If you could say something out loud you knew you could never say, what would it be?

[twistandshoutloud]

I'll go first.

I wish I could tell my SIL that I dislike her so much and I wish she'd never met my BIL. I hate that she is now part of our family. She came to disrupt our (far from perfect but lovely) family. I hate the way she treats my BIL. I hate how she makes everyone pander to her every whim. How all her messages are passive aggressive and how rude she is to my MIL. I could never say this out loud of course, but I dream of it often.

Feels good getting that out of my chest.

Anyone else feel free to add.

That I'm absolutely delighted that Trump won!

I really hate when people employed in a restaurant/shop/delivery do not know the language of a country they live in.
Surely you cannot integrate without it.

I would say that no matter how many times people say to me about a certain thing that "it's ok", it isn't. It's not ok and it never will be, so I'd like them to stop saying it when they know it's not true.

Ugh. Why?

You know Trump was convicted of felonies.

I saw that he had now got the USA to pass a new rule saying that presidents can't be charged with crimes.

Is that not really corrupt?

I’d tell ‘him’ that I love him and I wish we were together 😢

I'm in Spain . There's loads of English people living here in Spain, that can't speak Spanish

@Chemtrailsarereal I'm a Commie harridan, is that better? 😁

It's also much easier to pick a language up once you're living in a place too.

You write about love, you're acclaimed as a genius - but you're too much of a wimp to actually experience it.

People think you're whimsical and lovely, but you're a serial user of women and I'm always expecting you to be involved in a #metoo moment. It lasted a decade with me, and there were doubtless others concurrently - you told me about some of them. You said one of your best friends had messaged you on the eve of her wedding, because if there was even a tiny chance you'd commit to her, she'd call off the marriage.

You'd say it was consensual. At that time in my life, though, I was too mentally unwell to cut you off. Simultaneously desperate for you to not cut me off / for me to get some sort of revenge, I decided I'd tell YOU a lovely, whimsical story. I catfished you for a few years, before anyone called it that. You eventually found out.

I've been in therapy for more than five years now, sorting out the stuff which made me ill, and am much better. Can't talk to the therapist about this, though - it's a completely different level of deep shame, what I was reduced to by your behaviour.

I think if you messaged me now though, I would be desperate for all of it to happen again.

PHEW.

That I hate hate hate the Moderna vaccine for what it has done to my son's health. I am not a vaccine denier, but he is now in his fourth hospital stay after the initial stay (immediately after the vaccine) and it's not fucking funny at all. 22 years old.

I think it's very difficult to learn a language.

It's not like just learning a list of facts and repeating them in a test.

I've been trying to learn spanish for five years and I'm still not good.

Languages are so hard, they are like complex mathematics. If this word changes, then this word must change, and the ending of that word must change.

My health went totally down hill after taking the vaccine. I wish I hadn't taken it too.

"I know you were upset about your husband leaving you but that was over 20 years ago and you still talk about it all the time. I wish that you could find a way to move past it. I also wish that you could see that your financial set-up after divorce was really positive because as well as maintenance you've never had to pay a mortgage or rent, but you are trapped in the narrative you've created about how poor you are."

To my sister, the reason you have argued and fallen out with everyone ever. Is because you are spoilt bitch. Not because a private doctor has now at the age of 38 diagnosed you as autistic.

To MIL, you allowed your son to experience abuse. You allowed your husband to chain smoke in the house, smoke pot in the house and scare your son. You are not a good person. Despite being a primary school teacher and a good one apparently.

I agree, I just meant, just because people can't speak the language right now, doesn't mean they never will. The more they're immersed, the easier it will be.

To not beat about the bush and to actually say, your child is obese and will have a life time of issues if you don't try and address her weight. That the truth is at such a young age she's already having some physical issues, it would hugely help if she lost weight.
This is one of the reasons (only one) that I've had to step away from our friendship

One day, you'll be dead and I'll be able to breathe for the first time in my life.

Personally l don’t feel that saying someone is brave, is then going to trigger a person to do this, as you know its far more complex.I’ve also lost a dear friend.l do understand.

This thread is really refreshing. Also little bits of wisdom and advice to take from the things left unsaid.

To my grandmother. I loved you. And no one can take that away from me.

Even though people kept us away from each other.

‘FGS, please wear a longer top to cover your colossal arse! And some thicker tights or leggings! Other people really do NOT want to see every last wobble of your humungous bottom!’

I'm really sorry I hurt you and I wish I could take it back. I hope one day we can be together again. If we can, I'll never take you for granted again. I'm so sorry.

I think the issue with suicide is that it takes a lot, a real real herculean effort to overcome that automatic switch in us that grasps at survival. It takes a lot of guts and willpower to knowing you are overriding that life instinct, and it will be final. And do it. As someone who has seriously contemplated doing it numerous times but never been 'brave' enough to go through with it, it does imo take a level of bravery to push past that strong last line of instinct knowing its finality. Yes it hurts those that are left behind, no argument there. But I too have always thought it takes a very brave person and a strong person to push through that finality with full knowledge of what it means for you.

I want to tell my brother that abandoning our Mum just after she had a stroke is unforgivable. Leaving all the work and responsibility to his autistic sister is not okay. Ignoring Mum's calls is shockingly cruel. Your boundaries are completely at my expense. You know I can't abandon her because unlike you I am not a cunt.

I know about your massive lies over the years and that you financially exploited my Dad and never paid back his money, leaving my parents struggling financially until Dad died.

I want to tell you that you have told so many lies that I can't believe anything you say any more.

And your girlfriend is just as much a cunt as you are.

Mum is trying to call you again today, still thinking you must be desperately ill. You are cruel and cowardly and have done so much harm.

To the family members that were cruel to me after my dad's suicide, fuck you - you cold cruel heartless mother fuckers.