If you could say something out loud you knew you could never say, what would it be?

[twistandshoutloud]

I'll go first.

I wish I could tell my SIL that I dislike her so much and I wish she'd never met my BIL. I hate that she is now part of our family. She came to disrupt our (far from perfect but lovely) family. I hate the way she treats my BIL. I hate how she makes everyone pander to her every whim. How all her messages are passive aggressive and how rude she is to my MIL. I could never say this out loud of course, but I dream of it often.

Feels good getting that out of my chest.

Anyone else feel free to add.

Was going to write similar I do have borderline personality disorder so maybe that’s part of it but quite frankly I have no filter. I don’t have tact and I am a marmite character you like me or you hate me but I will tell people what I think people say that’s really good because it’s honest some people don’t like that but then they’re not holding onto stuff that I’m reading on here..
I don’t get why some people don’t say stuff because even if you get backlash from it, you’re being bloody honest. I’ve often said to people when I used to work if you don’t like me, let me know then we don’t have to deal with each other. All we will do each other in a civilised way that is how I think people should be but unfortunately you live in a world where people can’t be honest.

Sorry, back again! Just wanted to scream- so exhausted, don’t have the money, can’t pay. Tired of fake smiling but going to go home and bake fairy cakes😅Hugs to everyone on the thread x

@Anotherworrier Your sister is a dick for telling you that, I don't care about her intentions in doing so nor the context. Absolute dick

I know our relationship isn't what you want, but this is what you get when you raise your eldest child within an abusive marriage and are completely oblivious to the damage it is doing to them. You dumped me as soon as the marriage was over and left me to struggle my way into adult life on my own. You were horrible to my youngest child, trying to make my eldest your golden child. The funny thing is that she doesn't even like you. She doesn't trust you and never has.

I don't want to hurt you. I never have. But this shit has to end, and it's ending with me, and if our relationship is the price of that, then that's the price I'm willing to pay.

@MermaidMummy06 Your parents have a right to know!

Now that is something you really should be communicating with them, and even if there’s a backlash to it you really should

I have fallen for you. And it hurts.

I would ask my mum why she told my eldest that I favour my youngest.

And do you have access to these kids' medical records?

To ask my DH mother why she walked out on her DKs, not ever allowed to speak of it,to tell her where we were getting married, and sticking to it. To tell all dhs relatives who are gradually stopping the Christmas cards that they were lied to regarding why we went NC with mil bio sil, they would have heard one version which isn't true.

This in heaps about my daughters father.

You're incompetent, you're boring and you stink. I could go on. Thankfully I am free of you. The only reason I found sex painful with you is that you never got me wet enough. I don't have that problem with my new lover who can get me wet just in conversation, and shags me senseless several times a day. Bye!

To my former best friend. You don't love me as much as you claim you do. You see me as weak, you don't respect me, you don't respect anything I have done to better my life. You mock me. I know that you are waiting for me to fail again, that you relish my struggles. That's why I stopped telling you about them, because it's just schadenfreud to you. I wish I'd seen earlier that this is what you've done to any and all friends you've had.

You hate the fact I had a child, you make "jokey" comments about me ruining my life, and you ruined my wedding with your antics.

Now you have decided that you are trans in yet another ploy for attention. You lie and are a bully. You are just lazy and self-centred, and I'm done making excuses for you. You are abusive to your husband. You negelct your pets. You lie to your mother and mooch off of her, taking and taking from her and everyone around you, but never, ever giving.

I am heartbroken that our 20 years as friends comes to this, more disrespect, mockery and manipulation. I wish that all these negative feelings made it easier to completely forget about you and turn away.

No, you are not born in the wrong body. It's just horrible being a teenager and feeling like an alien due to your body changing. You can do whatever you want to do in life without changing pronouns. It just make you a PITA to be around.

Big tatoos, lip fillers, botox and fake boobs will make me think that you are not an interesting person to be around. I will be polite but avoid you.

What's worse is when those closest are comforted by knowing the exact reason, possibly undisclosed & untreatable illness but they refuse to share it. The 'others' are left to make up their own minds,often correct but never proven & they are simply left in limbo. There is nothing brave about that scenario.

I’m so depressed, I’m stuck in grief and don’t know how to get over it. I feel guilty I’m shutting people out, I feel guilty that I’m not embracing life after loosing someone and I feel angry that no one has noticed.

well won't they find out when you split up?

This.
I feel your pain.
Narcissistic mother (another country).
❤️

That I absolutely hate the SEND team in my LA with all my being. I cannot understand how they claim to care about children and young people with SEND (and parents) when their actions (and usually inaction) says otherwise. I cannot understand why they cannot do their jobs, I have to do mine! And that others just do not understand the absolute exhaustion and slog of what is always a fight for supporting your child. There is no support.

I would imagine that many people who work in retail and/or hospitality feel the same. I really don't know why some people ever bothered to breed, should have kept your knickers on and done the world a favour!

Not all people should be parents (runs off to hide)

I know your DS has SN but please, please stop him hurting his Sister to get his own way. Your DS wants to play alone with you so he hurts her and you send her indoors, you've basically taught him that hurting her gets him his own way, worse still everytime you tell her he didn't mean it. I'm sure being his Dad isn't easy and that you want to keep him calm but it's not fair to your DD

To my MIL...I will always blame you for not leaving your husband the moment he hit any of your children. You are the reason your children have grown up with hang ups and without knowing what a childhood was. They were abused and you had a choice - there was no excuse. I will always be angry with you and only see you to keep my husband happy.

I lost 4 extremely close relatives within 18 months so I can relate to how you feel. One was relatively young & very sudden. It would be wrong to say you get over it but you can learn to embrace the memories & live the life they would wish for you. You haven't mentioned how long it's been since you lost the person. It's been 3 years for me & I am now enjoying life again. It definitely feels different & there is a void that can never be filled but you can get there. I hope you waken up one day & say to yourself I owe it to the person who has had to leave us to be happy again & live my best life.