If you could say something out loud you knew you could never say, what would it be?

[twistandshoutloud]

I'll go first.

I wish I could tell my SIL that I dislike her so much and I wish she'd never met my BIL. I hate that she is now part of our family. She came to disrupt our (far from perfect but lovely) family. I hate the way she treats my BIL. I hate how she makes everyone pander to her every whim. How all her messages are passive aggressive and how rude she is to my MIL. I could never say this out loud of course, but I dream of it often.

Feels good getting that out of my chest.

Anyone else feel free to add.

Stop parking like twats. Just because you've put your hazards on, it doesn't mean you haven't parked like a twat

I’d tell people to stop complaining and take personal responsibility for bad decisions they’ve made in the past that have now come back to haunt them.

I could have wrote your entire post, except brother not sister!

Gosh all these people with friends they don't like!
To my "friend" I don't trust you as you overstep boundaries and are always happy when im down.

I'd tell my mother that the reason l 'don't want a family' is because she terrified me with horror stories about childbirth when l was fifteen. She asked me if me not wanting children was the reason why my marriage broke up.
And that telling me 'don't bother having kids, they're nothing but bother' around the same time. I'm an only child.

This. I really can’t believe people can live with themselves - the daily torture of animals which is at the centre of industrial farming makes me want to sob and rage. And the utter hypocrisy of pet owners who make a distinction between their adorable pooch and all those animals that live lives of terror and despair - you disgust me.

I wish I could tell her she's the reason our entire department is so unhappy.

To my (soon to be ex) husband (currently going through a divorce):
We are not, and never will be, friends.
We did not "separate". It was NOT a joint decision, so stop telling people that blatant lie. I left you (twice) with support from a domestic abuse charity. The first time was to stay in refuge with our daughter for 2 weeks.
Having mental health problems isn't an excuse for treating me and other people like s.
If it wasn't for us sharing a child together, I would have NOTHING to do with you.
You're lucky I've not reported you to the police (yet) for the s you put me through.
Our daughter is not an excuse for you to not work anymore so get off your lazy a**e and get a job.
I know what you're doing when you try to control me even now...it's not going to work.

I'd like to tell someone at work this too

That your "health and wellness business" is a stupid MLM and you looked much much better before you started on their stupid diet plan.

That DS is my child and I'll make my own decisions about raising him. Yes I'm younger than you (I'm 36!) and a first time mum, but I'm finding things that work for us. He's my baby and I know him best. Also me getting my tubes tied is something I wanted doing five years ago and then the pandemic happened, so I never got around it. I might have regretted it, but I wouldn't have got pregnant while on the pill, had a miscarriage and then really wanted to have a baby, which is what led me to having DS in the first place! But I don't want another baby.

If you always feel like you're surrounded by idiots, then you're probably the idiot.

I forgot one…

Ex-friend - Despite us not being friends anymore, I am genuinely sorry that you had to go through what you did with your health many years ago. But the key point here is many years ago. The reality is, you’ve been fit for work for well over a decade now - you just thought you were too good for it. You are very academically bright, but turning your nose up at any job that wasn’t in line with your expectations was very foolish. If, in 2012, you’d accepted that you’d had two years out of the work force and needed to take what you could get, you could have used it as a springboard and got somewhere. Instead you sit in an inherited house, scraping by one benefits, bitterly complaining about how the world doesn’t value intelligence and potential and only wants soulless drones who’ll clock in and clock out without ever questioning anything… and still think it’s the world's fault you’re not rich and happy, and that all the people who cut you out of their lives just couldn’t handle someone as unique as you.

My mum was absolutely terrified I would get pregnant as a teenager. It would ruin my education. She desperately wanted me to be a career girl, and she got her wish.
But that fear never left me and I never had children.
I was far too sensible and measured as a teenager to get pregnant and when there was an occasion where there might have been an issue, I got the morning after pill.
And I’m not judging anyone who did get pregnant, by the way. It literally only takes once, and accidents do happen.
I sometimes wonder what my children might have been like. I try not to think about it too much now, I am well past menopause and the chance has gone.
One of my closest friends got pregnant at 16. It caused quite the scandal in our very Catholic community.
She is still with the baby’s dad, they are married, have four other children and now a whole tribe of grandkids.
Her dad was brilliant about it at the time and said to her…
I know your mother wants an extension over the garage but in never knew you’d be in on it! They welcomed the baby with open arms, her parents, and that love and support was a model for a young couple.

My whole workplace thinks you're amazing, special and talented. You've won so many industry awards, and the CEO calls your name in every speech. But I know you're a liar, sleaze and harassed multiple women in the previous place we worked. Even abusing some of them.

I know you know I know - and are terrified I'm going to "out" you at some point

Oh definitely this. Every day in my line of work, unfortunately by the time they leave home the damage is often already done. A few months ago a teacher did say we don't think your DC has ADHD or ASD we think the trauma he has experienced in the family should be explored first. Brave teacher, I so admired her though.

There's no such person as a single/lone parent.

You're either
Unmarried.
Separated.
Divorced.
Widowed/Widower.

I hate dogs. Please stop trying to bring your dog to my home. I don’t bring my pets to your home; please respect my space and boundaries. Your dog won’t die if left at home for a few hours.

Darling friend, the abuse you went through was awful but you have to find a better way to protect your kids. You are feeding your anxiety and eating disorders down to them.

Mum, no you don’t know “exactly” what it’s like to have your husband implode into addiction and die leaving you with two young kids. Stop telling me that, exchange eye rolls with my dad and then going back to you happy marriage, telling me things are only hard if I let them be.

To me, be careful, take care of yourself too and remember your advice to your friend. Try not to pass it down

I don't get this, your marital status has nothing to do with your parenting status. I mean if you want to take this the whole way, you are either cohabiting with someone or you are not, what is the importance of marital status?

WTAF have you just emailed me with a 2h deadline to complete actions that my incompetent boss should be doing that I have no oversight of. AAAArrrrrgghhhh!

Agree! I use single cos seeing people’s reaction every time I say widowed and they look at my primary age DC is exhausting

To my dm - the outdated ideas about dating and sex you shared with me when I was eleven really scarred me. You were trying to put me off having sex before marriage, but all you taught me was that women owe men sex in a relationship and a woman is not required to enjoy sex. I wasted my early twenties with a man who only cared about his sexual gratification because I thought I was damaged goods and no one else would want me.

Also, you were disappointed when I finally broke up with said man because he seemed perfect. You spent years reminding me of what I had ‘lost’ and I could never tell you the real reason I left him.

I want to be in your lives, I love you.
But by staying with your abuser you've made this all but impossible

To a long-ago ex partner, I hope you get the retirement you deserve.

To a "luminary in the field"...you've gotten there by bullying people out of it, and your subsequent loneliness is of your own making.

To another "luminary in the field"...you are not a champion for women. You are a champion for trying to seduce women and have them do your work for you.

To my dear friend with health problems...you are severely overworking, causing illness, and though people have told you that, you continue. You either have a work addiction problem or a home avoidance problem. Figure that out and take some time off before it kills you.

To my brother who unsuccessfully tried to steal my inheritance, ghosted me, and whose life has not turned out as he envisioned. Karma is a b, isn't it?

To past managers, bullying your staff is not a robust management style, it is just cruel and nasty. Grow up and learn some empathy.