothing

PIL - You treated your son/my beloved DH despicably growing up, and are the reason he suffered from years of depression. You let your pathetic existence of a dog attack my child, excused it, and have treated it with greater love and concern than you have ever shown your grandchildren. I'm so glad we no longer have anything to do with you.

BIL (and wife) - Having maxed out on a huge mortgage on an overpriced terraced house in the south-east does not make you appear successful (considering you had to cancel the extension because you can no longer afford it). Perhaps teach your child that there is more to life than 'keeping up with the Jones's'. Oh, and we have not forgotten your shameful behaviour, before, at, and after our wedding.

I'd tell my mum the reason I don't invite her anywhere is because of how she eats. It's disgusting, always has been. I asked her many times growing up to sort it out but she just laughed, with a mouthful of food.

I know one of these too 🤦‍♀️

To my last store manager who bullied me, making my MH bad (left at early last month), has no clue how to manage staff or the store. I am the 9th colleague to leave under his management due to his behaviour and he made the same ratio leave at previous manager role. He doesn't rotate fresh, bread or produce. He boasts how wonderful he is

I would said something like "Wonderful? Yeah wonderful at making staff upset, leave, customers going elsewhere (I have seen them shopping at other competitors - not been in my work or other stores since I left). Wonderful at creating waste, yet bollock the staff who take off stuff out of the chillers and rotate it". "You are the worst manager that (company) has ever had"

If I said that to him when I was working, I would be dismissed without warning.

to my brother whom i love dearly, your adult children are spoilt and lazy thanks to you and you're people pleasing wife !

Ditto this. She's ruined my youth and still trying to manage the issues from that time.

Learn to manage your emotions. I am fed up with you phoning in sick to work.

No, you didn't do that crappy behaviour because of your self-diagnosed ND or alcohol intake.
You did it because you are a crappy person.
Stop trying to excuse your behaviour or expect exceptions to be made.

To my late aunt's husband

"Why the fuck didn't you inform my mother that her sister died?"

I know they haven't been in touch for 6 years, she died 3 years ago. Last few Xmas cards were signed by him. DM googled her name - its easy as aunt had an usual middle name. Found out she died and ordered a death certificate for curiosity - she used me as an excuse as I could have developed whatever she died of. As heard of aunts/nieces having the same inherited illness (yet mother is ok) Nope its not an inherited but an awful illness that makes you lose the ability to function well. One of the first symptoms is inability to write which explains a lot as she didn't write cards for the last 6-7 years of her life. That is the timeframe gap between diagnosed and dying.

How could you have sent me to boarding school? Away from all my family, friends, pets, toys, bedroom and the simple things which we take for granted? To live with a bunch of strangers - nobody there who loves me, cares about me or asks if I am okay. Woken up by bells; punished for the most minor things. Kept so busy we never relaxed. Then move house so I had zero friends, when I did see you 15% of the year. "Holidays" became hell too. You seem to think I enjoyed it but what choice did I have other than to comply, while parts of me died inside.

I want to push you away now, but feel guilty. I can't tell you how I feel, because even now, I don't want to upset you. I was assaulted when I was there. Picked on frequently. I've been left with zero coping mechanisms and what the world sees is a total fake. I worry I'm messing my kids up and driving people away because I don't know how to be, or how to maintain relationships. Also, I know you love my sibling more, you don't have to be so obvious about it.

Nah be brave and say that because why you hiding maybebuts because you know he's an absolute cretin and was disgusting in what he said. Why hide it if I voted trump or liked him from the uk i wouldn't give a dam . However if I know deep down that he is disgraceful and offensive but deep down I like that that's why I would hide
Maybe yiu just a chicken because I am not scared to say he's an arsehole just discussing him now in hospital

I'd tell my friend I don't give a flying fuk about how many kms she ran and when she got her personal best, I don't care and never will

Secretly these types love that i love getting it over the liberal types just to chicken to say that outside of social media.

i would say that I judge you all if you are driving a diesel.

i would also say that I know you are a social climber

You're blind because you didn't pay attention to your Glaucoma diagnosis 20+ years ago and accused my mother of "nagging" when she used to prompt you to take your drops. You knew best, right?
No point giving it the "why meeeee?" because I know fine well why you.

Genuine Question.
How do people with your views rationalise the biggest consumer of animals are other animals. They rip them apart in the most inhumane way & they couldn't survive without eating each other.

I'd tell both of my parents and my brother that they made my life a living hell, and that they can pretend all they want, but I know they did it on purpose. I know they wish terrible things on me, and I'd like to say I hope they rot, but I don't. I don't wish anything on them at all - they are scum under my feet and nothing more.

Please stop moaning on Facebook about how you don't have enough time, money and space to yourself when you CHOSE to have six children and encouraged your eldest daughter to try for a baby when she was 16 "because it's what we do in our family - we start young and have lots!" and openly state that you "feel sorry" for women who only have one or two children.

If having a big family is really so great, you really aren't selling it.

(I'm usually an each to their own kind of person but have limited sympathy for those who make choices and then gripe about them to all and sundry especially if it involves children.)

I'm so sorry for this ❤️ Wishing you peace and healing x

Well, we humans have the power to reason and stuff, right? Most other animals are just doing what they do without a thought.

Also, animals that are killed by other animals in the wild have lived the way nature intended them to up until the point of death. they aren't being factory-farmed and abused. I suppose if you only eat meat you've hunted yourself, and killed quick and clean, that's one thing, but it's not how most people source their meat.

Help me

To parents who continue to have more children when they are incapable in controlling their behaviour.

Why have more?

I would also say to my spirit guides:

Please help me and give advice